Should I treat DP like a child?HELP NEEDED!!!

[Clarabumps]

looking for opinions with regard to DP.
I am a SAHM and DP works full time( long hours, 6 days a week) and we are renovating a house so DP spends most of his free time doing things to that.
I struggle with keeping on top of the washing(who doesn't) and the majority of the time everything is clean and put away however DP seems to find it impossible to find pants, socks etc and always makes a big deal out of it.
He asked me yesterday to make sure I had washed him clean work trousers( he's a joiner so everything gets pretty dusty) I did so but I forgot to put them on the radiator. So at 7am this morning I was woken up with "did you wash me some trousers?" I explained the situation and an immense huff ensued. This has happened a few times in the past few months and I was pretty sick of him informing me that he has no clean trousers when there's no chance I can fix the problem.
Anyways, I told him I was "fucking sick of this" and stormed off. I don't know if I'm over-reacting. I do everything else..wash,clean, iron, cook a nice dinner from scratch every night as well as look after the kids all day everyday with little support from him.
Do I insist on making him make sure he has clean clothes for himself or do I just lay his bloody clothes out for him like a child and avoid him banging drawers in the morning.

I wouldn't mind if he told me when I have time to actually sort it..i.e the night before.
He ends up leaving in the morning with me in a stinking mood that lasts the whole day!!GRRRR! WWYD??

That's probably exactly how it is, except maybe she is also drinking Pinot Grigio all day.

And her DP is too busy to do the washing in the evening as he helps out at an animal rescue centre.

oh, I'm weeping all right

I just recognised myself in that little vignette just kidding

< scoffs another bon bon >

Wispa the man is a saint, I tell ya. A saint.

Her next door reckons that OP must know some bedroom tricks to keep him.

Poor DH. Not only does he work full time and do his own laundry but the only bedroom trick I know involves stealing the covers and taking up most of the bed.

Poor OP, being a SAHP means you are looking after the children, If you get the chance you might stuff some things in the washer, but making sure DP has what he needs for work the next day is his job ffs.

How embarrassing for him that he cannot sort his own stuff out like some teenager, that's probably why he was so pissed off.

When I first lived with dh he just put his clothes in the bottom of his wardrobe when they were dirty until he had nothing left to wear-he soon learnt where the washing machine was.

I'm back- having sorted out the washing scenario, I may point out that it doesn't happen every day or week even but there are the odd occasions when human little me overlooks things. I really wasn't trying to be a martyr, I was genuinely looking for a resolution to this situation. Going to buy more trousers that's an obvious one but I appreciate that he's working hard. I think the main gripe is the fact that I never criticise him on things he does regarding his work. I don't complain about money even though he's not the greatest businessman and I'm not on his back regarding the pace of the work being done in the house. I keep saying we should pay to get things done in the house so we can have more time as a family but he's refusing. I think I'd just like hi
To realise that I'm doing my best and to show the same consideration I show him.
May I just add I wasn't lying in bed sleeping while left for work- alarm went off, eyes opened and then the first thing he said was the trouser comment.
And the Jeremy Kyle comment
So thank you for your support and criticism I do agree I probably over reacted but hey ho!
It's sorted now and we've had a wee laugh.
Thank you all xx

at scavenging in bins

Just out of interest, how is it "sorted" ?

You will buy another pair of trousers, fairynuff

However, how will he "start to show you more consideration" ?

I told him I hate starting off the day with someone being shitty so if he wants something washed then I'll do my best but he's responsible for making sure things are ready for the next day. I'm busting a gut here so he's going to have to accept that. And the way he spoke to me was out of order.
Plus more trousers..
Hopefully that should sort it.
I just feel that sometimes as I am a sahm he is absolved of any responsibility for his life. Even things he would have to do if he were a single guy. But now I am responsible for everything down to where the facecloths live(in the drawer where they always are)
tired and crabby
Apologies!

Stop apologising, clara

and certainly stop apologisiing to him...

Can he seriously not find five minutes to stick a wash on, and then five minutes to put them to dry? Utter utter nonsense. Tell the lazy bully to do it himself.

I think you should write him a list of what you expect to be done this weekend house rennovation wise.... then throw a big hissy fit monday morning when its not all done.. x

I'm glad to see the people saying the OP should pull her finger out have fallen by the wayside; imagine if a single man had moaned on here about having to do his own washing! However hard he worked.

Or do people think when you have children with someone you suddenly have to take care of all their domestic arrangements?

I get the impression the OP's dp thinks he's doing his share just by going to work and doing DIY, I have come across people like that before. Of course it's more satisfying to work at stuff that can be finished, washing, cleaning and childcare are important and can be satisfying too (well maybe the childcare), but they are seemingly endless, not to mention not particularly valued in our society.

Baby hammock- thats a point.. hehe!Its the fact i accept him and the fact that we've had the house for a year now with no sign of moving into it yet.I realise he's doing his best and that he's working hard. Just as I expect him to realise that I'm doing mine. I may point out that he hasn't been working in the house constantly for a year..its been fits and starts.when he can't be arsed going I think that he deserves a break. The point is that I don't feel as though I get a break- ever!(not being a martyr again but thats just the way it is at the moment)
I just don't need someone pointing out that occasionally I don't manage everything and berating me for it. He made it out as though it was the only thing he wants me to make sure is done but if I stopped doing all that I do and just concentrated on his needs he'd soon be complaining about that as well. I'm not Superwoman. I'm bloody tired.
Anyway- I don't mind looking after most of the household stuff but I don't want to be "pulled up" for my failings as a housewife.
thesecondcoming- jezza is one of my guilty pleasures- I normally have that on when I'm at my wee cleaning job in the afternoon.( see people...I can clean!)