Would you be bothered if your DP bought you and engagement ring from -

[Lorenz]

the sale and specifically that one BECAUSE it was in the sale?

my husband bought me my ring in the states as they are a lot cheaper there- doesn't bother me at all as I got a lovely big diamond for half the price of the same size and cut here. I don't think it reflects on how much he loves me!!:)

Scarlettsmummy: If you re-phrase that, it sounds overwhelmingly positive. You should say that your DH bought you a ring in the states where he could get twice as much diamond for his money. The budget would probably have been the same either way; he just took it somewhere it went further.

If my DP told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me as his wife, I would shed tears of joy over a pink plastic Hello-Kitty ring. And it would become one of my most treasured possessions.

I really cannot believe how shallow some women are.

Well, I'm pretty shallow then. Not something to go through the motions for IMO. A cheap ring because you love it, because you're skint,because it reminds you of something special - all good. A sale ring because you 'have' to get a ring and it is good value? It's not yelling romance to me

If the person you're with wants to commit and treats your with respect, then it should matter how much a ring costs and whether they got it in a sale.

should should be shouldn't

I absolutely adore my engagement ring, always have and always will. It was £39 from Argos, and it's exactly the style that I wanted. He picked it out himself too - which I love him for. He knew just what I wanted :D

We've been out looking at other rings, but because I've never been one for massive gestures and I'd be terrified that I'd lose it/the stone would fall out/it would get damaged, I love this ring all the more, because it takes a serious beating! We've never had much money, so it's not viable to spend thousands or even hundreds of pounds on a piece of jewellery that I wouldn't even be able to wear because my fingers puff out any time I'm in warmish weather or when I'm pregnant. I wear my cheap engagement ring around my neck with a hell of a lot of pride, because it's something that he gave to me. I'll always cherish it, and I'd probably kill him if he came home with anything more expensive.

Plus, I mean it when I say I'm the clumsiest and most forgetful person alive...

Nope didn't get one, did give Dh one made out of a post-it though, which he still has for sentimental reasons. My wedding ring cost £50 from Argos I figured it was more important to put the money we saved towards our DD. It is the meaning behind the piece of metal that counts not the piece of metal itself.

Mine was second-hand. Didn't bother me at all. Got it when I received damages from a car accident - every other time we'd thought about it, the car/house had needed repairing etc. We'd been married nearly 19 years.

So, a sale one wouldn't have bothered me - much. Think I would have rather had a second-hand one. It sort of runs in the family - a hang-over from purchase tax which was at 100%, so second hand meant that you got twice as much diamond for the same money.

Most of my ear-rings are second hand - including ruby and diamond ones bought after dd was born and amethyst ones for our 25th anniversary. However, my wedding ring was new. Unless a family one, don't think I'd like a second-hand wedding ring. The signet ring I got for my confirmation ring was, too.

Depends on the guy and the circumstances and your relationship - why he might do it, why you might care.
If he's absolutely loaded yes I might care!
I got an extremely modest engagement ring and never thought anything of it.
Then when we became more affluent he bought me quite a few rocks and a stunning eternity ring - but all of my jewellery means the same to me because he loved buying it for me and I love receiving it!

There's nothing wrong with saving money- it's good to be thrifty. However, if you are the only aspect of his life where he is thrifty, I'd be concerned. He should value you. If he spends a fortune on his car, clothes, whatever and only becomes careful with money when he buys YOU things, particularly something that is supposed to be such an important symbol, red flag.

Is that what you meant when you said he chose this ring BECAUSE it was in the sale? I'd like to think that he would buy you a ring because he thinks it is pretty and because he thinks you will like it, rather than simply because he got a bargain.

well at least he bought you one, i had to buy my own wedding band. he wanted me to get a cheap nasty one that didnt go with my engagement ring so i had to buy the on ei wanted there and then. he just stood there not interested

Mine was from Ebay and it's absolutely gorgeous. He paid £1,400 for it and when we got it valued, it was £6,200! I would never in my life ever pay the valuation for it - I'd rather use the money saved to buy something else like home improvements.

My dh is very proud about how much he got the dealer to knock off my engagement ring :o

It's what it symbolises really surely?? However, I do agree with other posters that if he normally splashes out on himself and has been a bit mean with this then you have a right to be miffed. However, if he is normally careful with money or just doesn't have a lot then there is definitely nothing to worry about. Just be glad you have someone who loves you

yes

becuase id want to pick my own fucking ring

Nope, why should it?

No, if it is one you love, what does it matter. We lived together and had ds, and we were in the Carribean for our wedding when I saw a diamond ring that I liked.i wasn't going to bother with one, but I really liked the one I saw. So essentially I was paying for half my own ring. Therefore I wasn't going to splurge my own money!

My cousin has just taken his girlfriend to NYC and bought a $20,000 tiffany engagement ring to comply with her demands. He has spent the entire share of his money that my grandad left in his will. They both still live at home, she is a student and they have no money for a house. I think it's the most ridiculous thing in the world, personally, and would have put a down payment/deposit on a house however his money - his choice.

We waited until the sales were on so we didn't have to pay full price for my engagement ring, and yep we only looked at the rings on sale. It is a simple 1/2 carat solitaire which I quite like. We both agreed the money could be better spent elsewhere.

Yes because I wanted to choose mine! But we did go to Hatton Garden to get an individual one at a decent price. (It cost well under the 10% of income that is normal of engagement rings in the US.)

No, wouldn't bother me.

We ordered a ring from the States, so that we could get a much bigger ring for the budget we had.

Depends on why he is buying it from the sale, and if it is what you want.

If there were a number of rings that were similar in style and one was half-price I'd think him a fool if he didn't get the one in the sale!

If we were picking rings together it's what I would do - then insist that some of the leftover money went on going out for a nice dinner :)

We bought my eternity ring (more of a post-wedding engagement ring actually!) with Tesco vouchers. I'm just delighted that I have a basically free diamond ring.

To answer your question, OP, if the ring was to my taste then I wouldn't mind at all that it was in the sale.

Nope, wouldn't care at all, as long as I liked it.