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Original poster

hands up who had sex with their DPs on 1st/2nd date

86 replies

Anais53 · 20/03/2011 12:44

Just want a bit of reassurance really that sex from the get go isn't necessarily the kiss of death for a relationship.

Last night I had sex on the second date with a guy who seems absolutely lovely but I can't stop thinking that he'll just think I'm an easy lay and that'll be that. He has asked to see me again though :)

I'm no spring chick and should know better I suppose but it felt so right and this morning was lovely.

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woollyjo · 20/03/2011 13:31

Hmmm ......we may have had a shagfest which turned into a relationship....oh well 9 years and DC later it seems ok (he was my bit of fun for the summer Blush)

woollyjo · 20/03/2011 13:32

That would be 3 DC later

esssi · 20/03/2011 13:37

First date, but we had met each other through friends 2 times previously. Best thing I ever did as it all felt so right.

Previously I had waited for longer the 'waiting' contributed to too much overanalysing of their personality traits and whether we were compatible. I think this put too much pressue on the newly forming relationship and these never turned into long term relationships anyway.

Then I met my DH i threw all caution to the wind and we did it on the first date together. When we first met each other there was a real sense of 'knowing him' and we felt truely comfortable together. This was the one and only first date scenario for me and over 10 years later we are still very happy.

IngridBergmann · 20/03/2011 13:39

good luck Anais Smile

the times I've done this it hasn't worked, but that doesn't mean it can't. The men in question were after one thing.

My longest relationship it took us 6 months.

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Anais53 · 20/03/2011 13:41

Lovely story esssi. I felt really comfortable with him too, he'd been telling me earlier in the evening that a lot of women he'd been on dates with him had labelled him very "quiet". I didn't feel that at all, he just seems to think before he talks and when he does talk, he's really interesting and it makes sense.

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iwastooearlytobeayummymummy · 20/03/2011 13:42

Silver wedding here too!
I joke that it was one night stand that went very badly wrong, 4 dc, massive overdraft and a mortgage Grin
still love him, and fancy him

alexpolismum · 20/03/2011 14:28

1st meeting, after I'd known him for perhaps 4 hours. 11 years and 3 children later, we are still going strong! Smile. (although not so much sex since I gave birth to ds2 Sad, sure it will bounce back soon, though!)

controlpantsandgladrags · 20/03/2011 14:33

Technically DH and I had sex for the 1st time before our first date. I had known him for a few weeks and chatted lots to him.

We've been together 10 years and married for 5. Going through a rough patch at the moment but I know we'll be fine because we both agree that we can't imagine life without each other.

unfitmother · 20/03/2011 14:38

I though DH could turn out to be a 'keeper' so was determined not to have sex with him too soon.
I waited until our second date - that was 18yrs ago.

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Anais53 · 20/03/2011 16:21

All these messages are making me feel glad I slept with
him. I did it because it felt right and if he buggers off I'll know that he wasn't that into me. So a win-win situation really. Will be disappointed if he does, but not gutted.

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Bellagio · 20/03/2011 16:31

Holiday shag, 16 years and counting
Grin

higgle · 20/03/2011 16:43

Yes, the first evening we were together! we met on a sailing holiday and headed for my bunk after dinner. Now married 26 years.

sunndydays · 20/03/2011 16:46

4 hours here, have been together over 4 years and have dd 8 months

Taghain · 20/03/2011 17:47

2nd date, (bed and petting only on 1st date Blush ), we've been together 30-something years.

VivaLeBeaver · 20/03/2011 17:51

Me, kind of.

Actually we had sex before our first date. Blush

I had known him as a friend for a while though.

colditz · 20/03/2011 17:53

here.

been together two years.

colditz · 20/03/2011 17:53

In fact, it was only the second time I had met him and I met him on t'internet.

squeakytoy · 20/03/2011 18:01

2nd date, and been married nearly ten years. we had known each other as friends for a couple of years and fancied each other though...

merrywidow · 20/03/2011 18:09

waited 24 years for DP Grin, but boy has it been worth it. Do I get a prize?

Mumbybumby · 20/03/2011 18:21

I did on 1st date (invited him back to mine as well - very out of character!)
Only guy I ever slept with that quickly.

Glad I did though - now 5 years and 2 DC down the line :o

juicychops · 20/03/2011 19:22

i did! although i had known him for 10 years and we had 'been there' before in the past

thebody · 20/03/2011 19:53

I had sex with dh after 30 mins.. we did know each other before though.. just needed privacy!! married for 23 years and 3 kids. (oldest 22 lol). who cares... what the hell is 'easy'.. how silly.. how old fashioned...and how funny..

cowboylover · 20/03/2011 19:57

We did before it was even a date after knowing each other for 2 days at college. I e
Invited him to my house, he arrived when top of the pops was on and in bed before eastenders.

We have taken everything else more slowly but together 9 years, lived together 5 years, married for 1 and now 32 weeks pregnant and been super happy since we met so good luck and enjoy it x

Ladyboak · 20/03/2011 20:01

I did ! On the second date and 9 years after we are still together and still love each other and we have 2 dds !

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