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Original poster

What happened when you rang woman's aid?

29 replies

sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 10:29

I need to call them. I am scared.

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cestlavielife · 21/10/2011 10:31

they will listen to you.
just call them. talk to them.

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 10:33

If I call from my mobile, will they call me back?

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/10/2011 10:36

if you ask them to call you back then they will i THINK

These people are helpful too

www.ncdv.org.uk/

you need to act quickly this morning as there is usually only minimum cover at the weekend and this slows things down.

Try to stay calm, easier said than done I know.

bellsring · 21/10/2011 10:38

sweepit - They are very helpful, friendly and understanding people.

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 11:00

I wimped out & e-mailed them.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/10/2011 11:03

do you want to talk here, OP? offload a bit, might help.

Are you safe? are your kids safe?

izzywhizzysfritenite · 21/10/2011 11:08

Women's Aid will not respond to your email by phoning you.

Why do you feel you cannot call the number?

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 11:10

Oh will they not. Bugger. I'll have to call them.
I have a thread notsuchasmugmarriednow

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GypsyMoth · 21/10/2011 11:10

I have called once for advice for someone else...... V good response, gave numbers for local stuff

First time was for me, to escape there and then. They double checked I was actually going to leave and told me to get a taxi to a car park where a female worker would meet me. She did. It went from there

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/10/2011 11:10

Do you work for womens aid izzy? How do you know what their policies are?

bellsring · 21/10/2011 11:14

sweepit - what has made you scared ?

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 11:16

I'm scared to ring them. Sorry, should have clarified.
Obviously am scared of him, but am not in immediate danger. I would be if he found out about this.
We have our own access to the internet btw & I delete my history.
I want advice. I need to feel strong to put up with the next 9 days he is off. Pathetic huh.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/10/2011 11:19

please ring them now, and tell them how scared you feel.

bellsring · 21/10/2011 11:20

The action of ringing them is not as bad as all the anxiety and fear prior to ringing them. Ringing them doesn't commit you to anything - but you will feel better when you are more informed about stuff in general.

GypsyMoth · 21/10/2011 11:20

Do you want to leave?

If you go, act. There is no point in delaying it and making yourself more miserable

I promise you, it will be ok! I have been there with 4th in tow

izzywhizzysfritenite · 21/10/2011 11:21

Taken from WA's website:

Freephone 24 hr National domestic violence helpline
Run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge
PHONE: 0808 2000 247

Email: [email protected]
Please note we can not respond to emails by telephone as safety may be compromised. If you wish to speak to somebody please call the number above.

FTR, I've been associated with Women's Aid long enough to know that the freephone number above does not work for calls from mobiles. If you wish to access WA from a mobile, omit the first 0 of the number and call 808 2000 247 - the call will be charged at your network provider's usual rate.

GypsyMoth · 21/10/2011 11:21

4dc that should say!

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 11:27

thanks izzy x

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neverever · 21/10/2011 11:28

Hope you are ok op

Angel786 · 21/10/2011 11:32

sweep it I had to call WA for my mum many years ago. They came quickly in the middle of the nightvand put themselves at risk to protect my mum and us kids ESP my lil sis who was only 2.

They're so helpful, friendly and non judgmental.

I'd urge you to make that call, you wouldn't be thinking about it if you didn't need to.

They're not scary Smile xxx

izzywhizzysfritenite · 21/10/2011 11:33

Take yourself off to a phone box, sweep, or do you have a friend with a landline who'll allow you to use their phone to make a free call to WA and maybe stand by to give you moral support while you discuss your problem?

Make sure you delete the email you sent to WA from your 'sent' box and, if you're concerned that your inbox may be accessed by your OH, email WA again marking it URGENT AMENDMENT TO EARLIER MAIL to specifically request that no reply is sent to you.

izzywhizzysfritenite · 21/10/2011 11:40

If you google 'domestic violence' followed by the name of your nearest town/city, sweep you may find details of local numbers of organisations staffed by women for the support of women that may be quicker to get through to as the WA national number can get oversubscribed at times.

HerScaryness · 21/10/2011 11:52

sweep love, don't be scared.

What are you scared they will do, say?

They are there for one reason, and only one, and that is to LISTEN to you.

They will offer support, and they will tell you that you are not mad, bad, stupid, cheap, ugly, fat or useless.

They know that you don't know how great you are, they'll hear your strength even if you can't believe you have it.

Tell them that you were advised to call them, for someone to talk to that would understand what you are going through. They can offer you advice on who to talk to about getting help, if that is what you need/ask.

If you can't call from a landline then try downloading an app and use your mobile www.skycomuk.com/08wizard.php

izzywhizzysfritenite · 21/10/2011 11:58

Honey, after you call Women's Aid you may find that, for the first time in a long time, you're NOT scared because you'll know that you are NOT alone and that there is always somewhere you can go for help and support.

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sweepitundertherug · 21/10/2011 13:03

I rang them.
The woman I spoke to was lovely.

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