Hi
just looking for some advise please...am halfway through 1st pregnancy and am discovering how much my DH does not seem to want this. Though it was a joint decision to try for this baby, he has never been pleased about it, only scared, and last night told me he feels he let himself down because he agreed to do this something for me, not for him. It was so easy to fall pregnant (despite what I thought-2 weeks is hardly usual is it) and he seems to think he was LIED to by me-utterly shocking as he knows I don't lie-or at least I thought he knew me but now I am not so sure! Despite what I try to do to cheer him up, or say, he has basically hit the wall and thinks everything will be awful once baby is born, that he won't have a life, that he will have to change into a person he doesn't want to be, etc etc. I just don't know what to do do/say any more. When I can't help myself and start crying because it makes me so upset he just says 'here we go again, I shouldn't have said anything'. I try to make him talk to male friends/relatives with babies but he stubbornly claims none of them would understand. And he got really angry when I suggested he might want to see a professional as he seems really confused.
Sorry for the long rant - but I am starting to really panick and just don't know what to do/say any more as I just seem to make things worse by talking, but if you don't talk about how you feel, you have no chance as far as I can tell.