Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

I work in constrution sponge and some of the engineers are flat out working this week.

I'm feeling a bit meh today. Not looking forward to not having my DC's on Christmas Eve, I think partly jealously as my XH's girlfriend will be the one with them and getting all excited about Santa etc. My DS wants to stay with me. Work is a nightmare at the moment too and my boss has turned into the boss from hell the last week or so, ranting and raving at me which I wouldn't mind if I had actually done anything wrong. Oh well, I break up Thursday so looking forward to spending tim ewith my family (and Mr Yacht)

Hope everyone is OK. How are your grandchildren Poppa

Forget him Sponge, you are no man's option, if he can't make the time for you now, as he committed to then he can bollocks!! He didn't even have the decency to let you know he was too busy to make the date but yet he has been online. Never mind goodwill to all men, what about goodwill to all women!!

Keep smiling Zany, you have a lot to look forward too, this crappy phase will pass

Time you're probably right :)

However I think I will give him one more chance, as it's Xmas and I'm more interested in my boss anyway so if anything happens in the meantime there I'll just bin this one off anyway

I know Time, think its just PMT.

When are you meeting your boss sponge to snog discuss business

Whassup time? You seem a bit venomous tonight!
Love Actually was on the tellie tonight so I've watched it 3 times in 2 weeks. Definite mood improver!

The grandies are good zany. My stepson and his partner and her two girls are staying here xmas night so they can get pissed we can go to the beach on boxing day. The lost soul grandson is coming boxing day with his mum and sister, so lots of kids and lots of fun and more drinking.

I did the shopping for the christmas day bbq tonight! I know you Poms are used to paying through the nose for red meat but I spent $77 on 8 smallish pieces of rump steak, 12 chops and 20 sausages! Even cheap rump steak is $14 a kilogram and lamb chops are $12 a kilogram! Lamb chops used to be $6 a kilogram before the drought, but the farmers are holding stock back for breeding to rebuild their flocks so the prices are up. So christmas is nicely on track! Yay!

Not venomous at all and nothing is up! Just stating the facts as they are. I could watch Love Actually a dozen times and I wouldn't give a guy who couldn't be bothered to make the effort and who I had to chase a second chance. especially if I had the boss lined up

sponge - i agree with thim actually. He didnt even tell you that, you had to contact him before he said that, if he was actually busy he would have let you know off his own back..

love actually makes me wail! every single time emma thomson goes upstairs to cry silently.... I weep buckets of tears. we're watching the wizard of oz :) far less traumatic!

mmmmmmmmmmmmeat poppa! :) we're having a leg of lamb and hopefully some ham/turkey breast. I never buy meat full price, so it will depend on what is in the yellow-ticket cooler on xmas eve at 6pm. the lamb (which was, of course half price) is in my freezer, so we'll definitely have something if nothing else can be found.

no point in internet dating until the new year now..xmas drinks with lovely friend tomorrow night and possibly drinks on friday, then i am taking to my sofa and jolly well staying there.

Oh I want a date before Christmas. I want a snog too.

i shall attempt to get roaring drunk on my xmas drinks night out and slobber all over a random gentleman just so I have actually been kissed this year! :)

As usual I agree with Time Sponge. The date was for tomorrow?! That right? And he was clearly not even going to bother letting you know....NEXT!

Oh and good luck for friday with the boss man.

I am feeling very unchristmassy today, actually pretty worn out with all the hassle of christmas and the staggering amount of stuff going on with the schools for the kids. I cannot wait for it to be over with. Bah humbug :)

snape - good plan!

stay - when do they break up then? dd broke up friday gone.

and well, i have a date for 2012. With a long haired, heavily tattooed, surfer. Fuck yes!!! this will be a rum date and not a coffee date :) :) :)

Thursday is their last day up here. Still have three christmas shows to attend, not to mention the christmas parties! Work friday night and saturday day time, then christmas eve and christmas morning chaos. The only thing I will be doing christmas day evening is drinking wine and lying on the couch, thanking god its all over!

