husband just left after 20 years

[justme13]

my husband told me the day after boxing day that he doesnt know how he feels and he doesnt think he has feelings for me anymore we have two kids together and 20 years history oh and he wants some space and still wants to be friends!!!!!!!! help my life is such a mess right now

Good for you for not getting worked up and keeping dignified. Hope you got the answere you needed. She won't be around for long after seeing how he has behaved, who would?

Keep strong and your eye on the future.

How did she respond?

she said its only been a couple of weeks (but hes already introduced her to his family!) and she doesnt live there all, lies
he just got the first of the divorce letters apparantly he was angry!

Let him be angry. Good luck with everything.

Just found out she's left her kids and moved in with him! any advice on how to carry on I feel like I'm not coping....

I don't really know what to say, i've never been there but didn't want to leave you unanswered.

What I do know is that when my ex quickly 'moved on' I was devastated, but soon found solace in the fact that striking out on my own was absolutely the right thing to do given how he behaved after the split.

You will get through this, it's always a shock to find this stuff out but time will dull that immediate pain.

I'm sure others will be along to give you some better advice, but I wanted you to know someone is here 'listening'...

My ten year old just came back from seeing his dad and his dad has convinced him that he wants to meet the ow what am I going to do? She's abandoned her kids I don't want her anywhere near mine!

I would tell him the truth about her, but if you ex and her stay together he will have to meet her sometime. Just make sure your son knows you are always there for him.