things went too far with a work colleague and not sure how to act when we meet

[KidderminsterKate]

About 3 weeks ago a member of my team visited me at lunch time. I've been working at home since my DH left me (used to be office based) and we work in the same team. They were in the area near where I live doing a site visit so came round for lunch and to drop off some work stuff/ take some back to the office.

Anyhow - not sure how it happened but things got heated and I'm a bit embarrassed about it all and have sort of pretended it didn't happen. He texted me later that day but we've had not contact since..other than work related correspondence.

I suppose whats prompted me to post is that we have a team meeting on Mon and I'm not sure how to act, whether to say anything or not.....

Are you going to sleep with him in April?

of course she is

Not too late to drop out is it? Say you just realised your parents were going away and you havent got childcare after all.

no I'm not going to sleep with him and I dont wear cheap perfume

and I have to do a certain amount if site visits as part of my job - usually overnight and occasionally it takes more than 1 of us. I try to do mine in school hols as it is logistically easier so i havent manoevered anything. Didnt even realise it was a two person job when I took the visit.

I dont really want to go with him if he thinks its going to be that sort of trip but not sure how to say that without it looking like i think he thinks that iykwim?

Just carry on as normal and don't get yourself in a situation where you find yourself shagging him.

"find yourself" shagging him ?

oh please

You know I didn't mean it that way, PAFPM!

you were being ironic then ?

as in "try not to fall onto his penis"

??

yes ?

I was expecting her to come back and say it just happened. Like she had no control over it.

Usually there is a bit of notice before you are shagging.

< phew > thank god for that

Of course they will have sex again-op is gagging for it to happen(otherwise you would have told him in no uncertain terms to beat it). Just remember-what goes around comes around.....

PA.

I am your biggest fan and would never say anything to get you cross or get the face of you .

My biggest fan you say ? I am looking for a new mysterious girl ..the last one fucked off with all my St Tropez and bling.

And she keeps putting make up on my kids !

Oh God, no, not PA's biggest fan, your biggest fan!!!

I am he

< rubs six pack suggestively >

don't be shy..we could make a whole new world together...

I am LOL but scared too.

don't be scared, I will be very gentle

I will have to postpone. I don't feel very well.

I can help you with that

I have special medicine

well - I've bitten the bullet and rang him this morning. Pretty much said there would be no repeat performance and we should put it behind us. He asked if it was because he had a partner but it isnt. Too complicated and not enough time to start a relationship - let alone on thats waaay too complicated.

Uo to him whether he does the trip now

phew....feel better

and yes - it did just happen....

Well done. Just one thing though: you may have to watch your back at work given that he seems to have wanted more horizontal action with you. Sometimes rejected men get vengeful and he might start rumours about you or decide to 'confess' to his GF and blame you.
Of course he may be reasonable about it, and even if he does mouth off it may blow over easily enough. but just be aware that it's possible.

thanks

I hadnt thought about that....but I have an excellent manager who is v pragmatic and sensible so hopefully if that happened it would be resolved.