A date for 2012 already?! Go you!

ah - thats a lot, no wonder you are stressed. :(

2012 is not far away.... lol

ok, so I do ignore/block tomorrow's date then? I doubt he would even notice if I blocked him of course.

Not going on Friday now, no-one to have the boys. So that's that.

And I've remembered I have to go to court in January to fight over the house with the Ex. He will turn up with his scummy family and GF, and I'll be there on my own. I don't have even one person who can be bothered to go with me. So I'll have to put up with all their sneering & snide comments on my own, which will suit them because they all think I'm a bitch who has no friends and will never get a boyfriend. :(

sponge - you sound down:(

i would block and delete tomorrows

pospone fridays, its close to xmas so he will understand.

and can really noone go with you to court? noone at all? Have you asked and said how important it is? or are youi doing what i woiuld no, which is wait for someone to offer and feel shit when noone does?

sponge let's look at this from a different point of view. Wednesday guy is a cock so no loss there. Your ex is an ex because he isn't good enough for you, the gf has your cast off. You are not a bitch, you do have friends and your boss is showing signs of being keen on you. It's all good!

Terms of the court, you are fighting and by yourself. A lot of women roll over and go along with anything for an easy life. Be proud of yourself, you are strong.

Friday night sucks yes, but it can be rearranged, it can't be helped if there is noone to have your kids. There will be another time! Chin up

thanks you two :) I've had a little cry cos it was all getting a bit on top of me and now feel better.

stay you're right, fri can be rearranged (it was a group thing, next time of course we can go just the two of us... :)) and yes, weds night man is a cock. if we'd gone on a date, he's prob the sort of bloke who would have been all nicey-nicey til the third date simply in order to get a shag and then I wouldnt have seen him for dust. so he's just saved me a bad start to 2012.

my ex is a complete tosser, I am most def well rid of him (it will be 4 years ago on boxing day since I finished it after he spent all Xmas day moaning about me getting a Happy Xmas text from a male colleague, in between telling me how fat and ugly I was and how no-one would want me). I gained 6 stone in the first 2 years we were together that's how great he made me feel. Oh and after we broke up he caused trouble with every man I met (threatening texts to them, beat one guy up just for talking to me, and so on). He's a terrible bully with no respect for women at all. I'm probably the only woman who's ever stood up to him. His father is exactly the same, they joke in front of the children about how they're going to get a load of money off me for the house The fact I'm fighting the court thing pisses them off no end.

watch, yes I don't ask I do hope people will offer (probably because the only thing I do ever ask about - having the boys - everyone is suddenly busy...) however I have now asked a really good friend and she (hopefully) will be able to come with me. so all is not lost.

and my Xmas food shop has been delivered :)

Stay strong Sponge. You are doing really well by fighting them. Are you close to the East MIdlands because I'll come with you for moral support, any time.

I'm feeling alot more organised now both at work and at home but have stupidly asked my DS's football friends round on Thursday night so there will be 20 odd kids/adults.

Stressy day at work again but only 2 more days. Spent most of the evening telling the dog to leave the tree alone, she iis now 2 years old but thinks she is a puppy.

Your Christmas sounds lovely Poppa with your family around you and lots of sun. x

Ideas please for an Xmas present for Mr Yacht.

Darling sponge if you live nearish me (Lincolnshire) I will happily come to court with you and hold your hand. I will wear my Mumsnet scarf and be very, very intimidating.

I mean 20 or so people, not 20 odd people

sponge glad you are feeling better, amazing what a little cry can do! I ended up having one myself earlier tonight, the 17-20th of december is always a shit time for me anyways because its the span of when my brother went missing to being found and I still miss him very much, coupled with feeling very stressed atm anyways. Tomorrow is another day! :)

zany, something related to The Brady Bunch or maybe Gilligan's Island? Then again The Boat That Rocked might be better - if the boat's a'rockin' don't come knockin'!