Sis not interested

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I've just bought the first house with my fella and moved in and shes shown hardly any interest.. its a new build so we've been watching it being built for months and shes never asked about it, shes sent us a new home card but thats all - no phonecalls, texts or anything to ask how its going In an e-mail about something unrelated she put that hopefully she'll have time to come and have a look when shes home next month for a family party - she lives in London and i'm in the North West, when she comes she'll be staying at my parents house 5 mins away for the wknd ... I know shes busy with work but shes my sister !

So she sent you a new home card and emailed you to say she wants to come and have a look. What more do you want?

If you are happy with your house...then maybe that's enough info' for your sister.

I never really cared what my sister was up to...as long as she was happy that's all that mattered.

Er....it's just a house. No offence OP but houses are only really interesting to those who own them.

I'm not really sure what you expect of her?

I'm currenly doing up my third house and even I'm not interested in it. Decorating and DIY are just the most boring thing in the world.

I doubt it's anything personal.

Why should she be interested?

I could be your sister.

I wouldn't take it to heart (unless she's majorly into property development and it's out of character not to be pumping you for details). I think she's done quite well sending a card.

You're overreacting. She hasn't done anything wrong - just how interested do you expect her to be?

Bit harsh ! I was expecting her to be interested in my life the way I was when she was travelling the world or recently looking for work..

I couldn't give a shiney shit about half the shite my sisters talk about, when they moved, I sent them a card. They appreciated the card.

When I moved etc I got a card, I appreciated it and that was that.

Weird thing to get upset over, deeper issues are abound I fear

Perhaps she isn't that interested? It's only a house. Maybe she's interested in other aspects of your life? Children? Relationship? Perhaps she doesn't see that it's really that big a deal to you and just sees it as mundane, moving house stuff. If you're bothered about it, then talk to her. But your expectations are your responsibility.

If she's never interested in anything that's in your life, then that's different. But perhaps, like I say, she's just not thinking that shifting into a new house is really a massive thing in life.

Don't fume. Talk.

No what you really mean is you wanted your sis to be with envy and are miffed that she is not. I couldnt have cared less when my sis and her dp got their house(and then spent a year and all their money doing it up)-I find houses really really boring to talk about.Sorry.

And? Just what were you expecting? Just how interested can you expect someone else to get in your house? A new house is quite a personal thing, why can't you just be content with the card?!

You bought off plan? So she was supposed to call and ask how the builders were doing I think a new home card and a call about visiting when she's up is fine. My DH's family have never sent a card, and mine send cards but wouldn't be on the phone asking if the roof was on yet or if they'd finished installing the bathroom.

Sorry, I think you're being PNH (Precious New House)

I'm kind of with Hairygrotter.

I think there may possibly be underlying issues here & that maybe you feel the need to be acknowledged/praised etc from your sister?

Might be worth your while thinking about. Apologies if I am wrong.

YABU. Unless you were building the house yourselves.

Perhaps you should invite her to stay once you're settled in the new house?