affairs and happy marriages

[flamingo]

If you have a truly happy marriage, could you be tempted to have an affair?

An ex of mine always maintained that oral sex didn't amount to infidelity......

like clinton then...

Technically true I guess!

What about snogging?

snogging nothing is it..

Still a no no for me.

oops forgot an s

Dunno have not even had a snog with anyone other than DH for 14 years, maybe should try harder!

I'd be just as upset if DH snogged someone else as I would if he'd slipped her the stiff one eye. Perhaps if he (or I) was drunk I could let a snog go, hopefully I'll never have to find out what I'd do in that situation.

What a charming turn of phrase WSM

Always was a lady

The way I look at it is...any sexual contact (even kissing) is 'wrong'. It implies that you do not have any consideration for the feelings of your partner. However, fantasies are acceptable. God, the number of times I've fancied another man. So what, I have desires. Maybe if I got more sex from dh I wouldn't, but I don't believe that for one second.

I'm with Ghosty - I meant what I promised when I got married. I have a truly happy marriage and no one w/could ever compare to dh.

does anyone have a friend they KNOW they would sleep with if they weren't happily married?

Countess I am with beetroot on this point, I would be devo'd.

flamingo, you must be joking.One of dh's friends just needs a fishing rod in his hand and he would be a perfect garden gnome.He looks like an elf.