Is this in the tw@t handbook?

[OBlimey]

Had a relationship with someone who was a bit of an arse.

Took advice on here, and got rid, still in touch but not a great deal.

Still care, but told him I wanted alot of distance right now, maybe meet in a few months for a coffee.

He has just replied to tell me he is leaving in a few months to spend 6 months in the states, he has said stuff like this before but it has never materialised.

I now (weak) feel like I want to see him before he goes, but unsure If I am bing manipulated, last 2 times he said similar, his plans fell through, so not sure if he is playing again.

why would you want to see soeone you ended a relationship with

''Had a relationship with someone who was a bit of an arse.''................

So why meet up with him???

Tell him you'd love to meet up with him when he gets back if you are feeling weak!

Still like him I suppose:-(

It does sound like you are being manipulated. I agree with parentfailure, tell him you'll meet up when he gets back.
Probably best to just make a clean break and move on though.

Make a clean break. No more contact at all.

Just say, oh okay then, I'll see you when you get back, in six months' time.

Then put th ephone down and don't give him another thought.

A true friend would wish him Bon Voyage and hope he has a lovely time.

Do you often buy something you didn't particularly want because it's the last one in the shop?

OBlimey you need to move on.

He has form for pulling this stunt, and you're falling for it again? Oh dear. Move on, suggest he does the same, to the next foolish bint and far away from you.

I think you know the answer to this already.

Take a deep breath, delete his number....and let it go.

"last 2 times he said similar, his plans fell through, so not sure if he is playing again."
Actually OBlimey, you ARE sure that he is playing you again. Get a grip!

he is leaving in a few months to spend 6 months in the states

In that case he ain't going nowhere for the foreseeable future.

Tell him you'll be at the airport to see him off - obviously, you will have far more important things to do like watching paint dry in the unlikely event that he goes through with his plan.

Jeez, life's too short to play games with arses like him. Kiss him off and get yourself a decent guy who won't fuck with your head - contrary to what you may believe, there's plenty of them out there.

He was quite the mainpulator, as I recall. Really, don't rise to his bait.

manipulator [sigh]

You can't have a relationship with a manipulative arse because they're only into themselves.

I remember your thread about this man from a couple months back, OBlimey.

He was an arse then, he still is one now.

What could you do to look into yourself to understand why you are still considering giving this twat the time of day? Many posters here could give you plenty of reading material, for example.

OBlimey, have just revisited your old thread. I think you need to too. Please, read it over from start to finish.

As a reminder, posted by yourself on Sun 03-Jul-11 22:58:08

"Now I am liking him again

Need a slap"

He's manipulating you. You can't be friends with someone like this so stop having contact with him.

OBlimey, I remember your thread, the man was and still is a grade A tool.

You should not be in contact with him at all and you certainly shouldn't be meeting up with him again.

He is a liar and manipulator, he probably has no intention of moving away (he's a already pulled the same trick twice ffs!) By continuing to stay in touch you are letting him mess with your mind. Show yourself more respect and love and STOP contacting him.

Unless of course you enjoy having men treat you like shite, mess with your head and make you feel dreadful? but I'm assuming not?

to tell me he is leaving in a few months to spend 6 months in the states

"That sounds fab; you must tell me all about it when you get back"