It's two years tomorrow since I left my husband

[bustersmummy]

That's it really.

Oh happy I left

But sad that I put up with so much for so long.

I just hadn't realised until today that I was actually two years.

I might just do that well a coz I don't drink. but yes

congratulations !

Thanks.

It's been an interesting two years (well nearly) and it's not been easy but I am a million billion times happier

Well done. It is a scary step to take but so worth it in the end. It isn't easy but can be easier than staying in a miserable situation.

"...a million billion times happier....."

Well thank goodness for that bustersmummy only twice as happy would never have done!

Well done!

That inspires so many of us buster! Thank you!

You are an inspiration to us all. I am only a week in and it hurts alot but it will get better.

thanks folks.

It is two years TODAY since I left.

I am feeling a bit weird but OK

Two years is a long time. I bet you have achieved so much in that time. Embrace your happiness, it is priceless. Why not give yourself a bit of a treat? I always do (16 yrs in June since I left ex). I don't make a big deal of it but I do it just for me!

I haven't said anything to anyone in RL because I don't want to make a big deal of it.

I was thinking (bad mother alert) of making the kids something easy for tea and eating my favourite take away (Indian - he hated it) later on

Or is that just too cringeworthy and naff?

No, that's good - why not? It just needs to mark the occasion and make sure you remember exactly how strong you are and the great life you have built for yourself

So Indian it is then

See the indian as a reward for the last 2 years of making things better for you and your children.

Well done!

(5 years next month for me and as they say time flies when you're having fun!)

It will be two years for me next week. It's a pity I can't send a little note back to my past self to say "Really, it won't be as bad as you think. And it's definitely the right thing to do".

why did you leave him?
Indian food is always a fine reward

for you too, nickname

congratulations. i always mark the day in some small way so that i remember it. it feels special. the anniversary of the day i reclaimed my life and my sanity. this might sound extreme to others who don't know that i recognise your screen name from the EA thread.

nickname, yeah wish i could have told myself 'you will never regret leaving'. WHY i thought i would regret it i don't know!!

good idea, i might celebrate my four year anniversay with an indian takeaway. do they deliver cobra?

I left because he emotionally abused me for years and years, belittled me in public, told me I was worthless, mocked my views and opinions, contradicted me, gaslighted me, used me as a scapegoat for everything, never stood up for me to his mother/father/wider family, put that wider family first before me and our children...

Actually Valium, my local indian just might

wow, you are well rid. extra poppadums !

I could go on and on.

He criticized everything I did, from the clothes I wore, to the food I cooked, to the way I loaded the washing machine and dishwasher.

There was ways he liked things done, and everything had to be done the way he expected.

He didn't hit me, so it wasn't abuse you see