Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

Welcome benbon. I agree nothing wrong in two dates in a day, there are a lot of frogs to wade through! :)

not entirely sure I want any spare room in my head to contemplate matters other than smoking tbh, but I've managed another day of no carbs, cigs or energy draining men, so all good. :)

HI everyone

Sorry PM is causing you grief Snapes - it does seem like very mixed signals and the fact that his ex got fed up with him talking about you loads speaks volumes so I don't see why he still wants to keep it platonic. See how things are after not seeing him for a while

Glad you had a good Xmas and New Year Time

Seems like he is trying to win you over Watch

How was your Christmas/New Year Poppa with all your family

I had a brilliant Xmas and New Year. Mr Yacht met all my family and got on really well and I spent loads of time with him. My DC's seem to really like him, especially my DS who can be over protective. My DC's had a rough couple of days with their Dad though and are talking about refusing to visit.
Oh and guess who is possibly going on a certain Yacht in March......Meeeee

:) zany - you are proof that it can work! just lovely! :) sorry to hear about DCs and their dad though. :( it'll all wash out. :)

I have a date tomorrow night! His username on GSM is Clandestino if anyone wants to check him out...

Now. The thing is he's one of those that doesn't give much information on his profile or through e-mails. But we're now communicating through personal e-mail addresses so I have his sirname.

I know it's a bit naughty but I've googled him and pages of stuff has come up. He's an actor, a personal trainer, and a former amateur boxer who trained for the British Olympic squad.

And now I have a problem. I think boxing is obnoxious and that men who are drawn towards it tend to be macho idiots. Its put me right off. What do you lot reckon?

Hi everyone

Lovely update Mrs Yacht Zany, I am over the moon for you!! I'm sorry to hear your children are having issues with their dad, hang on in there though, remain a cheerful mummy and you will get them through

make with regard to your date tomorrow, I personally don't think boxing is a problem, he may do it for the exercise more than anything else, because it is excellent exercise. Plus, he is an actor so obviously he is good at boxing/ducking and diving cos he wouldn't want his face smashing in, he would never work again!! . You go to your date and take it as it comes, leave the over thinking until afterwards

well done for (1) date & (2) googling him (....) (3) he's rather handsome. :)

I tend to agree with you on the boxing front I'm afraid, but i think it could be tactfully explored over dinner - he might view it differently - it might be his martial art and have a spiritual side rather than just knocking seven shades of shit out of someone because he likes to be bigger and stronger... you'll need to think of some tactful questions (and then watch million dollar baby a few times..)

Two of my best mates are physiotherapists (PhD's in fact). One loves his rugby union and boxing and the other his soccer and boxing. I don't "get" rugby union (although there are some very admirable bits), I certainly have no regard for soccer and I've never seen boxing as anything but sanctioned assault, but given their sports science backgrounds I guess there's something to it. Dunno.

Thanks Time, the annoying this is my XH will no doubt be telling everyone that I have turned our DC's against him when in actual fact I keep defending him to the DC's and encourage them to talk to him. I have been trying to organise little treats for them like favourite dinners etc so that if they are having a rough time then they have something to look forward to, apart from a big hug from me of course

Makeyour I wouldn't worry too much about the google results, they may not all be him but someone else withthe same name. Meet him tomorrow and of course report [happy]

Zany I learned a long time a go that no matter how nice, accommodating, and pleasing of the ex I am he will never be happy and never have a nice word to say because he is a twat has to be the victim, no matter what. However, I don't let that stop me, I won't allow his attitude to turn me into someone I'm not so I simply ignore and carry on regardless. I refuse to give head space to what he may be thinking or saying, I no longer care because it's all crap! I firmly believe that my DD will come to her own conclusions as she gets's older and that will be due to his own words and actions, not due to anything I have said. It's only a matter of time. So, you keep up the good work with your children and don't let this man get in the way of that.

I need a date - or sum sex

You're all going to shout at me. :( just got a text from Mr detox saying he's being made redundant in 2 weeks. Didn't pass his probation period.

I know I'm cross at him, but he's my friend & I can't ignore that. Can't kick someone when they're down.

Still off the cigs and carbs if that's any help. :(

Thanks everyone - will go on the date and see what he's like in person. Like you say Snapes, something to be tactfully explored over dinner perhaps.

He is very handsome and has also been reliable in so far as - for example - he sent me a quick text this morning to let me know he'd be calling this afternoon to make firm arrangements. I appreciate stuff like that. He could have just called but he was nice enough to let me know he'd be calling and when. I find a lot of online daters so flaky and it just drives me up the wall, so it's nice when a date comes along who's solid about these things.

Oooh I'm getting excited now. I really want to like him.

Well to be honest Snapes I wouldn't have ignored that sort of text off a friend either, no matter how annoyed I was with them.

I've had female friends that have pissed me right off in the past but I've still been there for them in times of crisis, and I know they would do the same for me.

But at the same time, you still need to be keeping yourself in mind as a priority too. If having him around is causing you pain...

Snape I wouldn't have ignored that one either, a friend in need and all that, just don't let him take advantage.....

And to be fair to him he doesn't know your in the midst of a PM detox

Well done for keeping off the cigs! You are doing great!

Make I'm excited for you too and am looking forward to your update. He does sound very nice.

I had a message on POF today telling me I have 'swagga'

Hear that? It's the sound of the barrel being scraped...

At least when I was fat I could kid myself that my weight put men off! and console myself by chain-eating chocolate

Oh! How I long for (ahem!) 'swagga'....

Oooh he sounds lush on the phone! Really nice, easy, confident manner. He asked what I like to drink and what I like to eat and said he would think about a good place to go near to the train station he was meeting me at.

Looking forward to this one folks.

:)

Sounds good Make, I can't stand flakyness either and I think its was lovely of him to ask what you like etc before he decides where to meet. Looking forward to your update.

I would have done the same Snape - he is your friend at the end of the day

snape - you did the right thing, all of us would have done the same, and its partly why im speaking to you know who right now. well done on the no cigs no carbs, you are a glutton for punishment, though soon to be a very thin and healthy glutton for punishment ;)

make - sounds really good - cant wait to hear all about it.

zany - so pleased to hear its all going nicely and a holiday with him too, we are going to end up buying hats arent we!

Sponge - heard from him yet?

i seem to have got myself an early morning texter. 7 fucking am!!! i have agreed to a date ( bowling... quite excited, not been bowling for years) but if he carries on texting at 7am it wont be happening.

Hi

Is it okay of I join you? I signed up to a site a few days ago for the first time so this is all new and a bit strange to me!