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Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Zanywany · 05/12/2011 14:31

Off you go

You know what to do

Xmas Grin
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Snapespeare · 21/12/2011 08:28

sorry to hear about the xmas blues, those that have them.. I'm a little down, so am currently putting 300 xmas songs on my ipod - have wrapping presents at work this afternoon for our 3500 christmas day attendees and then off for some Mojitos with female friend I went to nursery, primary and high school with.

a long haired, heavily tattooed surfer sounds just the ticket watch. let the rum flow freely! I will spend some time over the xmas break re-jigging my various profiles i think in an attempt to be a little more light-hearted& start 2012 witrh a shag bang. :)

adamschic · 21/12/2011 09:47

Sponge, keep strong, you deserve the house because you have your boys and you are doing it with their best interests at heart. These guys from dating sites aren't worth bothering about until they prove worthy.

I've got Zilch going on menwise atm. Don't finish work until Friday and am full of cold. But hey it's nearly Christmas so at least I get a break from work, get to celebrate with people who really matter, my family.

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Zanywany · 21/12/2011 10:08

Really sorry to hear about your brother Stay. I think this time of year it is natural to be sad/feel low as it reminds you of people no longer here.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 21/12/2011 10:11

sponge - glad you have somone coming with you, im really bad at asking people, but have found that if you do ask, someone will ususally help. And fight for your house, all the way. It takes balls to do that, stay strong, head up and go for it.

Men on websites are not worth anything, certainly not worth thinking about for more than a few seconds. Did you see in the news about that young girl who jumped under a train when her date had been cancelled via text? Awfully, awfully sad. Too much emphasis is put on dating when you are single, it should be a fun thing and not fraugh and worrying, you know.

The long haired and most scruffy surfer is phoning me friday, i told him not to call till then because im busy :) im not.

adams - feel better soon, and you are so right about christmas.

snape - have a lovely time.

zany - wine? cheese? pants - to prade around in after said wine. or pants for you to parade in after said wine. i should think he would be happy with either of those :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/12/2011 10:13

and stay - so sorry about your brother :(

Snapespeare · 21/12/2011 10:32

I absolutely get the thing about spending time with those that love you. looking forwards to a quiet xmas with the DCs and contemplating sulking staying in on new years eve with the bunnies as well.

so sad about the girl who jumped under the train - you're right, there is so much emphasis put on being coupled - the xmas songs are doing for me at the moment - all about 'missing you at christmas' blah blah - it would be nice to have someone significant other-wise to miss! (except obviously my mum and people who aren't about, stay - so sorry about your brother. :( ) My blessings are duly counted and I should not be so sodding christmas maudlin!

Date-wise, I have determined that I am River Song and my doctor is out there somewhere, just a bit busy with Daleks and Cybermen to rock-up and make himself known. (emerses self in Doctor Who xmas specials...)

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/12/2011 11:48

im staying in new years too ;) and am hosting a family day for new years day. I like to start the year off with the people that matter not being hungover and wasting the day on the sofa.

Everyone misses people a christmas, without a doubt i shall well up toasting to absent friends.

maybe the plan for everyone, datewise would be to take it less seriously? and enjoy meeting sutiable/ and non sutiable, but still fun men?

Snapespeare · 21/12/2011 13:06

yeah, i did enjoy meeting the two I met this year - nothing came of that - so what - it's still an improvement on matters this time last year... and I enetered into both of those with a spirit of fun and lack of expectation... I think a bit of a rest over xmas and renewed attack vigour for 2012 is the key. quite nonchalant about it - if it happens all well and good, if it doesn't, all well and good. :) and I might actually get a shag out of it Wink or not! Hmm

hatesponge · 21/12/2011 13:14

thank you all for being so lovely, am feeling better today, I have so much other crap going on with work, the house etc that it only takes the tiniest disappointment to tip me over into tears. but am ok now, and I will be more than ok in future. I much appreciate the offers of coming to court as well though I am in the Kent suburbs so a little far away Grin. Glad my friend is coming with me - she is the one who started me off with the whole weight loss thing in January and is a really supportive person, so v good to have around :)

stay :( re your brother. I miss my parents v much at Xmas, I think because I have such lovely memories of my childhood Xmases & it makes me so sad they never saw their GC because they would have made the best grandparents to the boys. So definitely will raise a glass in their memory.

Should be having a group of friends round on Boxing Day BUT I'm possibly having a rethink. We've had a tradition for about the last 7 years that we spend Xmas together (all started cos one of them was single, and I didn't want her to be on her own. Plus Ex was less horrible to me when we had 'company') always at my house, and my expense. which I dont really mind. It used to be on Xmas Eve/Xmas Day. Then moved - to suit one of them - to Xmas Day/Boxing Day. Last yr one was too busy to come other than at 9pm on Boxing Day, so I told her to forget it (the others just came for the afternoon as all 3 were busy with other things on Xmas Day). This year one is busy in the afternoon so is coming in the morning...

and I'm just thinking hold on, I started this so us 4 friends (who've known each other since school) never had to spend any part of Xmas Day on their own (I'm the only one with DC) And yet none of them have thought to ask what the arrangements are with Ex and the boys (last year he took them for a few hours over to his parents on Xmas Day, and I sat at home alone) For all they know it might have been arranged he has the boys Xmas Eve/Xmas Day. None of them have offered me to join their Xmas Day arrangements if I'm on my own. Which they wouldnt know cos they haven't asked. So I just think oh stuff it, I've thought of them for years, none of them think of me at all. Why should I have them all to mine if they cant even ask me what I'm doing on Xmas Day?

