surrendered wife

[ilovearnold]

Has anyone read the book and adoted its philosophy........................................????

I got 84...

if I acted like this woman says, my husband would lose all respect for me, rightly so too.

And what's with the first to apologise bollox? if I'm wrong I will apologise if I'm not then hell will freeze over before I do.

I always think that this kind of set up suits abusive/entitled/controlling men perfectly :(

Well yeah. What normal man would want this? Who would pick a domestic goddess sex robot over a living, breathing person who you can rely on, can have interesting conversation with, genuinely share interests with, and have great sex with precisely because you're both emotionally into it?

i have read the book, and i dont understand all of it or can see how it can work, like never giving your opinion, and your husband having to automatically psychically knowing your needs and desires and preferences.

however some of it makes sense, it refers to surrendering control not surrendering to dh.

the bit that made the most sense was where it said if dh cleans the kitchen and you go after him as it is not done to your standards and do it again, then next time he wont bother as he knows you are going to do it anyway, so just chillax.

That makes sense nailak. But surely that's just about seeing your DH as an adult who is capable of doing stuff without your input rather than consciously relinquishing control, since if you're treating each other like equals, you should both control how you do stuff yourself and not worry about how the other one is doing XYZ.

Annie the you chose him, so he can't be all bad bit does make sense to me.

DH and I watched the Wife swap episode with our jaws dropping.

That woman was a zombie and a crap mother

There was something lobotomised about her, wasn't there?

The bit about ignoring her kid so she could go up and shag her horrific husband on demand........what the actual fuck?

No, and no.

I got 90, not a surrendered wife at all, we're equal and respect each other

One things for certain, I don't apologise quickly (or at all sometimes)

From what I can gather with that quiz a bottom score might mean and not so happy marriage for whatever reason and the higher it is the more it's an easy going marriage.

Was the Wife Swap one where she used to run a bath for him as soon as he got home from and put on up in a kimono dress and then shag him whilst the son sat down stairs waiting?

That's the one Moin

Really lambeth? What about abusive relationships?

has anyone got a link to the wife swap?

Originally it was just about not being a control freak.
And honestly, nobody sane sticks with it if they find their partner pissing away their time or money on other women/booze/horses/drugs/other stupid things.
It's been taken over by people who want to justify craziness.

DH and I bought this about 10 years ago when it came out, as a laugh.

It is one of those books where someone starts off with the germ of a good idea (stop treating your DH like like your children, stop doubting his abilities) and totally ran the wrong way with it (yay! the power has been cut because I made sure not to remind him to pay the fucking electric bill).

I am a bona fide pinny-and-a-kerchief wearing house wife, and both DH and I found the book funny (in a way) and a bit sickening.
I may depend on him financially, but he depends on me to handle everything else. We repect each other as equals, but in most things, I get the final say (strong matriarchal family line )
If my DD said she was becoming a surrendered anything, I would kick her proverbial ass.

That quiz is bollocks though. I scored 84. I don't think that makes me a good 'surrendered wife', because I don't think the questions are about being surrendered!

I scored 92

I'm not in the least surrendered, more horizontal laid back. He's already got one mother and it's not me.

Can't find a link nailak

I can't remember the names but I can remember that she was living the 'Japanese' way of marriage.

Also I can now say confidently that putting 'wife swap japanese wife' does NOT find videos of the episode

moln lol i dont even want to try that

I just tried a search on "Wife swap documentary"

I thought I'd be safe with that..........

The secret life of suburbia..........

I scored 94. I work f/t and DH is currently SAHD who does all the cooking amost all the time and certainly pulls his weight with housework. We're best friends, is all. Surrendered? Bollocks!

I remember that epsode of Wife Swap. It was actually quite heart-breaking. The husband was a pig.

That poor poor boy, left on his own while his Dad and Stepmum went upstairs to get jiggy. He was an only child, but was never allowed to have friends round in case they made a mess. And the wife had some sort of awful OCD thing about cleaning. She actually stated that women who read books or watch telly with their families in the evening instead of cleaning an already spotlessly clean house at 10.00pm are "lazy". Dreadful scary insight into how other folk live,.

And yes. I have read the damn book. Totally incomprehensible shite.

List of all available wife swap episodes if that helps anyone.