Is he giving mixed messages - or am i thick?

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Had a first date from a guy 10 days ago and it went well.

Then after a few days i saw him on facebook and said hi and he ignored me. Then the following day he said he could do something again, but both of us have been a little busy.
Some days i get ignored, and then i get contacted.. and although hes said about doing something, nothing has been said.

On wednesday i asked if he wanted to do something over the weekend and got no reply for 5 hours ( sent a text) so thought id but a closure on it and sent a message saying, not to worry and it had been nice meeting him. He replied within seconds saying i was being foolish and was over reacting, and he did want to. texting went on all evening.

Thursday hes been very flirty on my facebook page, so i sent a text, to which i got no reply. Today we have so far been in a poke war.

Im bloody confused.

last weekend before we were both busy we had said about doing something tonight, but nothiing has been said since, and he didnt reply when i asked if he wanted to do something.

Ive now made other plans, but i dont know if i am indeed being foolish and inpatient, or hes just messing me about.

To be honest you got into the sexual thing far too soon after two dates, I think that is what has put him off.

I know wanting to know that from the start is stupid. I wouldn't even know that from the start.

I do value myself and think I'm awesome :) just when it comes to dating, I wobble. It's like I want to fast forward a year and start from that point, does that make any sense.
Obviously impossible. But I still feel that way.

The thing is, when men blow hot and cold, showering women with attention one minute and ignoring them the next it is extremely confusing. That's the idea as far as they're concerned. It's about putting the woman on the back foot and themselves in a position of control.

Implying to a woman that she is pathetic and desperate because she lacks the self esteem and clarity to recognise that a) the mans behaviour is nothing to do with her and is all about his own issues i.e. there is nothing she can do to change him and b) her only option if she wants to feel good about herself is to walk quietly away, is not going to help her to make more positive choices for herself is it? It's just going to erode her self esteem further.

OP this man is wrestling with his own demons. And he's doing it on your time. You're not going to have the sort of relationship you want with him and the longer you tolerate him blowing hot and cold, the more he will do it and the less he will respect you. He knows full well he is not treating you properly and deep down he knows the fact that you are accepting it means something isn't right.

Men who genuinely want you and are available for a relationship consistently act as though they genuinely want you and are available for a relationship.

It might be too late with this fella. He's sniffed out your weaknesses and knows that he is the boss so unless you take total contol IMMEDIATELY I'm afraid you've had your mister chips.

Read that book I told you about and it will solve your problem.

I respectfully disagree.