I have no one to talk to about this so posting here. dh and I have been having problems for a while. I hate the way he speaks to me. For example this morning I had to get up to go to work ( he is not working just now) and so I asked him to take the baby. He told me to put her in the cot. I said but she will cry if I put her there. He said he was getting straight up and put her in the cot. I said can't you just take her then, if I put her in the cot she will get really upset. He told me to fuck off and shut my face. I get that a lot when we are disagreeing about something. I asked him then and there not to talk to me like that but I just get more of the same. Shut my shitty mouth, or shut your ugly face etc. I don't want to have to listen to that all the time and I don't want my kids hearing it but nothing I say makes any difference. It makes me feel horrible to be spoken to like that. He is also really derogatory about what I do, calls it a waste of time and blames me continuing my training in that area a waste of time.
Can he change or am I being unrealistic. Do other people's dh's speak to them like this? I don't really know what to do next. I don't know how to prepare for being on my own, especially financially. Who can I speak to? Dh deals with all that. I am bad at numbers. Then I wonder if I am overreacting. It would be terrible for the kids (Ds 4 and dd 10 months) to not have there dad around. What is more damaging? I have no idea and I have no one to talk it all through with.