Surely I am entitled to privacy?!

[FruitloopSalad]

DH and I used to leave the bathroom door open... I have recently felt increasingly uncomfortable about this. I now prefer to close it. He has just got the hump because I wouldn't let him clean his teeth while I used the loo.

SURELY this is something about which I am entitled to change my mind? And surely he should respect that?! He already puts EVERYTHING I do into his diary (I must add he doesn't stop me from doing anything - but he likes to know everything I am doing, down to the exact timings of my dentist appointments). Am I not entitled to a little bit of privacy??!!

I've put in here as I think it's more relevant to relationships... But AIBU?

Do you have kids?

Is there anything stopping you going away this weekend - by yourself?

gosh, how cruel of you to string your DH along like this (H mind you, the H you made vows to - did you actually say the 'honour' bit, when you said your vows, to your H?)

We can all get in sticky situations but this falling in love malarkey - sorry, don't buy it. Your 'best friend' vomit knew all along you were married (as, I assume, did you). As others are saying, things like this don't 'just happen'.

You initially presented your husband as a dramatic device a shadowey (bathroom/nerdy/cloying) figure in your posts, except that most were up in arms at what appeared to be stalky/controlling behaviour, as described by you - you had us there! Now it's clear you have given him every indication that he needs to (or can't help) record/ing your every move. Then you say you're trying to work out which one you want - you blush, coyly.

And they say that falling in love is falling in love with yourself . You and loverboy are probably going through tortured agony about all this. awwww.

I agree that H sounds "clingy and whiny and suffocating" and FruitLoop has probably grown out of him. That still doesn't justify slithering around behind his back, being girlishly besotted with another man, etcetera.

If H can't handle being told his marriage is on the rocks, that's his problem not OP's. Very sad but it's not her responsibility to fix his ishoos. Keeping him in the dark in case an affair fizzles out, however, is a problem caused entirely by OP.

FruitLoop, what's so bad about calling time on your marriage even if your affair doesn't work out? Would it be better, in the long run, to be free to pick and choose a partner?

H is probably clingy and wants to know about appointments etc because he harbours some suspicions about what the OP is up to - with some justification by the sounds of it.

TBH, if anything would drive me into the arms of another -it would be not being able to have a poo in private. I bet Shirley Glass didn't think about that