The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start, The Journey So Far.........

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Welcome. There are all kinds of lovely Babes on board this Bus, drinkers, non-drinkers, part-time drinkers and those who have no idea what they are when it comes to drinking. Some are newer posters and some have been here forever for a little while.

Come and say hi, there are no rules, no 'must haves', just plenty of open and honest support.

You can talk about whatever you like. Your life, your love or even your laundry. We've seen it all!

The important thing is that you can post if you want to, or not if you don't. There are posters in AA and posters who are using medication to beat The Booze and of course posters who are just trying to cut their drinking down with the support of The Bus and the people around them.

See where we've been so far by following this ---> LINK TO PREVIOUS THREADS HERE

Well done Trinity

thank bproud, might be going to be very soon though

tis harder as dp is already in bed not well so I'm bored and lonely

Well done Trinity stick with it, the feeling will pass and tomorrow you will be so glad .

Quiet I agree with Bproud. Do the drill, get your pjs on, have a cup of tea. Good to hear your dd opened up to you, even though it's hard to see her upset, just sharing with you will make her feel a lot better. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's not failure, it's a learning curve .

How is everyone else this evening?

well done trinity I'm impressed.
I went out for a run/walk after work and we did about an hour all told.
It's the weigh in tomorrow - gulp. One of the girls in work got weighed today as she is off tomorrow and she has lost 6lbs!!! In one week!!!
Bloody hell. if I haven't lost anything I will cry

I'm with you demented, I WI on monday and I will cry if I haven't lost anything
I have walked at least 30 mins each day, pointed EVERYTHING
drunk enough no sugar squash and water to sink a battleship
not had any alcohol at all
eaten tons of veg and fruit

I know, I know, its only been two days but I will keep it up

I'm making little lists, writing down what I need, noting down recipes

Quiet this is the start of your journey, it is fraught with ups and downs, sad and joyous, a maelstrom of emotion coming your way. Let it out and feel the relief.

Well done Trinity, lists rule my life!!

Thought you may be interested in this little tit bit from Alistair Campbell, not my favourite person in the world, but I admire his coming out and if he can advertise that the alcoholic is not there stereotype wino, then perhaps all of us have a better chance of being heard and not judged.
www.alastaircampbell.org/blog/2012/02/16/britain-an-alcocracy-sitting-on-a-boozequake/

His article in The Times today on The Hidden Alcoholics was the most read...hmmm

Sleep tight, and if you can't don't fester, get up and read a book, or write another list with a good cup of sweet tea.

Evening. Just checking in. Am knackered. Really should go to bed right now, but need to wind down. Will try to catch up with what's been going on tomorrow.

Well done Trinity, and well done Quiet too. It's so hard isn't it? But so incredibly worth it. Keep at it . The temptation to drink decreases quite quickly. Honestly!

Hope everyone's doing OK tonight.

Hi babes and hello to all you lovely new babes. Hope everyone is ok tonight whether you are drinking or not. feeling a bit meh as my date for court to evict the fuckers who are squatting in my house, the solicitors have magnanimously admitted they have fucked up and are paying the extra fees. But things are strained where we are staying ATM oh well.

Think the joys of half term are catching up, and it sounds like some of you other babes are having a tough time of it. Anyway enough of me wingeing, I need to have a serious catch up of this thread.

Sorry not to namecheck but I need to seriously read back on about a weeks posts.

Have a swim and no booze. Just need to sort my life out :(

Anyway enough of me ranting

Take care and be sober babes! Love to you all xxxxxxx

A quick shout out for Bafana - how are you getting on? I was trying to count weeks/months sober and thought of you, my comrade in arms

evening. wow it's been an intense time on here the last few days. have read and caught up - too much to mention so just hope everyone is ok and dealing with their platefuls.

had a lovely time away, really nice to see old friends, nice to be up in the hills and being active in the fresh air etc. drank every day and then auto opened a bottle of wine when i got home as i was exhausted from the journey. had a glass then poured a second which i've just had a sip from and gone bleurgh. need a break now. will try and pour the rest of the bottle down the sink tomorrow so it's not there to tempt me.

just checking in really. night all x

day three in the rhino house

morning all, hope everyone is ok

something I just read and want to share with you:
Drinking or eating too much doesn't mean I have no willpower, it means that I am hurting and I am not nurturing myself.
This is so true Babes, have a good day.

Right today is a new day,I only had those 2 gins last night and then put the bottle back,felt really cross with myself.Floodgates opened to mr quiet and I told him everything that was in my head,he is currently not in the country so he listened patiently and siad that yes he would definately be coming back to me even though I was a mad old bat .

So today I start again and yes Bproud I will for the first time in years be joining you for a booze free friday :o

Nice to meet some of the oldies too,hope to get to know you oh so well in the coming months

Oi quiet - who are you calling an 'oldie'

Trinity well done for yesterday - that must have been tough with the vodka already there - can you put it away somewhere out of reach? In the garage or something? And why not do something now to plan for this evening. get some knitting on the go to occupy your hands, or get at NON-DRINKING friend to come round and have tea and biscuits and a big chat, or promise your dds an evening of pizza and Twister. Or plan to bath and groom your dog. Anything to keep you busy.

Morning

Wise words, Bproud. So have you worked out how long you've been sober for? I love hearing all the success stories! And of course we are all success stories, even if some of us are on the first page...

Quiet, well done for stoping at two. That takes real strength in my opinion. I find it much harder to stop after a couple of drinks than I find it to not have any in the first place. So well done you

Well done Trinity too. Day 3 already? How are you feeling? You sound v chipper

Hi Huey. I should think the solicitors are bloody helping with the costs!! That's just what you need... Try and stay calm and just know that you will be back in your home at some point soon. Must be v tough. Swimming etc sounds a lot more helpful than drinking though so good on yer.

