mastrubating when I'm asleep.

[elmoreleonard]

Hi, i'm on here because i don't know if this is normal or not. I've woken up a few times now with my new boyf groping me and ejaculating on my bum when i'm asleep. Is he a creep or do all guys do this? I was embarrassed and pretended i was still asleep but i feel weird about it.

Gotta talk to him about ths jst in case he is a sexomniac.... If not... He has serious issues

Def not right if (a) without prior arrangement and (b) he is actually awake (he may be having a WD that's a bit 'active' rather than full-blown sexomia - there's a continuum there like with everything else).

At the very least talk to him but you may have to kick him into touch if (a) and (b) apply and in any event there's the risk of pregnancy (sperm are such persistent little blighters).

See, I am guilty of sexism here. Because it is a bloke, I find it vile, but if it was a woman I'd quite like it.

I don't suppose we'll hear any more from OP , but here's a novel idea, just ask him WTF is going on!
Isn't that what any normal person would do?

I'd ask, certainly! It sounds normal to me IF it has been discussed first. Maybe a previous partner said it was OK, and he thinks it is normal? I don't have a problem with DH doing this on occasion (with warning) if I'm too tired to get up to anything myself - I'd prefer it to him going off to use porn instead. But that is something we have discussed, as he has a higher sex drive than me right now.

And like Gay40 DH would love it if I did the same... It's a strange world, with strange people in it.

Having thought about it some more - whilst working from home - it's actually the fluids aspect that makes me not like the idea if a man did it.

If any man did that to me I would lop his bloody gonads off.

That is rank and extremely disrespectful.

An ex once had a wet dream in my bed, with me in it. Being naive, I pretended to be asleep because I thought he'd wet himself and was Mortified. It was only about four years later when I feltcomforta le enough to take the piss that he blushed and explained it was a wet dream.

Wet dreams - fine. Being awake, groping and covering you in spunk - definitely not fine.

Total creep!

Do all guys do this?

Sweet baby Jake, no.

I love these first time posts! I think mn should start a new Topic First Time Posters which you can trawl through when you are in need of a bit of a laugh.

Don't you have to get up and clean it off? Or does he do that whilst you pretend to be asleep? Or do you just make up weird shit on the internet?

my ex used to masterbate into my hair whilst i was asleep, i only figured it out when i turned over and woke to him ejaculating over my face.
I was hysterical and he tried to down play it and make me feel like i was over reacting, i was young and stayed for a few more months, until we were having sex one day and he put his hands round my neck until i passed out.

You should leave the bastard now before it goes to far op.

Both guys sound totally weird; I'm learning stuff here that I'd never dream of doing!

OTTMumm, I would consider that as sexual assault.

I've woken up the odd time to find DH having a wank in bed, thought there was an earthquake as the bed was vibrating so much! But there was no groping of me of ejaculating on to me. He'd have had a quick kick in the knackers if there had been.

Sexomnia is a load of bollocks.

I agree with Shirley.

Well i am gald i didn't stick around after that, have heard he has done worse to other GF's after me tried to warn one as she was my younger sisters friend, to no avail, he was incredibaly charming and had a way about him, she came out worse than me poor girl.

Gives me shivers to think what could of happened.

sexomnia, even if it does exist, i mean, why wouldn't you sleep with your door locked etc, i read about a case not long ago where a step daughter was raped by her step dad, he had a history etc of sleep walking and being sexual in his sleep with exe's who didn't mind it
He got off as the doctors said he had sexomina, pictures of him leaving court smiling etc, made me sick.

I think if you really had that, you would be horrified at yourself, and your potential to ruin someones life by not taking simple steps like sleeping alone etc.

OP, this is not normal. My advice is to run for the hills.

There are some interesting new dilemmas being aired this week...

Aren't there just.

Unis aren't back yet ya know

Such an imagination they should do well in their literary studies

check if he's sleeping while he does it