help: semantic nightmare is ruining my day

[Aimlesswhinemouse]

DP and I have real communication problems and sometimes it surrounds everyday words. I know this sounds trivial but, just to take an example that cause a major row last night...whenever I cook a quiche for a dinner party or picnic DP always refer to it as a ?flan?.

I've corrected his mistake lots of times (there are loads of other examples!!!!!!) - but he has consistently failed to take notice of my correction, continually referring to quiches as flans and using the two words as if they were interchangeable.

I am finding his insensitivity to linguistic nuance increasingly depressing and I feeling increasingly distant from him. I just don?t know how much longer I can go on listening to him keep referring to a quiche as a flan. I'm sure this must be a symptom of deeper problems, but I'm just going out of my mind and feel so confused right now.

bee'roo' - I am in SE. Have never heard this!

Beetroot is vile however you pronounce it. Quite funny though when one's DH overdoses on it and on next visit to loo comes out ashen, convinced he's got some serious problem.

I like beet-root chopped small, with onion, in vinegar.

beet-root
beet-root
beet-root.

No bee troots here. They sound like they'd taste nasty.

Perhaps you mean bee trews? Very small trousers for honey-making flying buzzy things?

Aimlesswhinemouse,
Have you left him yet? I'm here with my Apple Tart not Pie you worthless excuse for a husband, if you need support.

Like I said earlier, Chippy, it's a class thing. Clearly you mix with better educated South Easterners. At the primary school my brother attended, he would be sneered at by the little oiks for pronouncing the letter T. I mean, sneered a' for saying letter instead of le'er. It was quite a good school though. They didn't beat him up for it. I mean bea' 'im up.

Fink the bee-trooters must have been brought up on Benny Hill. "Now there's a beetroot for the day when you said you'd be troot to me..."

In the posher parts of SE its beetroo, we don't pronounce the last "t" :)

In a recent thread someone said that their mother/MIL/something pronounced quiche 'quicky'.

HATE 'meal'
HATE going out 'for a bite'
HATE when a man refers to whatever a woman is wearing as a 'frock'

OP I recommend you buy a copy of Shirley Glass's book "Not Just Flans."

Bucharest, "serviette" is perfectly good Canadian English and you can kiss my infra-dig colonial a$$.

Having been raised in Essex I've always liked the irony that the users of glottal stops can't say 'glottal stop'.

Does this happen with any type of quiche in particular? What does he call a custard pie? You need to get to the bottom of this before it eats away at your relationship. I bet his friends are egging him on. To avoid confusion, I would avoid pastry based dishes until he has sought therapy for his problem. I am impressed that you do home baking though!!

"In the posher parts of SE its beetroo, we don't pronounce the last "t" "

I live in a vair posh part of the SE and we always pronounce the last 't'.

So there.

Oooh.

Custard pies.

Although... shouldn't that be a custard tart?

And finally (because I am clearly incapable of putting everything in one post)

at 'infra-dig colonial a$$'

It's only "beetroo" if it's French. Which it isn't.

LCCM - are you sure? Pronouncing quiche as 'quicky' is not good. As in "would you like a sandwich?" "no, but a quicky would be nice". It could get you into all sorts of tricky situations.

I swear to God! I'll try to find the thread. Bear with me ...

Here! It's quite a way down the thread but just search for 'quicky'. quiche as quicky debacle

its betterave in French, which is quite sweet. "Let me introduce my betterave."

@Shodan Tut! I bet your lot say "Mowett" et Chandon as well :o

My kids used to pray my Mum wouldnt serve them quiche for their dinner. They used to snort and choke all through the meal if she asked them, "Now then, who's for a nice piece of keech?"

Grimma..... your post has prevented my poor child from falling asleep on me as I laughed so hard

My dp is similar.... he purposefully says words wrong as he knows it annoys me and says odd thinks like 'dunkey' instead of 'donkey' (how odd is it that the word donkey comes up in conversation often enough to annoy me? ) and pronounces 'they're' and 'there' the same.

But he makes up for it in other ways so I have decided to view the above as 'cute idiosyncrasies' as opposed to 'disrespectful obscenities'

I think there may be additional confusion between Flan and a flan

(am I helping?)