The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start And With A Firm Resolution In Their Hearts.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have an ever changing relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a support thread for those who feel their drinking habits are not what they should be, or even those of another.

Sober, drinking or somewhere in between, come take a seat.

And for those who would like to know where this all started, HERE is a link to the threads before this one.

Make THIS year THE year that you change your life, for the better.

Have a Happy New Year, full of memories to treasure, not to forget.

Not sure what happened there...........bloomin' IPad.......

Mouse that sounds absolutely wonderful. I can't think of anything more relaxing. I'm not a fan of treatments anyway, don't really like people touching me unless I know them but I love all the pools, steam rooms, jacuzzi, etc. Have a super day, you deserve it .

I've just got back from badminton and dh has gone to the shop for pasta sauce with instructions not to buy wine. So far, this week has been pretty easy for me, I think I'm in 'the zone'.

Right off to put face pack on, please don't let me be the only one sat here like a lemon with cucumbers on my eyes.

By the way, Thing I liked your S.O.B.E.R. Might try that sometime

Hmm lemon & cucumber, might have that in a glass of tonic water . . .

thanks munky I do plan to get back onto it next week, but have just received a half case of wines as a birthday present from DD2 and her au pair host family! don't know whether to be or . am deeply touched by this kindness from people I barely know.(well, I know DD2 obviously!)
I have also received £60 in birthday cards - yes, I opened them early - so dinner out might be back on!!

Go for the dinner Ma - fuck it, life's too short to save for a rainy day. xx

no! keep the money for you rather than spend it feeding dh

happy birthday for the morning ma and mouse!

only one drink today.

hope everyone is ok - haven't caught up properly i'm afraid. off to bed to read x

actually, DH said the same as you santa
dunno. DH has bought some stuff in to cook me a nice dinner. he's not a great cook but I do genuinely appreciate the gesture.
If I don't spend the money on a dinner out, I could buy myself something nice....decisions, decisions.

spend every penny on you Ma

You are the best and deserve the best lovely

Im' a bit wobble headed from the naltrexone

sent ds a long and direct text so waiting for the fall out tomorrow

Sorry I got your birthdays wrong ma and mouse

so

Think I will try for sleep......................

night babes xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I have had to use my 's.o.b.e.r' grounding tonight lots.

First time since my detox where I have really,really thought about drinking (day 33)

Someone triggered me,no,get it right-I allowed MY emotions AND URGES to trigger me..

Got through it WITHOUT alcohol but it was mentally exhausting.

I hope you are all safely tucked up in bed now.

Tomorrow is a new day and all.

ma and mouse happy birthday from Thailand! Posting and running (literally, have a training session) but will be back later.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOUSE

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MA

and many, many lovely happy returns

XXXXXXXXX

Happy Birthday Ma:)

Happy Birthday Mouse:)

Hope ye both have a fantastic day with lots of lovely pressies!

Morning all and happy birthday ma and mouse .

Well done Thing for using your strategies to see you through. When those cravings hit they can be strong can't they. Bet you are glad this morning. Feel free to tell us more about what you're going through if it helps .

Saf you sound like you are doing fine. Any thoughts on following up the OT training yet?

Going to meet an old friend for some shopping and lunch today. I will be driving.

Today I will not be drinking. Day 6 for me. Yay

Happy birthday to Ma and Mouse!! Have lovely days you two. Have a super-relaxing day at the spa, Mouse. Sounds like just what the doctor ordered (the good one, not the rubbish one!). Ma, I hope you have a nice dinner with DH, and that you manage to spend your birthday money on something just for you. (Don't know whether it's your kind of thing but Accessorise and Monsoon have their 70% off sale on at the moment - lots of pretty things that you don't need but you could justify because they're so heavily reduced!!)

thingumy, wow sounds like you were determined last night. Please tell us how you did it. I've had two major wobbles (and won) but I'm not confident about surviving a serious trigger again. I hope you feel strong today

Faire I was with you in spirit with the face-mask but I couldn't drag my sorry ass upstairs. Full of a cold and feeling bleurrgghh. At least I'm not hungover too! Have a lovely day with your friend.

