When would YOU expect him home?

[Spidermama]

My DH went to a nightclub this morning (a daytime dance party). It started at ten this morning. I'm here with the four of them clearing up after our news year's house party last night.

What time do you think he ought to come home?

Expat do you know something I don't?

Spidermama, tell us more about the party, we are all bewildered about a drinks thing starting at 10am on NYday!

Oh, ok I had an idea that he was out on a mad drug fuelled bender and that you should be worried . As it is he is just being a selfish so and so. I agree with hunker

It's the knock on effect on the next day as well isn't it?

bad enough he's been out all day keep you awake snoring all night & be flippin useless in the morning!

Have fun thinking of what you're going to do with the pay back hours!

tbh.... if this was me (not dh) I wouldn't have expected to be home before the eveningif the party is still going on.... unless we had agreed specifically that I would be home by X time
but I would have set the groundwork for this before I went
so no I wouldn;t be cross, esp if he works hard and hadn;t been out for a long time
And I would expect him to return the favour

{this would be dh's idea of hell, so he would have used me as an excuse not to go/not to drink/come home at lunchtime...}

It's a bunch of people we used to go clubbing with in various venues (a scene if you will) which we were part of in days of yore some seven or so years ago before having children. Some of them still 'ave it large on a fairly regular basis, and others (like my dh) join then every once in a while.
I'm very jealous. I used to love the whole thing but just don't get to do it any more. I don't have the energy spare to dance all day.

Et tu Harpsi? Don't spoil it. I had 100% support for one brief moment.

Oh, ok, thanks for explanation. So a load of childless people then? If he's contrite I'd probably raise a stern eyebrow but then say 'fine but you OWE me for tomorrow am/pm/night

sorry Spidermama
sounds like he's having a fab time
and if you can be happy for him then you can get loads of brownie points and feel very mature

He'll pay!!After all kids don't let you get any peace when your hungover,do they.
They'll be so overjoyed at seeing him home tomorrow, they'll want to run in and jump all over him

True jac. I won't stand in the way of their re-bonding with him .. all day.

Harpsi you're so right and the good, chilled, nice wife inside me totally agrees with you.
Sadly for him the bitter, overworked old cow is in ascendance at the moment.

Perhaps some yoga could beat her back down. Plus some plans for an equivalent re-fuelling for myself.

yes! exactly
why? wouldn't you give yourself fun for that long?? you deserve it. there are two of you
take a day off
take a weekend off
why not?

I find these days I can only do total hedonistic abandon for about two hours and forty seven minutes. After that I start thinking about the kids and what they need and what I haven't done then the whole thing grinds to a halt.

It makes practical sense. Any longer and the work starts building up.

God that sounds miserable! I don't don't really mind. I chose to have four after all.

spidermama, that's a very specific amount of time, 2hrs 47 minutes!

I carry a stopwatch wherever I go WWW. I also set an alarm. When it gets to two hours forty two minutes I know I have five minutes to wind down and make the transition from fun-loving gal to frumpy beast of burden.

If it started at 10am I'd expect him home about 7pm ish, something like that.

I'm guessing he spoke to you about wanting to go to this before he went and it was all cool?????? I think as long as if you want to go out and have a similar tear up, you can, there shouldn't be a problem, esp if he last went out a year ago.

I get that you feel but just sort your own night out asap.

Happy new year, TC xx

Hope you get a weekend away for yourself-my dp often stays out all night! so then i at least get some head space away weekends

Is he back yet!

No notasheep. He'll be back a little before midnight, assuming he doesn't get caught up in a 'chill out' event. Ah! Those were the days.

Happy New year to you too TC.

I've ordered delivery of a curry we can ill afford so am feeling much better. I had to get two side dishes to bring the cost up to a tenner so they'd deliver.

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Enjoy your curry and Happy New Year.

If this was my dp,he wouldnt be back til tomorrow!

Dont worry either.

Way hey RnB. I'll take you up on that.
Happy New Year!

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