Just found out my friend 'with benefits' is actually married with an 8 week old

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I feel like shit. Have had this 'friend' for 5 years or so, he is gorgeous and always available when I feel in need of a shag, obviously been very intermitent over the years, between relationships for me. I met him on a night out and thought he was just a womaniser with a lot of women on the go, but he came over tonight and after we had slept with each other he told me this news, he says there isnt anyone else and he has turned over a new leaf but still wants me due to our 'history', he hadnt told me because he thought I would 'gouge his eyes out'. I told him obviously it was over, we would never see each other again. I just feel so bad for his poor wife, he had come and met me and my friends the weekend she gave birth. What is wrong with these men. Just upset really, the OW woman doesn''t always know.

I think tbh this is something that happens more often than not these days. Call me cynical but in a society where most people have no morals, ask yourself.....do you know where your partner is when they say they're at 'work'? I think you've got the best idea, learn from it & move on

Sounds like you know what is best in the situ, and thankfully aren't going to prolong this chapter of your life by making shit up. It is embarrassing when things fall flat, check out some of the exchanges on this thread for evidence! My bed beckons, good luck op

yes, you said you didn't get in too deep with this particular twat

Thanks all for advice and lively debate x

Mcnic: by 'no morals' do you mean 'being happy to have sex without commitment'? IF so, that is not immoral behaviour.