Nice to see you back Saf. Sounds like you had a good break.

Hope everyone else is doing well too. I'm feeling slightly boingish today which is about time. I've had some horrible virus for the last week or so and it's knocked me for six. Does anyone else find that their mental health suffers when they're physically ill? I don't know why but sometimes I find myself getting v anxious and depressed even though I'm not anxious and depressed about the illness. Does that make sense? It does worry me. It seems to come out of the blue, and before the physical symptoms of any illness. But then along comes the cold or sickness or whatever and I see the familiar patten. It sounds ridiculous! Anyway I'm feeling much better today so hoping to get lots of things ticked off my massive list And of course I will not be drinking!

Have good days everyone

hey stroke, yeah I'm feeling good

eventhough I didn't get much sleep last night
think its all the extra fruit and especailly veg
ibs was playing up, pain and wind all night

thanks venus going to put together my new desk tonight, will definietly keep my hands busy

quiet I'm right there with you for a booze free friday

Hi I've been a bit of a lurker but anyone mind if i take a seat? I'll probably just sit at the back and dry out for a while anyway....

firefly welcome, please take a seat. we have another mouse on here too so I'm sure she'll be along soon - especially as she is late with the bacon rolls low fat muesli.
Weigh in at work and I lost a measly 1.5lbs. I am well pissed off with that.

Welcome Firefly Would you like to talk or do you want to just get used to being on board first? Well done for posting.

Well at least you've lost something, Ma. And if you carry on at that rate then you could lose, erm, 6lb in a month. That's almost half a stone. Remember - slow n steady wins the race. And I can sense you may be a little competitive, yes?

YAY Trinity and Quiet how you stopped at two is amazing, I would have necked the bottle and been out on the hunt for another!

Dieting, stopping drinking for the day, and half term is one hell of an ask, just shows how strong you all are imo. Bproud, you hit the nail on the head, so busy looking after everyone else, your pain is ignored. I don't advocate selfish bitches, but just stop and think about how much you cope with sometimes. So I am glad to hear that you unburdened to mr Quiet, Quiet, mad old bag or not, he will love you all the more.

FIrefly hello, butt in when your ready.

I have my girls on a three month passing out parade today, oh the irony! We are celebrating their sobriety with an alcohol free lunch at a restaurant in town where a few of them used to literally pass out!

Have a safe Friday, and be kind to yourselves.

well its more than i have lost this week ma! - im on a fitness drive, i need to lose a stone ready for 'the wedding', my dress looks fine but it would look fab with a bit less tummy! trouble is, i find food so tempting this time of year, im a real 'stodge' lover in winter and it shows! also, my skin is suffering with the menopause, had all my bloods and stuff done at the docs the other day so need to see what that brings, im missing belly dancing too as i have been doing a couture dressmaking course which clashes so i need to get my rather large rump to the gym, if anyone finds my motivation, could they post it back to me please!

btw - welcome firefly, you arnt a diet guru are you?

I must just say Rainqueen you made me laugh with your 4 o clock start time straight after the school run! (kids home=drink!) But then my start time has always been 5 so not really that much higher or mightier am I? And it used to really annoy me when they fiddled with the clocks thus forcing me to drink earlier than i would like. I say 'used' because I have over the years got a hold on my drinking but at the moment I'm slipping again....and my drinking will build up until i end up doing something really terrible, this has happened a few times in the past. I'm the same quiet, when I hear anyone else is drinking i think well why not then...? I blame the loose women for the wine i consumed in pregnancy (not much but i wasn't proud of it) for saying something like pregnancy is a stressful time so why not have the odd glass. Personaly I dont do the odd glass, its usually the bottle for me. Cooking is also a trigger for me! The two do go hand in hand so i might join you and feed us all quick simple meaals to keep myself out the kitchen. Day one is easy for me as I'm hung over, by day two I feel better and fancy a drink..I never used to get beyond day 3. I found it easy to stop when i was pregnant and feeling so ill anyway but i need a stronger will power to just stop by myself i think. Why aren't my beautiful children enough of a reason for me to want to stop? I'm taking on board all the tips on this thread about how to stop, you really are a fab bunch and its great reading how you're getting on....

Sorry not a diet guru jesus but i do own the diet bible! I find breastfeeding really has helped me loose weight tho, and hopefuly not got my daughter drunk off my milk! I want to get fit too, I love the Davina dvd's (so much I've only just remembered i own them!) but now I've remembered them i think I'm gna start doing them again and use my new toned body and healthy feel as motivation to stop the demon drink. We're also trying for another baby so if that happens i will be ballooning instead but either way its no more drink for me.....what exercise do you enjoy doing and what can you fit in?

I used to do belly dancing Jesus, it's actually quite hard work isn't it. Great for the waist and legs though. I've also done line dancing and barn dancing and zumba. The trouble is I love to dance but can never remember the moves in the right order so I'm usually the one going the wrong way and messing it all up. I had to give it all up and now I just prance dance around my living room and the only person it bothers is the cat .

Am feeling really tired because Hose woke me up with his snoring last night!! And ds woke me early because I asked him to (am regretting that decision now). I had planned to get lots done today but I think I need to rest instead. Never mind, I can do all my jobs tomorrow instead.

Welcome Firefly make yourself comfy .

Ma 1.5lb is good, well done. You've had some challenges this week, you drank a little but much less than before, you've coped with the cravings and you've lost weight . Keep at it, don't stop now, you're just getting started. Well done on the running again, that's something I've never been very good at.