The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

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Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite .

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill.

OUR HISTORY

P.s be careful, you have been ill .

Hi Ma how are you, or do I need to ask as you're loading the artillery!!

Morning Babes

Ma - yep, just give me a list of who you want sorting and I'll be there

IsinDe - it's the simple things, the things that cost nothing and are no effort at all that make you realise what you have missed. I'm pleased that you two talked last night. It matters. Once that goes, you can't ever get it back, the talking, the conversation. It becomes forced and bumpy.

You need to flow with one another. xx

thurso - are you working today? If so, let DH cook dinner? Or DC? Or is that too risky?

venus - not humdrum, not at all. As I said to IsinDe, it's the little things, simple things that make you both smile. Talking, laughing, sharing, and yes, even the sex!

DH said to me last night that 'we'll do this together' 'we'll fight this and get rid of him (XP) once and for all, whatever it takes'

Nemo stayed in his own bed all night too. He woke at 1.20am, I got into his bed and cuddled him rather than taking him into our bed, and he was fast asleep by 1.35! He stayed there until just after 7am!

Maybe that's the way forward. I also bought him a GroClock HERE so I'm going to teach him how to use it to aid his sleep pattern. Hopefully.

Right, time for Stay & Play, be back later and then off to the gym.

Bye for now Babes

Morning babes,

Slightly less boingy today - had a glass and a half of wine last night. I am ok with that. I didn't fancy any more and it just felt ok.

legal your DS sounds lovely, you must be incredibly proud. I do like the idea of DC brain being on a lizard level. I shall think that next time DD is having a strop.

thurso your DH sounds like mine. He cannot bear to even watch DD eat fish because its so fishy. He moans about food and mess so much he now has a ready meal most nights. He has said he prefers this to my cooking. I tell myself that its not my cooking but his OCD ness about the resulting mess.

venus I love the story about how you met DH, you sound lovely (ahem) together.

Indie I am glad that you are connecting with DP again - I think that those pre-sleep chats are really important and often you don't realise till you get them back again.

mouse sounds like Nemo is having a week of it. I am very jealous of him sleeping till 7am!!

All ok here, not beating myself up about drinking. It didn't feel like a big deal. Am a bit miffed that the mental health team person hasn't called me back but there again not sure if they will actually help. Plan B is to post on the bereavement board here. I am worried that there are people on there going through so much worse though? I don't want to upset anyone.

Oh and yes, hearing it for the boys. My DH is lovely. Just lovely. In 2012 I will have known him for 20 years, together for 14 years and married for 10. However, we have only really been family for 4 years. Before then I was a shitbag. Jeez, he put up with 10 years of fuckwittery from me. Poor guy. I am truly lucky.

Just checking in. beautiful autumnal morning here and I am off to a posh lunch with the Chambers of Commerce, so at least I'll get fed today.
Feeling quite wheezy though, and haven't been bothered by that side of things for YEARS. It's taking me back, and not in a good way. Am I stressed? Let me see:
Father with advanced dementia
Elderly mother currently trying to cope with imminent death of dear friend
No money
Dh is a twat difficult person
BIG conference on 23rd which is my responsibility
new suit for said conference too tight
DD2 turns 18 in two weeks and finances tight for pressies and party
DD2 leaves home at end of month to go and live in Spain
....that's enough to be going on with.

Just checking in. Thanks for hydration advice legal - I didn't drink last night.

Blimey ma, sounds like a pile of poo. I have elderly parents too who are suffering aplenty. Helps me to remember that be told that there is only so much I can appropriately and possibly do, and much that I just cannot do. My DSs 7 and 9 so idea of DC moving away & far off, cannot imagine how that must feel. You mentioned beautiful morning, and posh lunch, AND you posted - you are noticing / doing some of the good stuff. (ignore me if this just sounds like a pile of trite guff)

mouse totally agree with the keep them out of your bed but cuddle in theirs idea, worked quite hard on this in our house and am glad we did. Reading some of these posts is good reminder to me that things at night have got loads better as kids have got older - DS aged 9 did not sleep well until started school, and used to have massive paddies in night - now reserved for days, (including this morning ). That night time torture part has just got so much easier.

Anyone got suggestions for what I assume is withdrawal headache - I am on day three after not short of a bottle of wine a day for almost every day for months. Top of head hurts, sinuses under eyes hurt. Out of paracetamol and codeine which I love way too much .

Shortly going to try to plan out work diary for the million and ten work jobs I need to do, and to do so in a way that encourages me to actually tackle the most important and difficult things..... Must keep calm.....

Hi everyone,
Mouse and venus glad you are both brighter in your own ways. Indie has very wise words this morning - look what a decent sleep and no alcohol is doing!

Life getting on top of me a bit today - house/money/work/DD all a bit heaped up. Just for today I am as happy as I choose to be. Now to choose to believe it. Off out, catch up later, hope everyone has good days.

Clambering - I got withdrawal headaches for the first week. Yes, codeine is rather nice but very addictive (says she who is on codeine and morphine) so try to avoid is possible.

Loads of clear fluids to flush the toxins out. Eat regularly because your body is used to the sugar in alcohol, little and often. I'd also say go with the flow for a while. If you feel like having crisps, then have them.

Your body is going through some major changes and is telling you what is needs.

