I recently had a big fall out with my dh over something quite trivial (I sorted it out later the same day). He really blew his top, swearing and shouting at me. Our dd1 and dd2 (both preschool) were in the other room and saw everything. I didn?t retaliate because of the kids but he said some awful things and I think he was totally out of order especially on the swearing and shouting in front of the kids.
We were supposed to go out that evening (his friends party) and I?d made all sorts of arrangements but because of this row he told me I wasn?t going but he was.
I know there were probably other issues on his mind that had built up but I am really fed up with his behaviour, this is not the first time this has happened, he seems to keep things inside and they all come out at once. He?s always tired and seems to want to do cleaning or DIY rather than have a day out with the family.
I don?t think this behaviour is acceptable especially around the kids; he?s a grown man with a family of his own, he shouldn?t be having tantrums and sulking??!!
I think one of the problems is that there are no consequences to his actions, don?t speak to me like that or else.. There?s no or else. After a few days he?ll be back to normal but I?m really fed up of this, everybody has their problems but surely you have some level of respect in how you speak to your partner?
Any suggestions on how to deal with this, I?ve looked at counselling but it?s more expensive than I thought. I don?t want to split up but I can?t carry on like this, I especially don?t want the kids witnessing their Dad being aggressive and to their mum!