Would you be bothered if your DP bought you and engagement ring from -

[Lorenz]

the sale and specifically that one BECAUSE it was in the sale?

I wouldn't be bothered at all.

It would proved that your man has a grasp on finances.

It is only a symbol, after all.

Not if I liked it, no.

no, it wouldn't bother me.

don't confuse money with love, they're two different things

No. I'd be pleased he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and know that the ring didn't really matter...

As long as it's not Argos I wouldn't give a shite!

Why would you care? I'd be more worried if he just bought one out of the blue from anywhere.

No - as long as I liked what it looked like.

More bling for your buck? Not a problem.

Not if I liked it.

If I liked it,that would be fine. Will you choose it together or is this a ring he has bought alone?

It would depend on a lot of things, if he was a really nice guy but absolutely broke then obviously not a sign of his generosity or where you lie in his list of priorities, so all about his attitude to spending money generally.

I used to live with a man who had a 30k car, 2 motorbikes worth 8k together. I felt like he should have been prepared to spend as much on a ring for me as he spent on the cheapest motorbike, but he wasn't. He didn't value me and I should have processed that before. The ring thing crystalised it though. He was very mean generally though. Very generous to himself though.

A generous man wouldn't buy the cheapest one in the sale. He'd ask you which one you wanted and he'd want to get you that one IF he could.

Maybe, it depends on the reasons for him buying it in the sale. If it was because he knew I'd love it and it was on offer that'd be fine but if it was simply to save money I'd be a bit

No, not at all.

DH bought my engagement ring from a high street jeweller, and had to give me the receipt for me to change the size. I therefore found out that it didn't cost v much and had no precious stone in it etc. Whilst I occasionally tease him about it now, (I don't panic when I've lost it for eg!) I would have been horrified if he had spent really hard-earned and saved cash on something so unimportant when we were saving for a house/wedding/life together.

He has more recently offered to buy me a more expensive eternity ring, and while we are in a much better financial situation, we have a young family and it seems ludicrous to spend large sums on jewellery tbh.

Nope mine is from h samuel was half price in the sale. I chose it and I love it! Its the style I wanted and it being in the sale meant I could get a bigger rock than we could normally reasonably afford.

My DH is a total cheapskate man who doesn't like to be ripped off, and spent ages researching rings and diamonds.

He bid on a ring from Bonhams, had the diamond reset in a white gold setting. Saved more than 50% on what a similar diamond ring would cost at a high st jewellers.

I thought it was romantic - he wanted to get me the very best ring he could afford

I wouldn't mind about the cost but I would mind that he chose it because of that.

He should choose one because he knows it is a style I Like or he would like on me

I would prefer one from the sale tbh, because there's no point spending hundreds or thousands more if it isn't necessary. As long as the remainder went on a really amazing trip with me. As long as you like it and there is love behind it, who cares.

I don't have a DP, but if he could afford better, and knew I'd like a different one, then yes.
If he knew I'd love the sale one, then no.

I got engaged 12 years ago, and had always wanted a particular type of ring. DP bought me what I wanted.

Mind you, it meant nothing as he turned out to be a twat, but at least I got the gorgeous ring

nope. my ring is my dp's grandmothers ring tiny tiny stones but means the world to me.

Not enough information - but I think Bandwitch sums it up really well. Is your DP usually generous? Or is he generous only to himself? (There have been horrific experiences on MN of men who are happy to clothe themselves in Armani but let their partners and children walk around in the next best thing to rags). That would be something to look out for.

If your DP is happy to indulge himself and when it comes to you has gone for the cheapest available option and hasn't even consulted with you to see what your preferences are for the type of ring that you like, then yes, I'd be concerned. It would not be showing any form of care or consideration and I'd worry about how my feelings would be taken into account in the future, whether our views on financial management were at all compatible, etc etc.

But a a cheap ring of itself is not a sign of a problem. Your DP may be broke. He may be a bit thoughtless but not actually mean. If given and chosen with love, a curtain ring can be perfect. It really all depends on context and we don't know yours. Afterall, the shop he bought the sale ring in might have been Tiffany and Breakfast at Tiffany's might be your favourite film.....

no, not at all (should maybe mention that my hopefully soon-to-be-ex never gets me anything anyways - not even birthday presents).

It wouldn't bother me, but it would depend on the context of everything else. Fortunately DP and I of the same mind - strike a balance between the cost of the thing you want, and how much losing it would upset you.
Neither of us could justify spending thousands on a ring, though.

Not at all.When dp was alive I got a very "bog standard" engagement ring.He was skint at the time.It is really just a symbol!!BTW since he died it is probably my most treasured material possession and I always wear it,because,like I say it is a symbol.Despite its lack of monetary value I would be devastated if I ever lost it.

Why don't you turn this on its head, should he be worried, if it bothered you where he got and how much he paid for the ring?

Christ no
i wouldn't care if it was from Argos either.

Maybe he chose it because he'd set a budget and, being in the sale, he could get a better ring than if he'd paid full price for one. Perhaps it wasn't cheeping out, but getting the best he could for the budget.

Also, it makes no difference at all how much the ring costs. Worrying about the cost seems terribly shallow.