You can get some great meds for sinus headaches too, Boots do one of their own which works for me.

Keep going, the fog will lift and you will feel better.

Ma - for the love of Jeff, have some toast and jam and a cuppa. Deep breaths. I take it DD1 (not 2 as your post says?) will get paid for going out there?

Stay & Play was loads of fun, Nemo really joined in. No food at snack time but he waas really happy there today.

I'm off for a gentle circuit at the gym. It's great because all of the machines are controlled by hydraulics so I don't risk hurting myself, only rehabilitating.

Be back later lovelies.

MsGee

GET YOURSELF OVER THERE!! You will get so much support and help from people who have been in your shoes , and yes, worse. Of course you have the right to post there and you deserve help/advice just as much as the next person!

Don't make me drag you there!

It's such a shame that the MH system in the UK is such a let down. It really is isn't it?

Go and post, name change if you want to (I didn't) and let it all out. The parents on that board are so lovely. Please, I think it will help you.

Post xx

Hello hello! I am also just checking in. Really glad I didn't drink last night, as I went for a run at lunchtime. I was a bit crap, (and I have developed a blister on my instep) but at least I did it, which I wouldn't have if I'd drunk last night.

Clambering, I find lots of tea and biscuits help when I get like that. Liquids and sugar, and just being a bit nice to yourself is what you need at the moment.

That's a whole heap of shite, Ma. Ummm...have a nice lunch?

On way back to work, I suddenly had a "goo" (as we say here) to text my friend and see if she fancied some vino this evening, thankfully I didn't, but the worst part is that the idea is in my head so going to have to find some way of keeping myself busy this evening.

Ha! I get this too, obrigada. Once the idea gets in there, it's hard not to go along with it. However, as I discovered last night, you can stand up to Little Drunk Voice and tell it to eff off. Can you arrange to do something you wouldn't normally do this evening instead? Cinema, theatre, or a bit of sport maybe?

Well done Theala - I've just got back from the gym. I'm a bit pissed off because I've found out today that the machines I use (hydraulic ones) to help me rebuild my muscle tone and support me are being sold to make way for X Bikes.

Great.

So now my lovely gym instructor has t o do my a new programme only 2 weeks after she did the first one!

Anyway, I feel great for doing the exercise, nice and slowly and then a long hot shower. Bliss.

How are we all today?

Obrigada - What can you do to keep you busy? Empty some boxes you have filled with 'stuff' and sort through it? The three B's? Bath, Book, Bed? Cook something for dinner but make loads and then freeze it? Clear the cupboards out, freezer out?

You need to do something that keeps you mind and your hands busy.

Oh no Mouse! That's balls. Any way you can petition them to keep a few of them?

Apparently, there's only me and a few senior members who use them.

The gym manager is selling them off, if I had the money and the space, I'd have them in a heartbeat but I guess they'll just have to tweek my current programme.

How are you sweets? Achey?

How very frustrating. Hopefully your instructor will be able to devise an equally satisfying plan.

A bit. More so now that I have just taken reception of an 8kg kettlebell and, egged on by my bastard curious colleagues, tried to demonstrate a swing to them. My shoulders hurt and I am a big dork. :o I am determined that I'll learn how to work out properly with kettlebells, though, since I can't afford the gym this year.

OUCH at kettlebells! You can always borrow Nemo, he's nearly 12kg now. I have the most amazingly toned arms.

No need for weights when lifting him!

obrigada I get the same 'goo'. Love that word . Usually for me it's on the way home from work. Fridays are the worst. Last Friday was a bugger but I got past it with the help of some lovely babes. Keep busy, busy. busy til it's gone. x

Top tip for getting toddlers to stay in their own beds all night.

When all the chocolate advent calendars go on half price sale buy a bunch of them. Then tell the troublesome little darling that if they stay in their own bed til morning they can open the door and have the chocolate. So what if it's halfway through March, as long as you're getting your sleep . Worked a treat with DS

Meant to say earlier, ClamberingUp the headache could be seeing the hangover through to the end, but it could be chronic daily headache from the painkillers (well done for admitting that though) and IME it just takes time. Try and keep your caffeine levels steady for the moment - no overdosing on coffee but don't try and give it up, well not this week anyways! Your sleep will kick in in the next couple of nights and the headaches will go and your body will really start to feel like it should again. You've done great to get through these early days, and it does get easier.

Theala am in awe of your running. Exercise is the next thing on the list, one change a week I think here - the caffeine has gone, milk, chocolate... starting some serious exercise is the next (I do walk and cycle loads as don't have a car).

And, BOING!!! I have DD 3 overnights a week from the weekend. Emotions all over the place, glad I've got a meeting to get to tonight.

faire - great idea only Nemo doesn't actually eat solids yet. He's only just put mousse into his mouth this week.

I shall, however, write that down for when the time comes! Genius!

noteven - WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Go you! Oh, that is fantastic news. I bet you're all over the place! Such good news.

And yes, I forgot that pain meds (codeine in particular) can give you stonking headaches. Weird given that it's a pain killer.

I know that when the doc increases my morphine, I get sweats and headaches for a few days.

Oh, and before I forget MIL has her appt with the consultant tomorrow afternoon and hopefully another brain scan.

Can you all send a little good luck/positive vibe please