Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

Awh sponge you are missing the boss thats fab! I hope your finger is better soon. How long are you going to give Wednesdays date to reply before you bin him? in favour of the boss

Maybe you should suggest to your boss that you meet up over the weekend to discuss your 'career move', he does seem to be so very busy during working hours

the fingers ok really I'm just being a whinger! Weds date is really odd, he always replies straight away, yet now 3 hrs have passed and nothing! weird...I will give it a couple of days (I'm out tomorrow and Sat so wont be online for a bit) and then give up on him.

Re my boss, lol at meeting over the weekend I can wait..for now!

I have had 2 messages, one from a nice sounding man in York who likes fly fishing, and the other from a very nice looking farmer in Norfolk who's profile says he is a widower. I can't see any red flags, both of them could spell, neither of them were inappropriate, yet.

Also, how long do I wait to answer these messages? I have an inbox full.

Erm, are you bragging or complaining Santa?

I would just reply to the ones I felt comfortable with and delete/block the rest. I do tend to do a lot of blocking as some men don't like not receiving a reply to their "Hi" and can come back with quite abusive messages.

You sound to be doing ok, those messages you mentioned seem pretty good. Now to arrange the date!

Good luck santa! I did the same as time and just blocked the ones that just said hi. There is no timescale when replying, if you like the sound of someone's message, then reply!

Morning folks, hope everyone is well

Morning stay

All is well here. I'm looking forward to DD finishing school today and the countdown to Christmas Day!! This is going to be the best one in years!!

I would say reply straight away to the ones you like the sound/look of Santa and then either ignore or block the others.

You sound really excited about Christmas Time .

Sponge maybe like Time says you should meet up with your boss over the weekend - to discuss work of course

I have had a pretty crappy week and will be glad when its over. I have managed to get quite a few presents though which is good. I feel really annoyed with my Dad and to cut a long story I feel he is bending over backwards to be far too nice to my XH and he doesn't deserve it. Was really upset over it all last night.

I'm out on my works piss up lunch todayand then I'm seeing Mr Yacht later and spending the day with him tomorrow

Hopwe everyone is OK

I am excited Zany, so is DD, we can't wait!

Don't let things get you down. Tell your dad that if he wants to be friends with The Ex then you can't stop him but you don't like it and you don't want to hear anything about his continued relationship with him. Meanwhile, have a great Christmas lunch and enjoy your time with Mr Yacht, focus on the positives and don't give the negatives head space, it's not worth it.

Ah zany I understand that one. It was my stbxh birthday end of November. My dad got him a card and a present. How nice considering he rarely bothers to see or phone me and the kids and I have heard from him only once since I separated! Also the fact that my ex has been abusive towards me during and after the marriage! just ignore and enjoy your Christmas with the kids and mr yacht

Replied to the 2 I like most, and got a great long reply back within 5 minutes from both of them

Glad you guys understand as I do tend to be over sensitive. WHen my XH and I were splitting up he was violent towards me, has been aggressive several times in the last few years, the most recent 4 months ago in front of our DC's. He is far too strict with the DC's, in fact I had to tell him recently that he wasn't to hit/kick them otherwise they wouldn't go to him. Apart from this he is a good person but doesn't put the children first which they have been very yupset about recently. So... what does my Dad do but a DVD of them playing the guitar at my family reunion along with some other things, he told me last night he has also added music to it but my favourite bloody singer who I have staked met a few times and adore. I don't want my family to be rude to him like his are to me but feel that this has gone over then line. Even my sister invited him to a New Years Eve family party and not me. Just feel very let down and knowing my XH he will take this as proof that my family didn't agree with me splitting up with him as looking back he did the same thing with his first wifes family.

I know I should move past it, I have told them repeatedly how I feel and it hasn't changed. Don't want top end up bitter about it but feel very hurt at the moment. Already dreading New Year in case my family try to meet up with him.

