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Whats your DH/DP attitude towards your size?

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jenk1 · 20/01/2006 22:19

since meeting DH 6 years ago i have put on 2 stone.

I have tried various diets and i always lose some weight but then get bored and think i can do it on my own.

Dh says that the only person who has a problem with my weight is me-he loves me for who i am and not my size.

Is this the same with other peoples Dh/Dp or do they encourage you to lose weight and does it work if they do?

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Yorkiegirl · 20/01/2006 22:21

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 20/01/2006 22:24

My DP thinks we are both lardy bums and need to diet. (We kinda do really). He was 11 stone when we met and is now 18 stone. I was 11 stone and am now 13.5 stone.

Im not so bothered about my size (16/18) but he is bothered about his and i think he mentions mine because of how he feels about himself IYSWIM.

Auntymandy · 20/01/2006 22:25

Mine says I am gorgeous just the way I am! He encourages me when I try to loose weight, but says not to do it for him!

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jenk1 · 20/01/2006 22:25

which diet did you do YG?

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misdee · 20/01/2006 22:28

dh loves me whatever size i am ,but says if i am unhappy with my size, then do soemthign about it as he doesnt like to see me unhappy.

i am unhappy with his current size. he is 6ft and weighs around 10/11stone. he is v ill and has caused his weightloss. and i dont like seeing him skinny, he just feels all bony. he usually weighs around 13stone. which i like.

Kathlean · 20/01/2006 22:35

lol isn't it funny how peoples weight can be so different. DP is 6'3" he weghs around 12 stone which for him is fat (-:

I am very over weight, I know DP would like me to lose a bit mainly for health reasons to start with. He doesn't say anything as he doesn't want to upset me but just suppports me when I try to exercise/diet.

LeftOverTurkey · 21/01/2006 00:19

I am married to a stick insect. 6ft and 9 stone.

flutterbee · 21/01/2006 00:25

dh loves me the way I am and trust me there is lots to love, he's a real skinny milinky can't put any weight on at all.

Meanoldmummy · 21/01/2006 01:14

dh is a sweetie-pie...he is dotty about me and loves me whatever I do. I've never had anyone give a rat's ass for me before, and I'm still not used to it...what's really amazing is seeing him love our children like that too. I really feel I've given them something beautiful. I think I could double in size and he would just grow longer arms

bumpybel · 21/01/2006 01:19

Meanoldmummy, thats lovely... you sound well secure. I'm a bit paranoid of dh not liking me as much with expanding tummy.. baby due in July. He's very caring but keeps hinting he wants me to get back to normal again after baby.. no pressure then!!!

Meanoldmummy · 21/01/2006 01:24

bumpybel - I reckon most men are a little alarmed about the expanding figure before the baby comes, but once they see the result they often become much more mellow!!! My DH did, anyway...when I was carrying DS1 he used to tease me a bit and call me "eggnant"!! Now he doesn't mind my stretch marks (calls them "raspberry ripple"!) If your DP really pressurises you to lose weight, tell him to sod off. Unless he wants to give birth to the next one himself

Mytwopenceworth · 21/01/2006 01:31

forgiving. as long as he doesnt have to look he can cope.

chipmonkey · 21/01/2006 01:48

Dh hints gently if I put on too much weight but more for health reasons.

Charlee · 21/01/2006 08:09

Jenk my dp is exactly the same! I dont look obese but i am 4 stone over weight for my height. He makes sure i eat 3 meals a day and gets upset if i say im fat. He just says he loves as i am and i shouldnt change for the world. Hes a realy honey he loves me me flab and all!

stephanie21 · 21/01/2006 08:18

i was saying one day that i was going to start going to weight watchers.(been before and put weight on!!got underactive thyroid so that doesnt help!)anyway,he kept making excuses for me not to go (such as he had planned to fix someones car,or he'd be late home-best one was 'what if the baby cries?'pick her up and bloody see to her!!)after a few days of me going on about it,he finally told me that he didnt want me to lose weight as he was scared i would leave him for someone else!so being the size i am (good day 18,bad day 20)means that no-one would find me attractive enough does it??i think not matey!!MEN!!

cathyspam · 21/01/2006 08:40

I am very overweight and a size 18-20 and DH is also a big lad at 6ft 3" and 18 stone although he is very muscular he has a belly! He loves me as I am and finds me attractive but would like us both to lose weight for health reasons as would I - we are trying the Paul McKenna thing at the moment and both lost some weight.

Yorkiegirl · 21/01/2006 08:40

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amanda1 · 21/01/2006 11:24

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Meanoldmummy · 21/01/2006 11:27

amanda1 what a tosspot.... sounds to me as though you are very slim!!! He must have had something badly wrong with him to bully you like that.

WideWebWitch · 21/01/2006 11:30

Dh has loved me whatever weight I've been, from a size 12 when we met to an 18 when pg and, ahem, for longer than I care to remember afterwards. It makes it far harder to diet in a way though because he loves me and fancies me whatever weight I am.

Hayls · 21/01/2006 11:32

He admits he liked my size better when we met 8 years ago (8-10)but obviously still fancies me now! Bizarre thing is I don't weigh much more now (1/2 stone max) but I'm a totally different shape post-dd and definitely not size 8! He's more concerned that I'm not fit enough because I don't do enough exercise but I don't think he'd mind what weight I was as long as I was healthy.

WideWebWitch · 21/01/2006 11:32

Dh is one of those annoying tall ones who can eat what he likes and not put on weight too, he is slim.

kama · 21/01/2006 11:42

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Seashells · 21/01/2006 11:56

Dp doesnt care how big I get. I've got big in the past and wish he would support me a little more, like not bringing me 'treats' such as big bars of chocolate.
When I got down to a size 8, this was the one and only time he ever commented on my size and said I was too skinny.

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