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really weird phone call

149 replies

livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 20:44

Hi, I live on my own with my DS and today got a phone call from a company called 'swingers uk' who said they were ringing to confirm a party booking, made in my name and from my phone number and from my address for some party involving S&M and anal. I got really freaked out by it and can't understand it at all. They said the call was made on a date about 2 weeks ago by phone at a time when I would either have just been back from work or my mum would have been here looking after my DS.

There is a man in my life who I've just had a big row with and I wondered if he could have done some nasty prank but they said it was 2 weeks ago that the 'booking' was made so unless he got them to say that it doesn't ring true.

I have looked back at my emails and web browsing on that date but again nothing and apparently it was by phone.

I don't know what to think?

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TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:14

I thought that caughtinanet but then it's a bit of an odd thing to do.

Must be a wind up!

TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:16

How would they know the exact time Confused

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 21:17

I have no idea about how they would know the exact time but perhaps they track all phone calls if they aren't a hoax company. Thing is I know for sure that neither my mum, myself or my 7 year old DS would have made a phone call like that!

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Mouseface · 08/03/2011 21:18

It could be on their records Tragically

Assuming that they exist.

OP - unless they call again, chalk it up to a hoax and leave it.

Maybe let Virgin know about it, tell them you want to make sure you are TPS or ex directory..... or their version.

I'm sure it's a wind up.

TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:18

You sure it's not your mum? Wink

caughtinanet · 08/03/2011 21:19

If it were genuine I suppose they might keep very detailed records of bookings as I imagine they'd get timewasters and disputes about bookings.

The only way they'd know it was definitely from your number was if they have some king of caller display - do Virgin numbers show up ?

Thingumy · 08/03/2011 21:20

Here-

Virgin Media?s Nuisance Call Bureau (NCB) will help you, if you have been a victim of a nuisance and/or malicious phone call. You will need to call their free phone number and ask for the NCB on 0800 953 3333.

TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:20

So if someone makes a booking the company would take down the time? Seems a bit odd to me!

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 21:20

could someone have made a phone call to this company (ie the man I was seeing) in the last 48 hours and got them to have pretended I called them on 14 feb. That sounds far fetched too.

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TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:22

I would imagine for a place like that they would take deposits to stop jokers and time wasters

caughtinanet · 08/03/2011 21:23

Did they try to ask you for any money or where they just checking details ?

LittleMissHissyFit · 08/03/2011 21:25

It's all bollocks.

You think this was booked on the 14th because they are telling you it is.

You think this is a company, because they are telling you it is.

You googled the company and it doesn't exist.

There is no company, there is no party. There is absolutely no further contact with this sicko ex of yours.

This is a wind up perpetuated by this guy you have rowed with.

Have you tried 1471? is there a number or is it number with-held? If anyone calls you, say you are in the middle of something and can you call them back. Withold YOUR number and call the number back.

itsohsoquiet · 08/03/2011 21:29

It's a wind up.

If you are sure they said Swingers UK then the company doesn't even exist.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 21:29

I have just called Virgin who advised me to call the police, they also confirmed to me that no call was made from here at that time and day.

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Mouseface · 08/03/2011 21:32

There you go then.

Wind up. Not a nice one but more in jest than harm I'd say.

itsohsoquiet · 08/03/2011 21:34

I wouldn't call the police for a hoax call alone.

If you have other reasons to suggest that this guy is dangerous then yes, otherwise I wouldn't.

TragicallyHip · 08/03/2011 21:36

Do you really think this bloke would get someone to prank call you like this? Seems your well rid if that's the case!

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 21:39

well it seems extreme that he would do that. i don't know what to think.

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LittleMissHissyFit · 08/03/2011 21:42

What happened between you and him for him to do this?

LittleMissHissyFit · 08/03/2011 21:42

.. no harm in asking... [nosey] Wine

VivaLeBeaver · 08/03/2011 21:48

Swingers uk is or was a forum/website. But they didn't book parties.

squeakytoy · 08/03/2011 21:53

Its someone winding you up!

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:01

I was seeing this guy but I just didn't think there was enough chemistry between us (I tried really hard to fancy him as he seemed lovely) - whenever we slept together I just wasn't into it enough. On Saturday I cancelled seeing him as I just didn't think it was right. On Sunday he came round and I tried to explain it as well as I could, that I thought we had rushed into sleeping with each other, that he wasn't like other exes I had had (that I had had messed up relationships etc and that he seemed nice etc but sexually it wasn't there yet for me...)

We went to bed and a bit of a disaster partly because I started my period in the night - all a bit chaotic. Then to make matters worse, I couldn't sleep and had a major day at work ahead of me. I was literally awake all night. I got so desperate to sleep I woke him several times and finally tried to sleep in the spare room to give him some peace but came back in my room because I thought he would be offended.

He went in the morning barely speaking to me and has since texted me furious that I kept him up all night. I have apologised but heard nothing back.

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livinginthesticks · 08/03/2011 22:02

so that's what happened with him and it seems odd that it would warrant a nasty phone call but it seems the most likely explanation?

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NonnoMum · 08/03/2011 22:06

Actually, I agree with your phone company and I would phone the police (non-emergency number).

This is a freaky (non-funny) wind-up made to unsettle you and has a sexual content.

And agree with LittleMiss.