Beautiful day here. So nice to get rid of the grey, dreary days. Have good days Babes

~~~~~~~ xx HAPPY BIRTHDAY MA xx ~~~~~~~

Thank you all for the Birthday wishes

Ma - hope that you do what ever YOU want to with your money. I hope too that today is an easy one, and without DH being his usual nasty self xxxxx

happy birthday ma and mouse, hope you both have lovely days!

Happy birthday Ma and Mouse! xx

Happy birthdays to mousie & ma!

Hope you both have lovely days

I got through last night but telling myself one drink would not help ,how i just wouldn't stop at one drink and concentrated on how negative and depressed I would feel today if I lapsed.

It passed.

Think I'm mentally hitting a brick wall-I need to plough on through it.

X

Happy birthday ma and mouse

I am fine, dd2 was back in hospital last night, now on antibiotics, as well as her steroid inhaler, normal inhaler, steroid crystals, steroid pills, calpol and ibuprofen. Gaaaaah.

Struggled a bit last night but got through it.

DH being so fucking irritating, His memory is so bad. He asks me to remind him of everything, I do, I try to be gentle, but it is like he doesn't even listen to me. He got almost everything wrong - took dd1 to the wrong fucking ballet class, told me he was coming back for lunch with food to cook, didn't tell me he change his mind, only just got back, didn't get the food, didn't take the one thng back that I asked him to. This seriously happens all the time. I feel so insignificant and like a doormat, just here to work, clean, cook, sort everything out, including him, and it's just getting worse. And he gets depressed and so if I say anything then he just gets blue and retires to his bed and then I have to do even more.

I was so supportive during his last down spell, last weekend, and he was so blue, we went to see friends, and then he just perked up, it's like he is happy for me to to see the worst, and he can't make an effort to do it for me. He chats to his two friends about his depression and then it's fine and he's all smiles, but everything I do is wrong.

Sorry I know this isn't the place but I am crying with frustration. And tiredness.

Christi - why isn't this the place to off load? I dump my emotional baggage here all the time. We are all here for one another to a certain degree aren't we?

Why is your DH still messing with his meds? I though that his GP had made ot pretty clear to him that if he wants to get better, he better do as he's told?

The last thing you need right now is another child to look after (DH) when your daughter is struggling in hospital.

Are you in staying with her? Or do you have to come home? I'm sorry to read that you are struggling with the things life is throwing your way, please say if I can help you xx

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Ma - I hope you are having a nice day? I really hope that it's a day to remember for all of the right reasons. xx

Back from the spa day and OMGosh, I feel sooooooooooooo relaxed and unwound, it's lovely. DH is in the kitchen swearing over desert but I'm leaving him to it, him and his profanities.

We had a lovely time at the spa and shared a bottle of VC over lunch. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Just right. I wasn't pressured into drinking or made to feel that I shouldn't either. It's my birthday and I'll drink if I want to

I've had two glass of VC and then we were back in the spa area. Lovely.

DH is now in the kitchen shouting at things again, I'm steering clear with Nemo. Be back later Bravebabes Or if I get lucky, maybe not

My dear Cristiane,

everything you have written rings bells with me for this time last year, I have only just got back in, but, couldn't not reply straight away.

You were on here when I just joined I think, but I can't remember, so forgive me, if I ask....

Has Dh been diagnosed with depression, and does he take meds for it?
Only my Dh has had periodic episodes of quite serious depression, and really can't see it coming it seems. He has been on AD's for a year, and they have really helped, but I still get times of thinking "is this it coming again?" He has promised to tell me if and when he starts to feel "out of his depth", but will, I think battle against it until it's too late and the black dog has landed.

What you have written sounds so much like what happens to me when Dh gets ill. My children are obviously a lot older than yours, but they have been younger when it has happened. I know exactly how you feel, it's like being a mother to your children + 1, and sorting out the house, finances, food, etc and putting the brave face on for everyone, and seemingly Dh putting on a brave face for everyone but me!

I know that it's the ones you love who get the hard part sometimes, and I do understand the nature of the illness, but it is so bloody hard sometimes isn't it. You are not alone my lovely, I hope you got some rest today. xxx

P.s This is the place xxx

X posted my lovely Birthday Mouse
Great minds!!!!

Cristi I agree with mouse, dump away . Regarding the memory, is this a side effect? Very frustrating for you but perhaps he could write down what he needs to remember. He really needs to help himself where he can, it's clearly not fair to rely so much on you. I think taking himself off to bed is a bit of a cop out actually if he is able to converse with others. Anyway, hope your dd is feeling better soon x

Mouse how was the spa?

Thanks Mouse and Thurso for your understanding.

DH has had bad depression for nearly two years. Been a bit better over last couple of months. Apart from new year weekend and last weekend.

I have been back at work for nearly a year now. I have worried about the children. Dd1 is late for school when DH takes her in. Dd2 missed two of her appointments with asthma specialist before Christmas because dh forgot them (and before you ask everything is planned into his electronic calendar five times over). I reminded him both mornings. Every single time DH is late or forgets and I have to remind and remind and send lists from work. If i don't things are simply not done. A few times last term dd never actually made it to school (I was furious).

This maybe was the person I met nine years ago. I just dropped everything and thought it was all going to work out and it's not working out and DH can't face his inner demons and now he can't face me and I feel it is just reaching some kind of awful crisis point. I don't know how to make him listen to me as he has no space for empathy it seems.

They have all gone out now. I was meant to be going too and was really looking forward to it. Feel so down though and might have tea instead and a bath.

What is weird is that I don't know how this is going to resolve itself. Previously everything would have been swept under the carpet with a good few drinks but this can't happen this time and I feel very exposed.

fairemuff he puts everything into his phone. I get him to repeat things back at me but still it doesn't work.