Now this might not work for everyone - but if it helps a couple of you the HOORAH !!!
I have been concerned that I had surendered to the minutae of motherhood - tiredness/lethagy etc - and the need for a good book rather than a good bonk at bed time ...
I felt that my relationship with DH needed a bit of pizzazz - so decided to go to my local homeopath/"rescue remedy" shop .....
The delightful lady sugested Damiana ( usually recoemmended to blokes ) ....
Well within a week - our love life has been totally transformed. I mean TOTALLY !!
We have gone from once a month to thre times within the last 4 days!! And it's tasteful ( no that's the wrong word!! ) perhaps I should say subtle. None of this "Whoar I feel horny feeling" - but more of a "I dont mind spending an extra half hour with DH before I enjoy my much needed sleep"
And you know what blokes are like ... he feels more loved and is now more attentive and chatty ... so every one wins ....
Just thought I'd mention it - as I so visit threads complining about the lack of intimacy ... HTH