i'm just going through the motions

[bellamom]

feeling so detached from partner, feel it's just a marriage of convenience, there's nothing between us anymore, we are barely civil to each other, occasional moments of closeness, life is passing me by, can i put up with this until children have left home? i can't imagine moving out/being a single parent, i feel totally trapped in this story.

have you told your partner how you feel?

Would putting a pause for reflection on the table perhaps be an idea ?

If nothing else it might kick start some talking and maybe reveal that both of you are willing to put in the work needed to get things back on track.

Sounds to me like you need help advice have you try relate?, or counselling, or even telling your partner your feelings, please talk to someone as the problem will not go away only become bigger for you, good luck.