It's two years tomorrow since I left my husband

[bustersmummy]

That's it really.

well done

Its 2yrs tomorrow that I booted my Ex H out

8 months since I left and I am SO HAPPY!

I never thought it would be so much more relaxed.

I don't get up tight.

I hardly ever cry.

I am rarely angry (well other than kids mess but you know what I mean)

The sense of overwhelming frustration and rage that trying to live with him engendered is gone.

I can suit myself without fear of censure - like eat Indian food

That is really lovely to read

I have said it on another thread - I thought (because I was told so for so long) that I was up-tight and needed to learn to relax.

DP/BF cannot believe how easy going I am he says I'm the most chilled out partner he's ever had.

I'll have a lamb dopiaza with mushroom rice, cheers

No bother AF

Mine's a boring Tikka with pilau rice and poppadoms and dips and nan bread.

Anyone else?

I'm getting it delivered so we can all have a very unusual for me glass of

Chicken jalfrezi with pilau rice and a garlic naan please. Oh, and a couple of Cobras too
My ex was violent once because I boiled an egg and he didn't like the smell of it. I think of that EVERY time I boil eggs now, even after all this time.
I wonder why some people (and your ex isn't alone in this unfortunately) don't see emotional abuse as abuse. That was much harder to get over ime than the physical & sexual stuff.

I find it very hard to get him out of my head - does that make sense?

DP finds it peculiar some of the stuff that I find strange - like (and I know this is funny) but it gets me every time he gets out of bed to make the tea/coffee. The Ex never ever did this. That was my job. Making tea/coffee was below him.

DP makes the tea quite frequently. It also gets me that DP thanks me for everything I do for him - if I cook for example he thinks it's great Ex never did he would've been criticizing the cooking, the way I did it, the way I cleaned or the order I cooked it in or

Oh I'm rambling ignore me lol

lazarusb, I'll have the same...perhaps a bottle of dry white though...and lots of popadums to start...

I find it very hard to get him out of my head - does that make sense?

that makes total sense to me...

I think that's the hardest thing and it can still pull me up short even now.

Getting him out of my head I mean.

stuff your head with curry

a bit flippant, soz

I understand, honestly

Stuff my head with curry

I like that plan

Suggestions on a postcard of what you'd like to stuff your ex's head with.

dog shit

Nice AF, Nice...

first thing that occurred to me...

You sound really happy bustersmummy :)

Congratulations on your two year freedom anniversary!

There's a bottle of fizz in my fridge which would go nicely with your curry celebration.

< nicks bottle and swigs it >

Thanks Bibi and everyone - it feels odd to think it's so long though

In some ways it's like yesterday, in other ways it's a lifetime.

Oi!!! Blardy hell, some people will have anything away if it's not nailed down

what does gaslighted mean? glad you've escaped, congratulations on your anniversary!

this is gaslighting

< burrrrrps >