DP is always going on about other men contacting me. On halloween I went out with friends which he went on and on and on about before I actually went out saying he wanted to come with me and why am I wearing that and why why why - anyway on this night out I bumped into an old college friend. Don't know him that well, never any romantic connection but a familiar face so obviously we talked and a photo of him "strangling" me (complete with zombie attire) appeared on facebook. Now DP goes on and on about this bloke, especially since the guy texted me afterwards saying he'd like to arrange a night out with a few people from college and has text me since then about silly stuff (old woman on train dancing etc) which he sends to everyone. DP is obsessed with him, calls him a tosser, says he hates him (has never met him) and that he doesn't want me going on a night out if this bloke is going!! so already I'm feeling that if I DO decide to go on this night out, I'm going to have to lie about who else is going because it's a damn site easier than telling DP this guy will be there.
He's also going on and on about my ex. I havn't seen my ex in over 4 years but he occasionally posts something stupid on my facebook wall - (eg. "look at this south park video, so funny lol" ) and again DP HATES my ex, wants to punch him, insists he wants to get back with me etc etc
Last weekend we went out with a group of his friends and he insists that ALL the blokes in the bars were "eyeing me up" and thats why he worried when I go out alone. I do not get "eyed up" more than any other average 30 year old!! He went off in a mood yesterday because I added a couple of his friends (one male, one female) to facebook afterwards (simply to see the photos from the night out but also because I and could well imagine myself being a part of this social circle as we all got on so well) but DP is now worried that I fancy this male friend and I found out today that straight after he discovered I'd added his friend, he tried to add my best friend to HIS facebook (who he briefly met once) presumably to make a point!! (me and friend just find it hilarious so he's made himself look a bit daft really!).
But in all seriousness it is REALLY stressing me out. He constantly goes on and on about it, second guesses everything I do, everything I wear, everything I say - has recently suggested that condoms are missing from my bedside table 
and gives me a hard time everytime I go out to the point where I'm starting to avoid going out as it's easier 
A christmas do has been arranged and yesterday he went in a mood because he learnt that over blokes are going - because naturally I'll have to sleep with them all.
It's ok for other men to send the occasional text or facebook message isn't it?? It's ok for me to go out alone with friends and not expect a massive inquisition about it isn't it? This isn't right is it?