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Do you and your DP wee infront of each other?

72 replies

bippyhippy · 19/12/2011 07:41

OK now, I know it is a bit gross but me and my DH have been together for 10 years and we have three DCs together.

Somehow we have slipped into the habit of weeing infront of each other. Blush I mean, if one person is in the bathroom, the other might just use the loo without thinking of the other person. We've been doing this for years.

I've heard that in France women would not dream of doing this in front of their other halves!

Well last night DH suddenly said he'd like us to not wee infront of each other anymore. He doesn't mind him weeing infront of me but doesn't want me weeing infront of him. I felt a bit hurt, like a basic intimacy between us had been removed. :( But he feels he doesn't need to see me on the loo which I guess is fair enough!

So i just wondered, how many of you out there go to the loo in front of your DHs and do you think it's a good thing or bad thing for a relationship?!

OP posts:
pinkyp · 19/12/2011 07:45

So your dh says he can wee infront of you but you can't infront of him? Tell him not to wee infront of you too. Ass.

I think if you've been doing it for years then why not? What's suddey changed? If it's something 'new' then I'd understand

Alouisee · 19/12/2011 07:46

The issue here is that your dh still wants the convenience of weeing in front of you but he expects you to keep your bodily functions to your self.

What's good for the goose ...

PieCherry · 19/12/2011 08:53

We do:)

BellaVita · 19/12/2011 08:59

No. Not even after 24 years!

AliBellandthe40jingles · 19/12/2011 09:00

So basically if you are in the bathroom then he still wants to be able to barge in and go for a wee, but if he's in the bathroom he expects you to wait.

Right. What has changed to make him say this?

Do you have another loo?

DH and I pee in front of each other. It isn't a big deal IMO.

FlamingoBingo · 19/12/2011 09:02

We do. No big deal. We still fancy each other too, so all those who say the magic will go if you dare to be open about your bodily functions with each other are wrong! (I just know people will say that as they always do on these threads!)

MudAndGlitter · 19/12/2011 09:03

No!!!

Ragwort · 19/12/2011 09:05

No.

Can't imagine doing that - will wee behind a bush if we are out for a walk together but would never, ever dream of weeing in front of DH - I don't even use our en-suite at night as I don't like being 'heard'.

craftynclothy · 19/12/2011 09:14

Yes. If he turned round and said he wanted me to stop doing it but him to carry on I'd tell him to carry on out the door with his bags.

MudAndGlitter · 19/12/2011 09:15

He's seen me in labour twice yet doing anything on the toilet in front of each other is a bit too personal!

overmydeadbody · 19/12/2011 09:20

I don't but DP sometimes does if he is really desperate (but I don't actually look). I would be hurt too if he told me I couldn't though, just like I know he would be hurt if I told him he couldn't.

mumto2andnomore · 19/12/2011 09:21

wee no problem but we dont poo infront of eachother !
bit strange your dh has suddenly said this

SardineQueen · 19/12/2011 09:27

Yes we wee in front of each other. And fart. Poos are private though Grin

I don't understand why he has suddenly said he doesn't want you doing it? If you've been doing it for ages and both do it then clearly neither of you find it revolting.

I also think it is totally out of order that he wants you to stop but he won't - that's a load of rubbish and he can stick that idea up his urethra.

outsidein · 19/12/2011 09:28

I only wee in front of DH because he insists on an hour long bath every morning in the only bathroom Xmas Angry Otherwise I wouldn't.

I'd find it very strange if he suddenly told me not to (and I'd make him take shorter baths!) Did your dh not give any reason?

Helltotheno · 19/12/2011 09:48

We don't but it's not because there's any major objection to it on either side i don't think. There are a few loos in the house and tbh when I can get some privacy, I'lll take it thanks....

In your case, if he's suddenly decided you're not to wee in front of him, you should tell him you can do without the scintillating sight of him weeing in front of you ta very much!

Bogeyface · 19/12/2011 09:54

Only if its a "OH FFS!! Why didnt you tell me you were having a bath, I need the loo" situation! Not for any big reason, we just dont.

But I would be telling him to jog on if he thinks that you can wait with your legs crossed while he beautifies himself, but that you will be treated to him horse pissing while you are having a bath/whatever!

Helltotheno · 19/12/2011 09:58

'horse pissing' Grin

ok if that doesn't put you off op, nothing will!

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bippyhippy · 19/12/2011 10:40

Bogeyface, lol. We just have one loo in our house so outsidein, it'll be shorter baths for DH from now on!

Helltotheno, I like your thinking. I guess I can just use this as an opportunity to get some privacy and peace...!

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JackMatthias · 19/12/2011 10:47

Not intentionally, no.

ShowOfHands · 19/12/2011 10:51

"Not intentionally, no"

JackMatthias, have visions of you having a chat in the kitchen and puddles forming unnoticed round your feet.

We didn't for about the first 10yrs of our relationship. But we only have one bathroom and finally one of us gave in and we realised actually it's not a big deal. We don't watch per se, but it happens when we're in the same room sometimes.

JackMatthias · 19/12/2011 11:36

Grin ShowOfHands, you've now put in my head an awful picture of that equally awful 'Little Britain' character played by David Walliams who wees all over the place (Mrs Emery?).

What I meant is that occasionally the bathroom door swings open to reveal one or other of us in all our glory

TrinityRhino · 19/12/2011 11:38

we do yes and in a very drunken silly moment once at the same time

Grin
noddyholder · 19/12/2011 11:39

There is nothing we don't do although I don't like anyone watch me shave my legs!

pressiepuzzle · 19/12/2011 11:44

No. never in 27 years, I have my limits to intimacy.

marzipananimal · 19/12/2011 11:44

we do and I'm fine with it, though I would really rather DH wouldn't squeeze his spots in front of me Envy