Yes he reads all of my text messages which i am perfectly fine with
But you SHOULDNT be fine with that. You are entitled to privacy. I have been married ten years and dont go through my husbands phone, nor does he go through mine.
He left it here today went he went to work. I didnt even realise until it rang. It wouldnt occur to me to look through it.
he said he only started a realtionship with me because he thought dd's dad was out of the picture and he could take on that role
he thinks i should be restricting dd from seeing her dad as much, this is somethingi said i didn't agree with and he didn't like it
He has got very major issues here, and I would say it is going to be very difficult to get him to rethink his behaviour.
Did you allow him to think that he was going to take on the role, simply because at that time you didnt expect her father to come back on the scene? That may partly explain why he feels his nose is a bit out of joint now but it doesnt mean it excuses his behaviour, nor was it your fault, because at that time, that is how you expected things to pan out I suspect.
Things change though, and it would always have been a possibility that at some point her dad would be back in her life. He cant be airbrushed out of your, or her, past, and nor should he be.
Now that he has a child of your own, he should be able to be more understanding of the complexity of raising a child and how he might feel if you split up and your next bloke wants to erase him out of his sons life. Explain to him that you would never allow that to happen, (I would also say if he isnt careful he might be in that position of being the ex if he continues to be jealous and controlling).