I know this isn't really a MN thing but can someone please hold my hand.

[ShortArseFuck]

My DP is coming over this afternoon around 2pm and I am going to tell him what my XH did, and what he's continuing to do

I really need my hand holding I'm scared shitless

I know you're not and I really really appreciate the support.

It's nice to see someone who has got where I want to get

And now I sound like a stalker

From the other thread : (I cba to type it all again feel drained)

ShortArseFuck Sun 27-Mar-11 20:48:22

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRr

Just in from dropping DD's up to XH as he takes them to school on a Monday morning as I have an early start.

DP came with me - we went in his car, he drove.

XH did this face --> when he saw the different car.

Dropped kids, all their stuff.

didn't look at XH didn't speak

He said "All OK?"

(DP had passenger window down on car to listen but didn't get out of the car)

I said "Fine"

He said "anything I need to know"

"Nope"

(I turned to walk away)

"Can I just confirm that you have filled in the census correctly?"

Just kept walking said kind of dismissively "We have already discussed this"

Into the car and drove away.

Feel totally drained.

big hugs OP he sounds like a total dickhead you're a stronger person than me not to have hit him when he said that patronising comment about the census.

He is a dick. It was just to see if he'd get a rise out of me - I know that but GOD IT WAS SO HARD NOT TO REACT

Had my hand in my pocket and made a fist as I got back into the car.

But I just need to remember not to react and I think DP will do drop offs either with me or on his own from now on.

(If you can be arsed to look I have another thread going)

This census thing is very bizarre, while most everyone else seems to be wondering if they should put down their religion as Jedhi Knight he is obsessing over where the girls are marked down.

Anyway, he's not "normal" clearly and the advice has to be detach, detach, detach, as in the favourite Mumsnet article by Dr Joe Carver
www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/IdentifyingLosers.html

SAF - sorry i've missed this weekend's, but I laughed at this :
"I'm 41

He's nearly 50

He thinks he's too old."

My DH is nearly 50 (as in two months off) - we've just conceived baby number 1.
(i'm younger than you, but if you've already had a DC, then you're less likely to have problems)

worth discussing it....

and, I'm glad that you're being strong.

You're going the right way.
xx

Short My OH was just 47 when I got pregnant with our daughter - I was just shy of 44. For all his life he'd never wanted to get married or have children. Six weeks after we met, he proposed. Five months later I was pregnant. He was like a little boy, dancing around and so, so happy..... Fifty is the new thirty doncha know!

Well done SAF You took the wind out of his sails and put yourself in the position of control My dh did all the handovers in the end (about 8 years worth), it was such a major cause of stress for me and it was great to be able to take that step back from it and just not deal with them face to face any more. You are on the first step to your new life. Now have the baby talk