Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

lol, snape. lol.

its so funny. so, so funny.

I've got one who wants to brush my hair I mean, why??

I have taken the plunge...

Hurray!! At last!

Time you have been an inspiration. I have poffed myself as an intimate encounter (yes, new verb back there!). The results are OUTSTANDING and that's without a photo from me.

Oh, I'm new on this thread. Hello ladies!

B&A

I haven't put a picture on because I still have my 'other' profile on there. Will give it a day then might hide the other one and put pic on this one. Maybe.

So far, lots of 'hi hun'/hi sexy (bit odd bearing in mind absence of photo!), 2 explicit pervs (deleted and blocked), a few decentish messages but not that attractive.

Jury's still out. Though the decent messages so far are better than the normal. Odd!

:o

Time!! I had a 'hair' one once. Wanted a hairy wank.. like you do with me wrapping my (head) hair around his willy and um... well...

I've just had the "can I brush and play with your hair" one. This is better entertainment than any date!

lubey! I've not heard that one before. Bloody hell some men are weird.

Just received my first cock shot. Feel like I'm one of the gang now

Hi Zany just seen this and I'm fine thanks, glad things are going well with Mr Yacht, where are you heading off to on his Yacht, apart from into the sunset?

Can see most of you are having fun with the IE profiles, has anyone arranged to meet up yet? Still think you should be careful with it and makes sure they realise you not guaranteeing getting intimate unless you want to. I'm not meaning to p--s on your chips.

Watch, if your new contact has the intials TJ he is really fit, go for it.

My fwb has asked me out for this weekend, for dinner out .

Blimey, this thread has got interesting.

I got so fed up on normal dating sites that I joined a niche 'sex' site and have been inundated with offers and through that been dating a lovely guy for 5 months now.

I also met a mates boyfriend (they have been dating for 18 months) at the weekend - gorgeous, attentive, loved up, generous etc. etc. and she admitted to me that she met him on a 'cock' site - basically you see the cocks and choose who to date! I was quite shocked but they are totally loved up and talking of moving in together. Both are in their forties, sensible, sane and great company.

Maybe this is the way forward. Who'd have thought it?

mrscynical, you might be right. I've not even managed to get to a second date on the usual dating sites so who knows, sounds like you and your friend have had a much more positive experience from going down a less conventional route :)

adams, I'm intending to treat this just like normal dating, so if I get on with someone and we agree to meet up for a drink, I might be up for having sex with them later if we get on and theres a genuine spark but if there isnt at all, then that drink will be the end of the evening. And if there is a spark but for whatever reason I don't feel like ending the evening with sex then I definitely wont feel obliged, or put myself in a position where I feel backed into a corner (I have once when I was much younger - I wont again).

meant to add, good news re your FWB and dinner! (although is this the one you said you had feelings for?..are you feeling more ok with it now - or do you think he might be wanting more than FWB maybe?) I'd love to be taken out to dinner, haven't been for ages!

mrscynical god help me, I googled 'rate my cock'

over-night report - I am developing a thick skin whilst poffing - there are a lot few very rude men out there who get all arsey if you look at their profile, think 'my god you're hideous' and ignore them. I've had one or two messages from chaps who seem to think they're gods gift and want to tell me off for not falling at their feet and worshipping them. I am managing to not respond with, 'actually, no I'm not it's just that you're hideous and batting well above your weight if you think you're even getting a sniff of my knickers, bud!'

got my offer of a MMF 3some with two very young bi-sexual boys. declined. bless them. ahw. :)

am almost at the stage of deleting people purely on the basis of their photo for the sake of expediency!

OMG, choosing men on photo's of their c--k!! I expect you get to see their face before you meet aswell. I should tell one of my exes about this site, he will be inundated .

