OMG, you both sound like you've been through the mill.
In my case, I don't really see how my present situation could get worse.....I already do 99% of the childcare, chores,parent's evenings, school plays, etc. He has not given me a pennt towards food or clothes for DCs ever since they were all born, so if he cut off money now it would make no difference whatsoever.
ATM it's basically like having a 4th child. Have even had to stick a sign up in the bathroom asking him to use the bog brush after he's used the loo. I accept that I may have to clean up shit after 3 young DCs, but not after a grown man, FGS.
As for money, well, as he constantly likes to remind me, I and the DCs would be living in a cardboard box on the street if it wasn't for him!
He pays the mortgage (house in his name only). He pays for gas, electric and water bills. He pays for car insurance....admittedly, I drive it majority of time taking DCs to school. But ultimately it belongs to him. Don't care about that, will just go back to using the bus.
He pays for SKY subscription. Not bothered about this either as there's only ever shit on TV and I don't give a toss about SKY Sports (his main priority).
I get DCs up in the morning, dress them, give them breakfast, get their stuff together, take them to school, come back, clean, do laundry, cook meals, do their bathtimes, put out the dustbins, clean the catshit off the garden, thake them to the cinema, swimming, etc. And all he does is go out to work for roughly 25-30 hours per week, then spends the rest of the time playing golf or prostrate on the sofa hogging the remote control.
So, tell me, how much more miserable can it get......very little I should imagine.
In fact the benefits would be that I would not be expected to shag him, cook for him, iron his clothes, etc and I would probably receive a regular, steady amount of money from the state for me and the DCs.