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really weird phone call

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 20:44

Hi, I live on my own with my DS and today got a phone call from a company called 'swingers uk' who said they were ringing to confirm a party booking, made in my name and from my phone number and from my address for some party involving S&M and anal. I got really freaked out by it and can't understand it at all. They said the call was made on a date about 2 weeks ago by phone at a time when I would either have just been back from work or my mum would have been here looking after my DS.

There is a man in my life who I've just had a big row with and I wondered if he could have done some nasty prank but they said it was 2 weeks ago that the 'booking' was made so unless he got them to say that it doesn't ring true.

I have looked back at my emails and web browsing on that date but again nothing and apparently it was by phone.

I don't know what to think?

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:09

I have now called the police - not sure what they'll do about it if anything. Now that I have said what happened with the man I was seeing - does it seem likely to you that it was him?

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TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 22:13

Hmm he sounds normal so maybe not him but then again I don't actually know him. Only you can decide that. Speak to some friends and see what they think?

squeakytoy · 08/03/2011 22:30

I would say it doesnt sound like something he would do from what you have posted, but then you dont know him that well, and we dont know him at all.

Is there anyone else, mates maybe who could be doing it as a wind up?

If you have facebook, I would maybe put something on your status about "whoever did the prank call, best you own up now before I involve the police"... (they dont need to know you already have called the police..)

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:33

I am tempted to do that on facebook but I only have about 60 friends so it is implying it is one of them (he is on my facebook though).

I admit I was a complete pain in the arse on sunday night when I couldn't sleep but he was so furious with me that he barely spoke when he left on Monday which seems a bit over the top seeing as we had had sex on Sunday night.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:33

I am sure none of my other friends would do that.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:35

I am tempted to put 'whoever did that this evening, best own up now because I am going to involve the police' without saying it was a phone call.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:39

would you really put it on facebook???

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TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 22:42

I can't imagine someone being furious with no sleep would prank call like this. Seems a bit over the top.

Are you sure you can't think of anyone who would do this?

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:45

I really can't think of anyone else. I hope it's not him but he was furious and it wasn't obviously helped by our conversation earlier when I'd said I'd been having second thoughts etc. He also hasn't contacted me since his very angry text yesterday. Putting that on facebook seems like a good idea but also a bit extreme as I don't have that many fb friends.

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TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 22:46

I don't think you should post it on fb tbh

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:48

he also said in his text that he is now having second thoughts about seeing me about again after keeping him up on Sunday night.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:49

thank you - no I don't think I will. I wish I knew though because I am seriously freaked out by the calls (did I say there were two phone calls, one straight after the other?)

And I would have major problems seeing him again if there is a chance it was him.

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zikes · 08/03/2011 22:50

It's one weird prank-call. I think I'd just try not to worry and let it go.

I wouldn't put it on FB as if it's him, he'll know he's got to you.

It might have been a one-off, so I'd just wait and see.

NotaMopsa · 08/03/2011 22:51

'something about s&m and anal'

Maybe you misheard as you were a bit flustered and she actually said she'd been to 'M & S for bagels'?

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:54

NotaMopsa - I wish!!

I didn't mishear though Shock

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JeremyVile · 08/03/2011 22:59

When you called the phone people, couldn't they tell you the number that called you?

I'm dying to know what on earth you did on sunday night to keep him awake that so infuriated him... i'm imaging some heavy irish dancing by his side of the bed while poking him with a big muddy stick.

Thingumy · 08/03/2011 23:01

'he also said in his text that he is now having second thoughts about seeing me about again after keeping him up on Sunday night'

I would be telling him to fuck off.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 23:06

JeremyVile - I just tossed and turned and told him several times that I couldn't sleep till eventually I tried to sleep in the spare room. I think he is very pissed off and hurt that I said I was having second thoughts, he knew I wasn't that attracted to him etc.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 23:07

No the phone company just said that the police could request the number if they took it further.

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NotaMopsa · 08/03/2011 23:09

tbh i would just chill and leave it be
leave him be too - he sounds annoying

JeremyVile · 08/03/2011 23:10

Well it really comes down to how keen you are to get to the bottom of this then.

Just out of sheer curiosity I think i'd ask the police to get the number.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 23:13

I think the police will if they think it is worth pursuing. I am keen to get to the bottom of it.

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JeremyVile · 08/03/2011 23:14

I reckon the police would follow it up, because there is/could be an element of sexual harassment.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 23:18

JeremyVile - I presume you are a man? do you know any men who have done this kind of thing - it is horrible because I live on my own with my DS.

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ShavingGodfreysPrivates · 09/03/2011 00:29

I'm a bit confused here (nothing new there then).

You told him you weren't particularly attracted to him sexually and then slept with him the same night?

I can imagine lots of men would be a bit pissed off if their 'performance' wasn't really appreciated, possibly enough to get someone to do a prank call.

All seems a bit of a coincidence.

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