Ok, this is the deal: Im married and he's married. The problem is we arent married to eachother. He's the landscaper of the development where I live and we started talking and we've had sex twice. The second time he actually wasnt able to "perform" iyswim. My issue with this is that he never makes contact with me. He never texts me (he says that he's scared that my DH will see the messages) and he only calls me when I send him a txt. My question is: is he using me just for sex? It is obvious that I dont want a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship but I do think we could talk to eachother once in a while. Please refrain from making judgements because I KNOW i shouldnt be cheating but my marriage is complicated and in fact ive caught my DH cheating on me (more than once!).