im new to this, a friend reccommended it to me, and so far its taken me about 45 minutes to figure out how to go about it all.
heres my "problem"
me and my partner have a 16 month old beautiful girl, and before her wonderful arrival we always shared a very passionate exciting, adventerous sex life.
but ever since the birth of my child i cannot face sex, i enjoy making love and cuddling, kissing and being closely intimate, but when my partner suggests some of the things we used to enjoy i.e (sorry if this is too crude) role play, dressing up, anal, toys etc etc, i feel sick to my stomach.
i feel so terrible about it that even when he suggests it or sends me little texts about it, i cant delete the filth off my phone quick enough.
what is it? is this a normal part of having children? i want to get back what we once had but i either have to be ridiculously drunk to do it, or do it to keep him happy.
we constantly argue over it, im forever in tears over it, and i just dont understand why ive changed so much.
i wish i knew why sex seems repulsing to me now, i feel bad about doing it, because im a mum. does that make sense?
i still fancy my partner and love him to bits but i just dont want to feel like his little whore! and i dont want to argue over it anymore.
worst still, my fears of him straying to find a more adventerous lover terrifys me.
perhaps this is a phase wll woman go through? but 16 months of the same thing is starting to make me doubt its any kind of phase.
thanks for reading