Its been a week and now he contacts me!!!

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I had an email at 2am all it said was 'do you hate me?'

I havent responded, I am a little annoyed by it because I was really hoping he wouldnt contact me.

He was obviously sat feeling sorry for himself.

I just needed to write down how I feel so I am less likely to want to reply.

I hate one liners like that, they're so transparent. Note that the question relates entirely to him.

Maybe his next message will actually, y'know, mention you a bit?

And you're doing entirely the right thing by not replying. Ignore, delete, ignore.

Do not reply.

Change your SIM card.

Pretty transparent call for narcissistic supply, that message, isn't it?

"who is this?"

Sorry, the others are right, do not reply at all.

I am so relieved that you think it is a predictable reply.

Lundy's book arrived this morning so will be reading that to give me a little insight into his behavior so that I know what he does is normal for a an abusive man. I am hoping that the book will give me a bit more strength in case he contacts me again.

Getting the book was a good idea. One thing: you can be tempted to reply to messages from an abusive ex for reasons that don't seem too bad at first: anger, the need for an explanation, desire to defend yourself against accusations or to set the record straight. But it will trip you up and put you in a place you don't want to be- tangled in communication with them again. It's not worth it. Stay strong :)

Come post on here, not to your email, don't email him back, don't reply, don't react.

That's making me laugh, realising how much that question is about him. Ignore, delete and block.

Havent replied :) Dont intend to...I know he is just angry that i havent gone crying and begging for him to take me back. He hasnt seen me this strong!

Also, had all my hair chopped off, really spikey, completely changed how i look. It is back to how it was before i met him. He always said i looked stupid and i am too fat to have it like that. Now i know it was because he didnt want me getting any attention. Half a day and ive had lots of compliments and a few looks :)

feeling very chuffed with myself now

Well done! You sound strong.

its all about HIM isn't it...

ignore ignore ignore, you will be just fine without him I'm absolutely sure of that.