Hang on a minute. You had to tell him recently not to hit/kick your children? Is that right?! if he is doing either, he shouldnt be getting within ten yards of your bairns zany :( he is not a good person. I used to say that about my ex...oh apart from this that and the other, he is a good bloke. A good bloke doesnt hurt women, or children.

sorry, slipped into scottish mode. Children. bairns

It has been a smack which I don't agree with and he knows this. I said a while ago that I didn't agree and to find another punishment if needed. His lovely girlfriend suggested putting her in reins, she is 8 FFS. So again I said no. My dc's told me about a month ago that he had kicked her on the bum when he was cross and said 'your mum didn't say I can't do this' - I don't think it was hard but again I told him that in no way was that acceptable. My Dad knows all this. I think alot of this is his girlfriends influence as she is very strict and when we were together he wasn't like it.

A smack is different in terms of it being a much debated but not illegal form of punishment so as much as you disagree i dont think a whole lot can be done there. Kicking her bottom however is bang out of order and if that was my ex, he would not be having my children without supervision! A grown man kicking an eight year old is disgusting.

It's so much easier when they're little. The GD was in bitch mode today so I suggested seeing as she obviously didn't want to stay with me I'd have TJ (one of the step GDs) instead and the GD could stay with someone else. She thought that was hilarious until she asked who she'd be staying with and when I told her that was up to her Mum and Dad so she better ask them, but I would miss her and I'd still see her sometimes... probably. I'd put a load of her washing through and was folding it and she was very helpful putting it away and announced "Clothes stay with Poppa. Kierah stay with Poppa". She was exceptionally cuddly and sucky uppy for the rest of the day.

Hi everyone, still lurking, not dating. Had a fab night at our works Christmas do, yesterday, well I did when my friend arrived and we left to go up town . I was quite good with colleagues as I had to sit with a very nice one (married unfortunately). Didn't even talk to any men up town but still had fun. Got to do it all again tonight at a dinner dance with my Dsis at a dinner dance . I love this time of year.

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It is very quiet on here today. Seen one on pof I quite like, can you still send messages even if your profile is hidden? Not ready to reactivate mine just yet but been having a little nose around in case I miss a good one (as if!).

Oh not bragging, seriously not bragging. I hope nobody thought I was. Just shocked, and rather amazed.

I now have 4 very nice sounding men that I am exchanging messages with. I'm not ready to go onto the live chat bit, or anything else, so they will have to put up or piss off. The fly fisher from York and the widowed farmer from Norfolk have now been joined by an Army engineer from Staffs, and best of all (and the one I am liking the most atm) an avionics engineer from quite nearby. He seems lovely, very level headed and friendly, and lots of very nice photos to drool over.

Hopefully, my faith in people will be restored.

santa sounds like it's going well keep us posted! have any of them asked for a date yet? (they will if they havent already!)

adams, sounds like you had a good night :) did you ever hear any more from the guy with the communication probs or did you block him in the end?

daisy, you can email with a hidden profile. they will be able to see your profile once you've contacted them but you still wont come up in searches.

well I was out last night with my local friends. What started off as a fun, but fairly quiet night in a pub in our town ended up with us going on to a great bar in another town til past 2am! I might also have got somewhat tipsy and snogged a rather attractive young man

It was all very like going back 15 years (this was what I spent most of my weekends doing back then) and of course, as back then although I gave him my no, he hasnt called me! At least I still have my date(s) to fall back on!

Aaaaaaand the first weirdo has arrived. [vhmm]

Messaged me last night, said what a lovely profile I had (thanks guys!), seemed perfectly normal. Messaged him back, said thank you, was just generally polite.

Just got a message back, pages long, how pleasing I am, yadda yadda, finished up with if I get another horse he would like that very much as he could help me look after it.

He lives in fucking Wales. I live in Lincolnshire. Is he planning on moving in already?

Blimey Stratters that is a bit full on! Like the others would say, delete and block!

I have done Headley. I didn't know whether to giggle or cry! I've also had an invite to have my photo taken with a Barbary Ape.