Sorry that was so long Blush

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/12/2011 13:33

sponge - yep - they are being selfish. If you are ok with your plans you do have, id be temped not to mention it and just see what happens, then if it is brought up after the event they say something then.

i didnt relalise you were in kent, less than 2 hours drive from me :)

honestly, we shall have to do something about some kind of meet up in the warmer weather.

hatesponge · 21/12/2011 13:54

watch I wasn't sure if I was being mean, but they are a bit selfish. We're all the same age but tbh I feel like their mum sometimes esp when they all come to mine and let me fetch and carry for them all day Hmm

and a definite yy to a meet up once winter is out of the way Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 21/12/2011 14:05

i dont think its mean at all, friendship is a two way thing isnt it.

I get pissed off being the one doing all the running too, so now i dont bother. Now im just old and cynical! :) and dont waste my time on people who dont appreciate it or care back. saves a whole lot of worry and stress.

You will have a lovely christmas, with or without them. And im sure most of us, at some point will be on our own. But thats ok, a lot of other people will be too, and we are lucky to have some people to share some of the time with, people that care, be they family, or friends, or children, doesnt matter. makes me sad to think of people being totally on their own on christmas day, but it does happen.

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Zanywany · 21/12/2011 15:07

Not mean at all. I have a couple of friends like this who take ages to reply, cancel at the last minute etc but then want me to be here for them when they are at a loose end. I decided that my friendship is worth more than that and so this year have concentrated more on other friendships.

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adamschic · 21/12/2011 15:12

Will catch up properly when I can. Just to say I'm staying in on NYE too. Been out the last few and last year was pants. DD reminded me that next year I will have someone to go out with. Herself Grin Told her she wouldn't want to hang around with her mother and she assured me she would.

We should all post on here if we feel down. I will be out with family and at my neices the next day.

PoppaRob · 21/12/2011 15:27

My daughter gave me the shits today, but I spent some time with the GD and the camera today which more than made up for it! Some of you who are on my FB have seen them, but I've popped a couple on my MN profile so you can all say wonderful things about my number one girl! Xmas Smile

prettypurpledaisy · 21/12/2011 17:00

I am in Kent too hates so we are after the same men on pof :) we will have to compare :) I am fed up with it all at the moment. No replies to messages and not a sniff of a date for NY so looks like I will be sitting here on my own again.

Snapespeare · 21/12/2011 20:05

Bit squiffy after tea time cocktails with girlie chum, meeting platonic man at the station for a couple of beers < sprays perfume, applies mascara...>

No point in a lunge, right?

stayformulledwine · 21/12/2011 21:44

Lunge. Variety is the spice of life!

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hatesponge · 21/12/2011 22:29

No wine consumed here, and I say lunge too Grin frankly it's Xmas if you can't lunge at platonic male friend now when can you?

I am shit at advice of course, sober or drunk.

Some developments here - Ds2 is going to a friends so I can go for Xmas drinks with my boss and assorted hangers on on Fri. When I told him I could make it he was really pleased and said he would miss me if I wasn't there Grin

Ex has asked to have the boys at new year as there is some family party he wants to take them to. I was Shock, I now need to make some NY plans asap (I'm always at home with the boys, havent been out properly at NY for about 11 years!)

Oh and I've been exchanging messages on POF with a ridiculously attractive & buff bloke. Think a blue eyed version of Jacob from Twilight Grin Blush. The thought of a date with him gives me slight palpitations!

watchoutforthatsnail · 22/12/2011 10:10

so snape - did you lunge?

sponge - yay to tomorrow then :) fantastic.

feeling all festive today - off for lunch with girls from work shortly :) secret santas and lush food coming my way.

AND - this morning on my drive to work, at the junction just by my work i got stuck in a jam opposite a very nice looking boyman who looked about 20
anyway, he mouthed hi, i mouthed hi and we both grinned like idiots before driving off. My ego likes this :)

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Zanywany · 22/12/2011 11:12

Snapes - lunge details please Grin

Really pleased you can make it for your Christmas snog drink with your boss Sponge

I'm going into panic mode at the moment. Having a party at my house tonight for 20 people but I'm at work and the house is a tip. Ahhhh

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PoppaRob · 22/12/2011 11:26

Relax Zany. I'm sure it's not as bad as you think, besides, it's your charming company they're coming for, not a visit to a show home. Xmas Wink

Snapespeare · 22/12/2011 13:13

no lunging, we ended up back at mine curled up on the sofa watching doctor who. lovely, lovely evening so glad his gf dumped him

my head is splitting now though...

stayformulledwine · 22/12/2011 13:51

Glad you had a nice evening snape! Sore head here too after an impromtu night out that I really shouldnt have gone on. Ah well, its christmas. Nearly.

issey6cats · 22/12/2011 14:00

can i join in on here have only lurked up till now but decided i had better get out there and get a life so far i have only joined POF cos its free, i dont have the dosh to joined paid sites, experience so far lots of interest from guys, a few have messaged for one night, had a laugh but then they have vanished, went for a drink with one guy, nice guy and a gentleman but he wants a jive partner and i cant stand jive so that was that, next one mentioned getting me into bed after exactly ten minutes so bye bye, and at the moment i am talking to a guy who lives in another town but seems genuine will probably arrange a meet after christmas