My partner is an arse right?

[uniquegeek]

I posted recently on AIBU re my boyfriend who didn't buy me a birthday card or present but happily let me pay for his spa on my birthday.
When I got upset about his lack of consideration he got angry.
Anyway last night I read his facebook page and he'd posted a public statement about if he should move towns or not. I got upset about this as I felt he should talk to me first. This is the first I'd heard of it.We had a row. I said I really needed him right now as my mum is dying. I asked him to come round so at leat we can talk about our differences. My dad told me yesterday and we are devastated.He didn't come round and comfort me but instead ignored my calls and de=friended me on facebook. Whenever we row he stonewalls like mad. i don't feel anything. I'm numb. This man is a not worth it is he?

[PeterAndreForPM]

yes, it was a great post from mumonthenet

[mumonthenet]

Just a thought and I don't want to hassle you. You're figuring this out quite well on your own!

The lovely post for your birthday was on Facebook yes? So everybody else could see it, - or your mutual friends and your individual friends could see it, (assuming neither of you have selected the privacy level where no-one can see anything)

Call me cynical but, this is another red flag....a guy like this wants to believe he's OK, (this is why he doesn't like you criticising him). So the nice stuff...he makes sure it's public.

The payoff there for him was that everyone would think...."aww, how sweet he is...how romantic...look how good he is to her....he writes such lovely things to her"... etc etc bla bla.

[toomuchmonthatendofthemoney]

a lovely birthday message ... on facebook?

not said to your face, in a card, or on a gift tag attached to a well wrapped box of something carefully chosen for you?

hmm, me thinks he would rather the world thought he was ace than bother to actually DO something to make his partner happy. attention seeking wanker. dump and run, girl, dump and run.

[toomuchmonthatendofthemoney]

ah sorry xpost, mumonthenet said the same thing i was thinking, but rather better, sorry!

[blackeyedsusan]

how are you today? i am really sorry to hear about your mum, you must be devastated, if not still in shock.

this, hopefully soon to be ex partner should have pulled out all the stops for you when you found out your mum was dying. that is incredibaly hard. mums are irreplaceable, you need support. have you got any other support in rl. i really hope that you have some good friends. Such a shame that you have got more support from strangers on a website than from your partner. says a lot about him..

[mumonthenet]

toomuch

...it's not just me then.

Hope you're ok unique.

[uniquegeek]

He's started the grovelling already. I have told him to get stuffed. He just dosn't get it.

[garlicbutter]

FFS, post it on Facebook. That seems to be the only thing he counts as real.