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Do you and your DP wee infront of each other?

72 replies

bippyhippy · 19/12/2011 07:41

OK now, I know it is a bit gross but me and my DH have been together for 10 years and we have three DCs together.

Somehow we have slipped into the habit of weeing infront of each other. I mean, if one person is in the bathroom, the other might just use the loo without thinking of the other person. We've been doing this for years.

I've heard that in France women would not dream of doing this in front of their other halves!

Well last night DH suddenly said he'd like us to not wee infront of each other anymore. He doesn't mind him weeing infront of me but doesn't want me weeing infront of him. I felt a bit hurt, like a basic intimacy between us had been removed. :( But he feels he doesn't need to see me on the loo which I guess is fair enough!

So i just wondered, how many of you out there go to the loo in front of your DHs and do you think it's a good thing or bad thing for a relationship?!

OP posts:

lolaflores · 19/12/2011 11:56

We wee in companiable chummy way. I have been sat on the loo with 3 of them looking in and all talking to me. We also discuss the quality of our poo. I have alot of constipation and am delighted when I produce anything. I do update him on it. DD2 has now started shutting door for a private poo. I applaud her. We have one loo which does make it a bit cheek by jowl. Mind you, it was the same as kids, come one come all.

Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 19/12/2011 12:01

I have always been fine having a wee in front of partners in the past never bothered me although do draw the line at having a poo. Dh is a bit more coy about these things although I have plonked myself on the toilet when for done reason he is sti standing blethering to me while I'm dancing about in the bathroom. He has peed in front of me once bur really we've not had much need to so just don't.

AsinineLadiesDancing · 19/12/2011 12:09

Weeee do it all the time.

I'd get bored watching him poo, it takes about half an hour, and smells like a dead sheep

Mine smell like flowers and are quicker than my wees...

Well you did ask

lolaflores · 19/12/2011 12:24

I love watching him wee. His total absorption in the process. We can multi task, read an article, have a chat on the phone. They have to conduct the job. Thats why they spend so long on the poos, it feels like a bit of a rest.

scarletforya · 19/12/2011 12:30

No, we never do. Poo would be unthinkable! But we fart away in front of each other!

SardineQueen · 19/12/2011 13:04

cheek by jowl hahahha not literally I hope!

PamBeesly · 19/12/2011 13:23

we do everything, poo, pee, vomit, have attacks of the big D...sometimes I bring him a book if he is having a particularly hard time...

LovesBloominChristmas · 19/12/2011 13:25

We don't, but I don't agree that he can and you can't

Bonsoir · 19/12/2011 13:25

Our loos are separate from the bathrooms and I much prefer it that way!

CointreauVersial · 19/12/2011 13:26

We do (wee do ).

Years of only having one bathroom in the house.

AliBellandthe40jingles · 19/12/2011 13:33

Bonsoir that is one good thing about French plumbing arrangements!

Now if only you could be sure of finding an actual toilet, rather than a hole in the ground, when you stop to go on the peage...

redrubyshoes · 19/12/2011 13:33

Only once when he was in the bath but I made him pull the shower curtain across and he has never peed in front of me.

QueenCess · 19/12/2011 13:42

Never. There are limits you know......

misty0 · 19/12/2011 13:43

Never in three years!

except just once .....

Both very pissed and both badly needed to go. One loo. So we went at the same time. (me sitting, knees apart, him standing)

'Twas a one off

dreamingbohemian · 19/12/2011 13:59

Unless people have actual medical problems, I don't see how only having one bathroom means you have to wee in front of each other.

I've never lived in a home with more than one bathroom and I've also never weed in front of anyone! It's really not that difficult.

I'm not uptight, it wouldn't gross me out, it just doesn't seem necessary.

Kayano · 19/12/2011 14:12

I only shut the bathroom door if we have guests lol, and then I resent having to lol.

Very open in our house

Sillyoldelf · 19/12/2011 14:17

We wee in front of each other, but him seeing me doing any form of hair removal is completely out of the question !

Dillydollydaydream · 19/12/2011 14:20

I don't wee in front of dh and he doesn't in front of me. If one or the other was desperate for the loo while the other was in the shower/bath we have a downstairs loo. Never really thought about not weeing in front of each other it's just what happens.

carmenelectra · 19/12/2011 15:03

OMG Yes all of the time! It's nothing. Just as I would wee in front of sister or friends. Poo- no way. Farts, yes!

I would find it very odd if my Dp just made an announcement like the OP's though.

TheTruthNothingButTheTruth · 19/12/2011 15:04

I have heard some couples even indulge in golden showers.

JackMatthias · 19/12/2011 15:08

TBH I thought this might be a thread on urolagia too...

CotherMuckingFunt · 19/12/2011 15:16

Wee - yes
Poo - no
Farts - yes
Hair removal - he used to do it for me before the kids but now it's my own private ritual as I'm not sure the kids would appreciate walking in and seeing dh brandishing the plastic scraper while I'm reclining with my legs akimbo!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 19/12/2011 15:22

He wees in front of me but I don't like to do it in front of him. Don't know why. Would not puke or poo in front of him either and he doesn't do those in front of me, although he does unintentionally fart when I'm there sometimes. I always get the feeling he'd sit in the bathroom with me while I vommed, actually, but I can't think of anything worse than someone being with me in that situation.

Ephiny · 19/12/2011 15:23

No, I would never do this

upahill · 19/12/2011 15:25

No Ney Never would I do this in front of DH except in an emergency (labour, extreme sickness etc)

We talked about having the loo and the bathroom knocked into one big bathroom and thought about it for about 1 1/2 seconds before coming to the mutal decision of NO!!!

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