Sponge, I like him alot but only as NSA type thing. The fact that I'm happy to hook up when he asks is making me question myself but I've come to the conclusion that I'm OK with non-committal atm.

adams- and is he ok about hooking up when you ask? if not it seems a bit one sided and i wouldnt be happy with that.

yay to sponge - im treating it the same way as you :) any i meet up with will be told that im not definatley going to have sex with them, we will just see how it goes, same safety rules apply - public meet, etc... tbh, its not really any different from actual dating as far as i can see, other than im the one in control here, not them.

snape - so any one with potential?

time - what about you? anyone worth a meet?

lubey ;) you genius woman you, you should have preached the joys of this before.

my inbox is groaning. Mostly im pressing delete. Some have had my number and then ive not repled past a message or two. Any that have been even slightly disrespectful have been deleted, any that i dont like the look of have been deleted, any with no pics have been deleted, any that live more than 20 mins away have been deleted ( because, really, if i want a shag, i dont want to wait hours for them to get here). But yeah, a few of them im talking to, and have potential ;)

That's a thing, I hardly ever contact him as it doesn't cross my mind to, although I have been told off for not doing so. It suits us both to meet up once in a while, when we are not seeing anyone else that is. It's a strange one and similar to another 'friend' I've had for over 5 years except he lives abroad now and it seems to have fizzled out. He used to invite me to visit him and would often ring when he was living overseas so it wasn't always a booty call.

If I like someones company I will spend time with them whether male or female, all the better if the males are fanciable, as long as I don't feel used or put upon.

adams - that just doesnt seem like a fwb thing then really, not if you arent calling him at all, and its just when he feels like it, he calls you up and you have sex. Isnt it meant to be a two way thing?
damn - if im going to have a fwb i want to be able to text them ' get in my bed yeah' and then, well, they do ;) whats the point otherwise...

:) I like your selection criteria.

I'm deleteing without photo, deleting anyone under my height ( I know, shallow, just doesn't do it for me...) deleting anyone who says 'hi' or 'x' (have now set a 50 character limit, so I can weed out the ones who can't be bothered to string a sentence together...) anyone disrespectful is deleted ('really, I've made your dick hard, just from my photo!? christ, I',m awesome!') too young, too old, not that bothered about distance, but probably looking at around an hour, maybe.

I'm talking to an estate agent (...) a city boy, the tall man from York and having a rather fun River/Doctor role play with a tall guy from well, i have no idea where, i presume gallifrey.

Actually Watch, we don't always have sex and same with my other friend, we do if I choose to. I've also had one or two male friends in the recent past who I never had sex with because I don't fancy them but enjoy their company. I don't ring them as I have a very close family and am busy with that. I'm the same with female friends aswell. Tbh I'm not a very good at keeping in touch as I respect peoples space as I like my own. But my friends know I'm there if they need me.

My current fwb treats me very well when we are together, it's not only about sex although it's a nice benefit. I'm sure he would meet up more often if I instigated it

Anyway how is everyone getting on, any meetups arranged?

I'm staggared at the amount of messages you guys have got, it sounds as though there are a few 'normal' guys in the mix aswell that have potential. I think you've hit the nail on the head Sponge with your summary last night about meeting up and treating it like normal dating, I think we're all quite cautious on here about meeting up in public places etc if we don't know someone.

Loving the idea of choosing your date via cock pictures

How are you Poppa - any dating news?

I am still pretty loved up with My Yacht, if not more so, really do feel that I have found someone special (and the sex is amazing)

Right I need help in sorting out who's who in my facebook. I know Time, Lubey, Stay and Watch but I'm sure I'm friends with Adams, Sponge & Snape - what are your initials?

adams - is that not just ' friends' then? ive got a ton of male friends ) have always got on with males better) who i love to meet up with and hang out with and who i chat to all the time. i enjoy their company, they enjoy mine. thats not a firiend with benefits, thats just a friend, surely?

Adams I think that's absolutely fine - if it works for you (both) then it works. I like the idea that you can comfortably spend time together without having a shag, equally I like that others have our lust-goggles squarely set atop our noses and can just get down to it - we're all different. thats good!

zany I'm DL, I think I have you on fb, lord but it's confusing sometimes!

Zany, I will PM you. I'm sure you are on mine too and I get muddled up.

Just another thought with a FWB situation, its OK to ask a guy round to your place if you have child free nights but much trickier if you don't, especially with an impressionable teen living with you.

adams - i can appreciate that makes it a bit difficult actually. hadnt really thought tha. DD goes to bed really early ( should i ever invited anyone over), 7pm and shes totally asleep.... do you not get any evenings to yourself? Does she not go out?