I want to RANT : Pi**ed off with doing everything with no help from DH!!

[jac34]

I'm just realy annoyed today as DH has gone off to play golf(as he does every Sunday), and while he's out he's expecting me to clear all the garden for the Winter,paint all the fences and shed.
I do all the gardening because he hates it but,... SO DO I. I've mowed the lawn, done the borders and cut the hedges all summer and now I'm completely fed up.It looked realy cold out this morning, so I didn't fancy it, plus my DS's were nagging me to do something with them, so I just thought, Oh bugger the garden and the DS's and I have been baking instead.
Yesterday I spent the whole day clearing, cleaning and even moved a bed(alone),into the spare room as my Mum is coming to stay next week. I'd been trying to get him to help me for weeks but he always had something more important to do, so I just got fed up nagging and did it myself, which is what I always end up doing.

I just know when he comes home he'll say"Oh, you didn't do the garden then?", and if he does I think I'll kill him

Do you know, jac, I'd just logged on to start a rant thread about DPs while mine was at the pub - and you've already done it for me!

I think we should all contribute the stupidest thing DP has ever said: here's my offering "Oh I wish I could spend more time with the baby..."
Answer: "Then why don't you?"

Did yours say anything about the garden? And have you killed him yet? All you need is a jury with a majority of women.

My dh has been out all day doing 'boys' things and has the audacity to come home completely knackered expecting sympathy. Did he get any? No way!!

Tell him to eff off if he dares mention it. If he wants the fences painted he can do it himself. Rather than expect you to do it while you've got the kids and he's off playing.

Don't let him think it's OK if he goes off and enjoys himself while you work - unless you have a system where he then does jobs for the family while you go off and enjoy yourself. Don't let him get away with it.

totally agree with Edam. My family and friends are amazed when I 'let' dh out to play at the weekends, until I point out that I regualrly bugger off for girly weekends so if I put my foot down then I wouldn't be able to go

I spent 4 hours today cooking. Didnt ask me to i know but i did a roast, made my own applie pie from scratch, made my own custard from scratch, made my own gravy from scratch.

After all that, i had to keep getting up and down during eating to deal with DS who is 6 mths and is teething.

At the end of the dinner (he got the hump and stormed off in strop because i dared to tell him to go deal with our DD's strop) he walked off and hasnt bothered with said applie pie and custard. All the washing up is still left to do. He is upstairs on PC now. He will say later tonight "I'll do that in the morning".

I know for a fact, same as usual, HE WONT.

Why do i bother?

Any apple pie left? I'll help with the washing-up.

Well May as well add my bit, my dp has sat on the playstation all day while i have cut the lawn, sucked up the leaves, tidied all cluter and cleaned house and sorted ds!

I am also 6.5 months pregnant

Almost all of it - you are most welcome to it!

Oh QueenVic - my dh does that. We had friends round last night and I cooked dinner. This morning he washed the easy dishes but tonight, yes tonight, after I've spent all day working in the office I've washed all the pans.

am aslo cross with my dh
he has a cold ffs not some seious illnes grrr

oh yes nothing worse than a dh with a cold. They think they're dying, that no one ever had a cold before and after moaning/whining all day snore all night and keep you awake. Oh yes, i've been there

horror horror

Ooh - he must be in a HUUUUGE strop - he has started to do the washing up. He must be peeved if he'd rather do washing up than sit in the same room as me!

AM HUFFING OFF TO read my book and not watch a dvd wit him

Quick rescue apple pie QV

Mine's had flu(sic) for three weeks poor lovie. Won't go to the doc's, because he'll be a medical miracle and he's too modest. Bless.

OMG.

Would your DHs put up with being treated like this?!

Grrrr can't stand that 'I'll do it in the morning' thing, drives me up the wall.

But, the other night, instead of doing it myself and feeling martyred, I left it - and he really did do it in the morning. Am contemplating relaxing a bit and trusting him to do it. But still grrr as it's such a slack thing to do, leaving dirty dishes out all night. We've got a dishwasher, FFS!

I was talking about this with a rl friend the other day. My dh is used to doing half of the housework, but since ds came has been doing much less, my friend found the same with her dh. Before ds if dh didn't pull his weight I would simply leave the mess until he did clean it up, and for the most part he did help because he knew he had to. But now that we have a child I think he subconsciously feels that he can get away with doing less because I have to clean up to keep ds safe.

I find it very frustrating, but am working out cunning plans to make him suffer.

I wasn't home when he came in I'd taken the DS's over the park.
I did say that I didn't do the garden as I couldn't be arsed, as I never get any help.
In his favour he did say he'd felt a bit guilty while he was out,thinking of me doing the garden on my own.
I don't realy mind the golf on Sundays, it is his only time to himself, and he does spend alot of time with the kids the rest of the week.I also enjoy spending time with the DS's on my own,I miss spending time taking them out on little outings, or baking etc.,now that they are back in school.
He can't go to golf next week as he is picking my Dad up from hospital after an operation, so he's promised that we'll do it together, so we'll see!!!!

Bran, hope you are tapping fingertips together while manically grinning and stroking fluffy white cat. "No, DH, I expect you to die". Of course if your DH isn't into James Bond films it'll all be wasted.

You sound a bit happier, jac. Good luck next weekend! Am going to be sensible, stop grousing about my quite-nice-at-times dp and go to bed night night all.

Actually, I wasn't thinking of anything quite so sophisticated. It was more along the lines of taking a hammer to the dinner plates the next time he puts them in the sink and turns the tap on without scraping them off, even when I've told him that the dishwasher is empty. There's nothing like a bit of random violence to scare the sh*t out of him.

Are you new sestius? You've made me laugh on this thread

Men, pah! I started a moany thread this afternoon too - it's weekends, that's what it is. We get on OK in the week but that's because he's out at work and I can just get on with things without feeling festering resentment at him being here but not doing the things I want him to. All our major rows have been at the weekend...

LOL Bran. Pie rescued sestius!

I did leave the plates the next day after he said they'd be done in the morning. Left them ALL day for him to see when he came home from work.

He walked in and say "This place is a bit of a tip isnt it?"

I told him i'd left it exactly as he had in the morning. He honestly looked shocked!

Nite sestius!