Whats your DH/DP attitude towards your size?

[jenk1]

since meeting DH 6 years ago i have put on 2 stone.

I have tried various diets and i always lose some weight but then get bored and think i can do it on my own.

Dh says that the only person who has a problem with my weight is me-he loves me for who i am and not my size.

Is this the same with other peoples Dh/Dp or do they encourage you to lose weight and does it work if they do?

he did yg, and no he wasnt, but it seemed to be ok in his eyes

I can't believe the arrogance and cruelty of some men. I would be gutted. Poor dh has to put with a constant barrage of "do i look OK? Do you still love me?"...may be I should ease up on him a bit!!!

WWB you sound sorted and happy which is great,but would you deny that most peope would feel better at a weight at which they can walk,run and dance,as well as find clothes that fit well andbe comfy in an average plane or car seat???

No, I wouldn't deny it. I'd even go as far as saying that I know for certain that I would probably feel fitter at a lower weight, and more able to walk, run, dance, find clothes that fit well and be comfortable in the average plane or car seat. But that wasn't really the question I was answering ... I was answering the question in the thread title, which is what our dhs thought of our size.

Of course it would be better physically if I were smaller - and dh wouldn't mind. I'm not stupid enough to think that being so overweight isn't likely to cause problems. But as a person I am still the same no matter what I weigh, and I am just as deserving of love and respect as a slimmer person - surely no-one would deny that?

That goes without saying!

I know that I don't feel good when over what I normally like to weigh,that's all.

I'm with WWB.I also think that attitude comes with age aswell though. Not that I'm calling you old WWB...! but I'm on the more mature side and I know exactly what you're saying.

That's OK, cutekids ... I'm old as well as fat

I'm a few stone lighter than I was this time last year, Dh is really proud of me but TBH I think he fancied me as much either way. He's not sizeist at all- in fact, he has a history of big (and I do not use the term lightly) girls.

I have this convo with DH almost DAILY!

He says he loves me the way i am regardless.... but i know I would feel happier if i was back to what i was when we got married (size 12 then, nearly a 16 now) but no matter how much i try the choccy keeps calling me!

I am trying to lose a bit of weight as I am now 10 stones and 5'6". DP just thinks I need to lose weight around my belly but seems happy with everywhere else.

Was a size 10 when I met him though.

i really HATE how i look cant remember ever being happy about it. dp says he loves me how i am but when i look at me i cant help think hes lying to me (weird i know). when i was 18 i took a morning after pill and was sick for a few days and i thought hey this is great my appitite went so i just didnt eat anything very much. did this for about a year and went down to a size 8. i went to my brothers wedding and got the photos back and seen how ill i looked so started eating again. and now i back to being fat and hating myself (maybe thats why i stay with dp cos he puts up with how i look)

cant believe ive just written that never told any1 any of that before

starshaker, that's awful. surely you can believe your dp (at least with the rational part of you!) when he says that he finds you attractive?

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Haven't read the whole thread but when I met DP 19 months ago I was a size 10, now I'm struggling to squeeze into my size 16s!! He absolutely, totally couldn't care less, which is lovely, but I'm not happy - hence major diet now in progress!!

Oh this is making me sooooo cross at the moment. DH says he loves me, finds me sexy etc etc but agrees that I need to lose weight. Now diets just don't work with me as the weight goes straight back on again what I need to do is change my lifestyle so that I get some exercise. Big problem is actually when, full time other job & mother & general housework etc.
So the office is in a temporay location, with a gym nearby which I can join for a month at a time rather than pay for a year and then never use it. So I suggest to dh that if he can get up a bit earlier and do the whole breakfast & getting up routine rather than the second half of it. I could go to the gym and go for a swim every morning before work. He was not impressed!!!
I pointed out that he had a choice either I take up smoking again (I am putting a lot on at the moment as in the process of stopping), get fat, or he gets up earlier in the morning. So he has agreed to try it !!!!!!!
For those who are wondering I get home by 5 and do the whole evening routine by myself, very occasionally he is back before they are in bed and by the time he does get home I am too tired to move, let alone go swimming.
I am very angry with him.

at what you're dh said to you Lou - have only seen a headshot of you, but you are a stunner!

I know how you feel, Debbie. My dh loves going to the gym in the evening but I'm absolutely knackered by then and am fit for nothing apart from watching TV! I'd love to go to the gym in the morning but dh leaves for work at 7 and we can't really justify paying for childcare as well as gym fees, so unless I get up at 6 and rush, it's quite hard. I really miss exercising - used to be in the Army and that was great as you had to exercise, and in work time, too!

He really did say it puff, ask spacedonkey

not really i can see what i look like and i cant see how any1 could find me attractive

I'm a BIG girl. Dh occasionally makes reference to it but I point out to him I was big when he met me, so he much have fancied all that lard at some time. Also I like to point out that if I lost weight the 40DD's go too!

Dh hates me being bigger than when we first started going out. Periodically have had BIG rows about it. When we met I was size 10/12, am now 14/16 (when not pg, at the moment feel like size 3300), but bizarrely this pregnancy he hasn't been too bad about getting bigger. Usually he is very critical of any weight gain.

It does upset me, but in a way it is a compliment - he always says 'you look so nice when you're slim'....?

Both DH and I heavier (and happier) than we were when we met. I'm about 1.5st heavier and DH is about 2.5-3 st heavier. But we were both v slender when we met (him in particular, makes me shudder when I think back).

DH doesn't have an opinion on my weight (currently around 10st on curvy 5'7" frame), but I think he looks better carrying a bit of extra bulk (although he's trying to lose a stone atm). I'd like to drop to 9 - 9.5 stone but the trouble is that my snacking willpower is non-existent