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Do you and your DP wee infront of each other?

72 replies

bippyhippy · 19/12/2011 07:41

OK now, I know it is a bit gross but me and my DH have been together for 10 years and we have three DCs together.

Somehow we have slipped into the habit of weeing infront of each other. I mean, if one person is in the bathroom, the other might just use the loo without thinking of the other person. We've been doing this for years.

I've heard that in France women would not dream of doing this in front of their other halves!

Well last night DH suddenly said he'd like us to not wee infront of each other anymore. He doesn't mind him weeing infront of me but doesn't want me weeing infront of him. I felt a bit hurt, like a basic intimacy between us had been removed. :( But he feels he doesn't need to see me on the loo which I guess is fair enough!

So i just wondered, how many of you out there go to the loo in front of your DHs and do you think it's a good thing or bad thing for a relationship?!

OP posts:

KatieScarlett2833 · 19/12/2011 16:32

Yes

It only bugs me when he does it when I'm brushing my teeth. Then I feel sick.

DD (16) also invades my loo space on a regular basis despite there being more than one loo in this house....

ArtVandelay · 19/12/2011 17:56

No. I have in previous relationships and made a decision not to in front of DH. I think its nicer not too, more respectful.

juneybean · 19/12/2011 17:57

Yeah I would but I'd not crap in front of someone!

ModreB · 19/12/2011 18:39

We have always had separate bathrooms and lavatories. (Different rooms not several of each IYSWIM )I always ask If DH minds if I use the sink in the bathroom if DH is in the shower, and he does the same.

We have wee'd in front of each other when on holiday in a bathroom/lavatory combo room, but never, never, no, no, not a poo.

JustAnother · 19/12/2011 18:46

No, absolutely not, even after 13 years. There are things DH doesn't need to know or see.

MaeMobley · 19/12/2011 21:08

Never. I would not be that bothered but DH would hate it.

When DS was being toilet trained I struggled to convince DH that it would be a good idea to take DS in with him to see how boys do it.

MaeMobley · 19/12/2011 21:08

Never. I would not be that bothered but DH would hate it.

When DS was being toilet trained I struggled to convince DH that it would be a good idea to take DS in with him to see how boys do it.

LydiaWickham · 19/12/2011 21:13

only when in labour - and I think I did a poo in front of him then too, but to be fair, there's no way to look like a lady at 9cms...

I wouldn't let DH pee in front of me either. It's no way to maintain the magic.

LydiaWickham · 19/12/2011 21:14

MaeMobley - we're about to start toilet training (after Christmas, too much else to worry about now) and I've had to tell DH to let DS see him pee. This was fine, until DS tried to 'catch!'

Rhinestone · 19/12/2011 21:22

No. Never. Not under any circumstances.

DartsAgain · 19/12/2011 21:47

We don't poo in front of each other, but weeing, yes we do on occasion, and it has no effect on the magic whatever. Neither of us feels it shows any lack of respect, only a comfortable intimacy.

ByTheSea · 19/12/2011 21:51

Not actually in front of each other, but our en suite has louvre doors so it's not exactly behind a locked fully closed door either. He tends not to do it in my hearing or recognition but I have no shame.

maybenow · 19/12/2011 21:58

not deliberately or for fun, but sometimes when we have to...

Beamur · 19/12/2011 22:04

No. DP is very private about his toilet time and I would be most unwelcome, he also does not want to ever come into the bathroom when I'm in there.
On the very rare occasion I have had to go into the bathroom when he was in there he looks absolutely stricken! (in a comedy stylee)
I think I've been more relaxed about this in previous relationships, but prefer it this way.

namechangerbat · 19/12/2011 22:06

Shit on his chest while he sleeps. That will teach him.

ledkr · 19/12/2011 22:11

We do yes.
I remember when we first "met" We'd spend all day in bed doing unspeakable things then id pop into the en suite and put tissue down to stop the sound of my wee,how weird.
This thread has made me think that maybe we should be a bit less "open" though. Hardly maintains the mistique does it?

purplehonesty · 19/12/2011 22:13

Yeah it's no biggie. The weeing I mean, not dh

TinyArmy · 19/12/2011 22:36

Often I will have to wee right at the high point of an interesting conversation so I am guilty of having made DH come into the loo with me when he didn't need to be there so we could keep talking.

I do, however agree with everyone on this thread who says poos are private.

Skillbo · 19/12/2011 22:48

How odd - we wee, poo, whatever really!

It seems odd for your DP to suddenly not want to, OP? Wonder what's brought that on!

piellabakewell · 19/12/2011 23:40

No, we don't, and we don't want to either. We shower together now and again, and have shared a bathroom with two basins on holiday, and wandered in and out then while the other was in the shower...but toilet time is private!

scentednappyhag · 19/12/2011 23:44

I quite often follow DH into the bathroom while he has a wee, I don't like to stop a conversation once I'm on a roll he's a lot more restrained than I am though, and would rather just wait for me to get back when it's the other way round!
Agree that it sounds like a rather sudden ad odd turn around though.

QueenOfFlamingXmasPuddings · 19/12/2011 23:50

No - but mainly because our bathroom doesn't have a functioning toilet - we have five compost loos dotted around outside instead so never any need to share

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