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Gay sex

54 replies

ImperialBlether · 11/12/2011 14:15

I was thinking about the type of sex which many would find humiliating, eg face slapping. Of course, I know that many people get off on humiliating others.

I've never heard of this in gay sex, particularly lesbian sex. Is humiliation as big a thing in lesbian sex as it seems to be becoming in heterosexual sex? What about homosexual sex? Is coming on the face common there?

I just wondered whether this was more of a male-female phenomenon or whether it applies equally in gay sex - having said that I don't really want to google it!

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TheSpreadingChestnutTree · 11/12/2011 21:58

But nothing fabby posts is designed to win friends is it? That's what makes her what she is.

TheSpreadingChestnutTree · 11/12/2011 22:00

Who she is, that should be.

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ImperialBlether · 11/12/2011 22:00

I don't even know what you mean by:

fabby that is not the way to make friends and influence people

She was expressing a sexual preference. What you say doesn't make sense, anyfucker, and fwiw I've seen more bullying towards Fabby than towards anyone else. It's the casual nature of it that I hate, as though nobody will question it because hey, it's Fabby. Disgusting.

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ImperialBlether · 11/12/2011 22:02

She says it as she finds it, TheSpreadingChestnutTree. She's not ingratiating, she's says exactly what she thinks. She's not sly and she doesn't pick on others.

I far prefer her style than "Who's your favourite mumsnetter?"

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TheSpreadingChestnutTree · 11/12/2011 22:05

I was posting in support of her expressing her opinion, just to be clear. She has every right to post what she did imo.

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ImperialBlether · 11/12/2011 22:08

Yes, sorry, I misread it, due to red mist!

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 11/12/2011 22:21

red mist, IB ?

you see a red mist that someone would question a post made for the effect it would have ?

but not the content ?

ok, whatever

bigbird80 · 11/12/2011 22:22

Cumming ( correct spelling) in someone's face is really sexy. I never let him do it though if I have had a blow dry that day as some of it always ends up in my hair... I must admit however that had I not seen it on a porn I probably would have thought it more 'gross' than 'fab'

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ImperialBlether · 11/12/2011 22:51

No, I get a red mist at the way Fabby is treated on here.

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 11/12/2011 23:00

ask fabby if she has an issue with the way I post with her, IB

because my post wasn't aimed at you

in actual fact, it was quite clear who it was talking to

if she has a problem with me, she is at liberty to come back and address it herself

BayPolar · 12/12/2011 04:14

Even though I love servicing my guy, all night long some times, even in my sleep, I really don't want to swallow or have it sprayed over my face.
I think all men would love to do this though.
I wonder what percentage of women actually really like it - the taste, the spraying for England.
Fortunately, being in a relationship where Tantric is the name of the game, meaning that we can go for hours, it's rare to have to find a place for the wad to be shot, because men who practice Tantric often hold off from cumming, even after hours 'at it'.
I could never go back to dating somebody where sex lasted no longer than an hour.
There are poor pickings out there for women, me thinks, when it comes to finding men who really know what they are doing in the sack.

yellowraincoat · 12/12/2011 04:23

It's interesting, the question of what is truly demeaning and what isn't.

I suppose for me it's demeaning if I do something and I don't really enjoy it, but feel I should do it anyway or don't feel I can bring myself to say I don't like it. But then everything we do is conditioned by society. I'm sure some of the stuff my partner and I do would be deemed degrading by some - but honestly, life is short, and if I enjoy it and it doesn't harm anyone and it doesn't make me feel bad about myself, I'm not going to stop doing it.

For sure face-slapping and face-cumming-in happens in gay relationships and not just with people who are into the S&M scene.

lesley33 · 12/12/2011 05:03

IMO it is always straight people who think lesbian sex is always loving in a cuddly and sensual way. In reality I think it varies as much as straight sex. It is probably much less influenced by porn though and I suspect this will be the real difference. But yes there are lesbians into sm, water sports, etc as well as those who would find this humiliating.

But then lesbian sex is practically never represented or discussed except in porn so not surprising that you wouldn't know much about it.

Jacksmania · 12/12/2011 05:19

No, I get a red mist at the way Fabby is treated on here.

Hmmm... gonna go out on a limb here and say that more than a few people get a red mist at some of the shite fabby posts.

LovesBloominChristmas · 12/12/2011 05:46

Ok let's not turn this into a discussion about fabby.

I can't think of anything that's done in heterosexual sex that isn't done in gay sex tbh, some of the actual tools may vary though.

Sparks1 · 12/12/2011 06:48

Anyfucker

I wouldn't waste my time trying to get such drivel removed.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 12/12/2011 09:59

that's what I thought about fabby's post too sparks

fiventhree · 12/12/2011 10:15

I cant see the issue hyere, at all, with Fabby's post. She was expressing a preference about what she likes. Anything between two adults who are truly consenting is not wrong.

Personally, for me, sperm anywhere is not a problem, but faceslapping would be.

LovelyLizzie · 12/12/2011 18:49

I don't see anything wrong with jizz in the face, don't men get our fluids all over their faces all the time? However like anything bedroom related it's a very individual thing and IMHO there is no right or wrong.
Having said that, the first fucker who tries to slap me during sex will be leaving minus his testes.

Malificence · 12/12/2011 19:11

"I think all men would love to do this though"

Then you would be wrong. DH finds it bizzare that a man would want to ejaculate on someone's face, he thinks there is nothing sexy about it whatsoever, the "plasterer's radio" look is not for him.

PiratecatClaus · 12/12/2011 19:16

hahaha-plasterers radio. Grin nice one

baubleybobbityhat · 12/12/2011 19:22

I thought AF said it in a nice jokey kind of way?

Fabby lives to be controversial on Mumsnet. I don't really think she needs defending, does she? Do you Fabby?

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 12/12/2011 19:34

fabby won't be back, she never is

she drops a bomb and jogs on

and thanks, baubley, you see people sticking in their noses in need to read it right in the first place before diving straight in with accusations of "bullying" and suchlike

fabby and I often banter on here, and we have had private conversations where she has said she has no problem with me, nor anyone else, picking her up when she goes a bit out there (her words)

Jacksmania · 13/12/2011 03:17

"out there"??????

Seriously? Shock

Saying Fabby is a bit "out there" is like calling a massive pile-up on the M1 a fender bender.

CheerfulYank · 13/12/2011 03:42

The "truly consent" thing is interesting though; given the pornification of our culture, etc, etc.