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When would YOU expect him home?

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 20:21

My DH went to a nightclub this morning (a daytime dance party). It started at ten this morning. I'm here with the four of them clearing up after our news year's house party last night.

What time do you think he ought to come home?

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7777777 · 01/01/2006 21:22

im sure your hubby will eat the remainders if hes been boozing allday, i know i used to be starving when i used to go out before having kids, those were the days.

Thomcat · 01/01/2006 21:23

So he's taking the pee a bit then now, well he massively owes you one. Fair play he needs to let his hair down but all day and all night..... hmmmmmmmmm, that's the trouble, once they are out....give them a inch aye... well I look forward to hearing about you massive night out.

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 21:29

Good point 7777777. He probably will manage the chilli which has already been reheated twice. Hehehehehehe!

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Beetrootoyourself · 01/01/2006 21:36

so he won't ber back until 12. He said he was staying until the end!! Jesus, what can he be doing all that time? I would have gone shoping after a couple of hours

TIREDofwrappingpressiesEMMA · 01/01/2006 21:39

I doubt my Dp would be back early, he would have to cane the arse out of it and be the last one to leave. ( he seems to have difficulty accepting the fact that he's not a young raver anymore- and likes to show that he can still keep up with the young un's)

7777777 · 01/01/2006 21:43

oh dear spidermama poor hubby could have the trots tomoro if he reheats the chilli for the 3rd time AND a hangover as well. make sure you tell the kids to "go and play with daddy" and snigger to yourself listening to him moaning!

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 21:52

You know what I'm saying TIREDofwrappingpressiesEMMA.

I'm kind of glad he still has the ability and the urge to cane it quite honestly. As long as it's just once or twice a year.

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Mercy · 01/01/2006 21:52

Is he not back yet??

I would have agreed in advance an approximate/reasonable time for him to be home. And at least to be contactable.

Easier said than done, I know. Is this a one off for him?

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 21:53

The last one was this time last year Mercy. I'm pleased for him really because he has earned it. but I'm very jealous too.

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TIREDofwrappingpressiesEMMA · 01/01/2006 21:54

if it was everyweek then id be pissed off, as its once in a blue moon then id probably just go along with it but make sure he pulls his weight when he gets home.

plus the fact that your are on baby no 5!you should have your feet up- not cleaning up from last night.

where has he gone to anyway? is it a pub thing or an actual event?

JoolsToo · 01/01/2006 22:00

I don't get this thread - you ask the question like you're but it seems you're not???

Mercy · 01/01/2006 22:00

OK. once a year is nothing and if you think he deserves it then fine. I do understand your envy though

Are you really expecting a baby?

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 22:01

I'm NOT on baby number five. There's another poster called 'spidermum' who is on number five. She is not me.
It's a little close for comfort though.

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 22:02

I'm torn jools. The wine has helped the feelings subside. As have the words of Harpsi.

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TIREDofwrappingpressiesEMMA · 01/01/2006 22:09

god.im so sorry. teach me to wear glasses while on here.

really, really sorry- i hope i didnt offend you.

FlossNutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 01/01/2006 22:15

My best bet if DP is out is to let him be so he gets all lovey dovey drunk and has to come home (often ridiculously early!!) simply because he misses DS and I. He hardly goes out now either though. Either one of us is always working.

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 22:18

Not at all Emma. I'm a little freaked myself as I only came across my nearly namesake this evening. You're not the only one to think I'm pg.

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 22:54

I just called him and he's still there. Now I am angry.

Two hours ago he said he'd leave at ten. (12 hours after the party began). That was pretty bad but I got over it and tried to cut him some slack.

I really didn't expect to be going to bed on my own tonight. I didn't even expect to be putting the kids to bed on my own ffs.

Oh dear. I feel and argument coming on.

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JoolsToo · 01/01/2006 22:56

he must have some stamina that's all I can say!

unless he's had a kip in the corner

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 23:03

He must have had some food too. I know him. He can't cope without his food.

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sparklymieow · 01/01/2006 23:04

I would have gone mental about 6pm. But then I would have gone with him Used to love dancing.

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Spidermama · 01/01/2006 23:30

Right then I'm off to bed so that I can lie awake worrying about bird flu (thanks BBC news) and wondering when my husband might come home.
Sadly for him there won't be much room for him in the marital bed by the time my baby and I have stretched out and made ourselves entirely comfortable.

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7777777 · 02/01/2006 08:33

morning spidermama hope you and baby enjoyed marital bed and hubby enjoyed sofa presuming he came home?x

tigermoth · 02/01/2006 08:52

Hope all is calm in the spidermama household this morning.

He definitely owes you one.

So, he went out partying with a group of friends you both know - a social scene you belonged to as much as your dh.

Now I know you say that after 2 hours 47 minutes of wildness, your sensible mother alarm clock rings, but even so, you still like these friends and their wild ways, don't you?

Now, unless you are really happy to leave those friends and that scene far behind, do make sure that everyone (your dh and the friends) realises that the next time such an opportunity occurs, it might be you, not your dh who goes out to party. Why settle for a nice quiet and sedate spa day as a pay back, unless that is what you truly want.